A tiny issue that is bugging me...
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Anonymous
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I am the nanny for a wonderful two-year-old and have been since his birth - I love him and I love my job. But there is one little issue that has started to wear on me.
When DB relieves me at the end of the day, he waits for exactly my quitting time to become available to take over. And I mean not one second sooner. He comes home and does something or other until the exact stroke of my end time and then comes in and asks me about my charge's day. It takes maybe ten minutes to transition. MB wants to be with her child the second she gets home so I never have this issue with her but she only does the hand-off once a week. Look, I know this is stupid but it has been going on for two years. It feels disrespectful to me to always make sure that I do debriefing after he has made sure he has gotten his money's worth from me. |
Anonymous
OP here again and I should make clear that I am never paid for the debriefing/transition time. And I have always arrived five minutes early every morning for my debriefing on the previous evening or weekend and would not expect to be paid for that either. |
Anonymous
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So start leaving on time.
First time: "I'm so sorry but I actually have to leave on time tonight - I wrote down today's update for you." Second time: I can't stay late so I wrote everything down for you. See you tomorrow. Thirdtime: Hi Jim, left the update on the counter for you. See you in the morning. Etc... And/or - when he gets in "Hi Jim, I need to leave on time tonight so can I update you now?" Rinse and repeat. You've allowed it for a while now so it will probably take some time to reset. Also, you can just talk to him/them and say that you really need to start leaving on time so if you can debrief w/ dad the same way you do w/ mom that would be great. Or you can keep a journal for them or send an email at the end of the day or something. You need to retrain. 
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Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| You sound really petty. |
Anonymous
Why. NP. |
Anonymous
Has this all of sudden started bothering you, it has been two years of the same thing Are there other issues and things are starting to pile up? It does not sound like Dad is trying to get his pennies worth, but sense it has been two years he may not think this is an issue and you really should not compare mom and dad to each other The best thing to do is have a professional conversation and not through stones with it, perhaps dad has allot of pressure from work and likes to come home and chill a few minutes before the hand off. Have to agree somewhat with a PP, it is sounding a bit petty |
Anonymous
| I have been a nanny for many years. It has always been the case with my positions that transition time is paid and worked into the schedule. For instance then, the parents would figure they'll get home about 5:20-5:30, so they set your time to leave at 5:45 (for instance). Same with the morning. They have you arrive not when they need to walk out the door, but 10-15 minutes ahead of time. All of it is paid. |
Anonymous
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I'd love to see one of these nannies work a real job for a week and tell their boss at 5pm sharp while talking to him face to face "can we finish this up tomorrow? 5 o'clock is when I leave" or get up and just leave a meeting that runs long.
You demand $20+ an hour for unskilled labor, want to be salaried, your also hourly, and then act so rude and entitled all day long. Just blows my mind. |
Anonymous
So what? I'm sure it doesn't take much to "blow your mind". How about this: learn the difference between "your" and "you're". |
Anonymous
That "your" was supposed to be "yet". |
Anonymous
Yeah... right... You are the same undereducated troll who always haunts this board. BTW our nanny has a masters degree in education and earns $22.50 an hour (with no interest in being salaried). Hardly unskilled labor. |
Anonymous
Masters degree from which country? |
Anonymous
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Back to the topic at hand...I agree with the PP who stated that if the employer wants time to transition, etc., then those minutes are on the clock.
Because if you in fact had a time card that you actually were punching and due to get off at five o'clock, then as soon as the clock hits the five, you should be free to go. Maybe you can simply write everything down in a written log for the Father from now on. If he insists on you staying ten or fifteen minutes later to talk, then he should put his money where his mouth is. Literally. |
Anonymous
LOL. USA, Little Bigot. And a top 20 university at that. She studied for a year at Oxford - but since that is a foreign country, I'm sure you wouldn't count it. |