A tiny issue that is bugging me...
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Anonymous
You're getting a grand bargain then. It's kind of an underachievement to pay for master's from a top uni and still get paid what she does. Unless she actually wants to underachieve. |
Anonymous
NP here and you need to stop embarrassing yourself now, PP. |
Anonymous
You need to get out more, PP. The "nanny world" is changing! Our nanny is American and retired from her previous career after being very successful for 25 years. She is now 60, holds not only a college degree (from a much better school than either DH or I attended) but also two masters degrees. She is very vibrant and energetic and didn't want to sit home so she went back to being a nanny (she was a nanny in France right out of undergraduate school). She raised two great kids and is the world's best nanny for our now two-year-old (she has been with him since birth). She drives a new BMW and lives in our neighborhood. Everyone thinks she is DC's grandmother. A nanny friend of hers is 24, with a BA in Early Childhood Education from UCLA (top school) and just didn't like working in a preschool - so she is a nanny. She is beautiful, athletic, American and loves being a nanny. A librarian in our children's library is leaving in August to become a nanny. Every one thinks she is that child's mother. You sound elderly, PP, and bitter. Just get out more and talk to some of the women caring for children who you assume are their mothers or grandmothers -- you will learn a lot. |
Anonymous
Um, no. Jobs that are hourly can also have guaranteed hours (I've worked a few). If you are hourly, the manager will be kicking you out the door, that way they won't be paying overtime (again, had a few jobs like this). You don't know how much OP makes, you don't know what her credentials, experience and skill set are. Maybe you are salaried (ie. not counting hours at all); in which case, yes, you are paid to sit there and listen. OP is not. |
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Anonymous
6+ years in college to earn $20 an hour as a nanny? Seems a little foolish.... Hope she was on scholarship. |
Anonymous
NP here and you can stop now, Asshole. I am sick of reading your crappy posts. |
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It's fine to be frustrated about it (normal, even), but I don't think it's worth doing anything about. If you're happy in the job and like everyone and everything, then just let it be.
A few times, experiment with saying you have to leave right on time, so can you talk about the situation right now? See if you can get him to talk with you ahead of time. I like the PP's suggestion of doing this, but rather than going right to saying you wrote it down, I'd first initiate it with this when he walks in the door: "Hi, DB! Great to see you! I have to leave right at 5:30 tonight, so can we do our debrief in the next few minutes? I won't have time to talk after that." If he doesn't start to get it after doing this a handful of times, I'd just let it go. If you feel like you're being paid fairly overall, then another 10 minutes isn't really the end of the world. The PP who was terribly rude to nannies is being a total jerk, but there is value in what she's saying in terms of the fact that many employees in all jobs are asked to stay longer without pay, and it's just what we have to do sometimes to keep a job we love. I used to be paid for 35 hours a week in an office job, but all of us usually worked about 45. It was what was needed to get the job done. 
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OP clearly stated that she has always stayed for the debriefing and continued to come in early - so she is clearly doing what needs to be done to "get the job done".
She feels disrespected that DB is in the house but will not come in the nursery one second before her end-time and doesn't feel that her reporting about his son's day is important. I don't blame her. |
Anonymous
I wouldn't take it personally. He probablyjusthas a lot of work on his mind and is constantly emailing and calling work day and night. |
Anonymous
| 10 minutes of talking? That should take two mins. |
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This is not fair to the OP at all. Anyone who says she is being petty is just being ridiculous. It's not like this only happens once a week, it's 4 nights/week. And because she always arrives early that's an extra hour of time that she's working and not getting paid EVERY week. Assuming her pay is around $20/hour, that's at least $80/month that she should be making. That isn't just a free dollars.
OP, tell the dad when he gets home that you've got plans after work now and as a result you'll need to leave right at your end time going forward. If he doesn't get the hint start writing everything down and hand him the notebook and tell him you need to go. |
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NP here.
I don't think it's a problem if DB comes home early yet expects you to work until your end time, OP. BUT, he shouldn't expect you to stay later for a debrief. I like the PPs idea of writing down the debrief or keeping a log and handing it to him on your way out the door. |
Anonymous
It's good that she has no interest in being a salaried nanny, since the IRS specifically states that nannies are classified as hourly workers in this country. |
Anonymous
It is the "to the second" than would bug me too, OP. I like a smooth transition so I would sacrifice five or ten minutes of my own time to do the debriefing but I can see why you'd be bugged. My MB always comes home and is ready to take over a few minutes before my quitting time. |