Different rules for the nanny...

[Anonymous]

MB had a flu-like virus and was home from work for three days. My little charge got the same thing and I was asked to keep him home for three days (no outside activities at all). Now I, the nanny of 1.5 years who has NEVER taken a sick day, has been required to work today even though I now seem to have the same illness. MB said it would be too hard for her to miss anymore work and DH is out of town.

I just do not seem to rate as a human to these people. I love my charge and I love being a nanny - but situations like this make me want to quit and get a cushy office job.

Just a rant.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, OP. But you have to remember that we are just "the help" to most of these working mothers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB had a flu-like virus and was home from work for three days. My little charge got the same thing and I was asked to keep him home for three days (no outside activities at all). Now I, the nanny of 1.5 years who has NEVER taken a sick day, has been required to work today even though I now seem to have the same illness. MB said it would be too hard for her to miss anymore work and DH is out of town.

I just do not seem to rate as a human to these people. I love my charge and I love being a nanny - but situations like this make me want to quit and get a cushy office job.

Just a rant.

Now, maybe, you will understand why you need to find a new profession where you will count, a job with a future and you are not the help.

[Anonymous]

Do you have paid sick days? If so you should take it. If not I would suggest talking to MB for the next time this happens. Unfortunately, this is part of being in the childcare industry. Daycare staff run through their sick days like crazy. MB should have backup care anyway. Seems to me like she doesn't care. Also I would not want my kid to be exposed to the same stuff when he is in recovery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB had a flu-like virus and was home from work for three days. My little charge got the same thing and I was asked to keep him home for three days (no outside activities at all). Now I, the nanny of 1.5 years who has NEVER taken a sick day, has been required to work today even though I now seem to have the same illness. MB said it would be too hard for her to miss anymore work and DH is out of town.

I just do not seem to rate as a human to these people. I love my charge and I love being a nanny - but situations like this make me want to quit and get a cushy office job.

Just a rant.

Who said, "Just say no"?
What's she gonna do, fire you? What a dumbass she is.

[Anonymous]

If the dumbass employer wants to count this towards your precious few sick days, buck up and get yourself a decent job.

[Anonymous]

I've had several nice nanny families who understood I was ill and wanted me to stay home. They had back-up options in place because the nanny sometimes does get too sick to come to work. However, I had one family who was totally shocked that I would ever take a sick day. I called in explaining I had severe stomach flu, with vomiting and diarrhea multiple times per hour. They said "can you come in anyway?". Wow. Just wow.

[Anonymous]

You all need to put on your big girl panties and woman up. I've never been compelled to work when I felt I was too sick. You know why? I make the decision. I dont ask my boss if it's okay to take a sick day, I tell them that I am. That should be the end of it, but if ever it wasn't, I would simply repeat the same thing to each of their excuses. "I'm sorry, I am unable to come in today, I will be using a sick day."

[Anonymous]

OP here and stop making assumptions. I left a much higher paying office job to become a nanny and can guarantee you all that I graduated from a much higher ranked college than any of my critics on this thread. This is what I want to do - I want to be a nanny. I just need a new nanny job. Too bad because I truly love my charge.

Not only did MB never even suggest that she come home early - when she did come hone fifteen minutes before I was set to leave, she took her time changing clothes and checking her email. She walked into the baby's room at exactly my end time. Bitch.

[Anonymous]

Well, now you overplayed your hand, OP. Your MB isn't a bitch because she expects you to work until your end time. If she comes home at six and your end time is six thirty, she can do anything she wants during that half hour, change her clothes, check her email, watch TV. As long as she relieves you at your end time, she has done nothing wrong. She's paying you until 6:30, you should expect to work and be compensated until 6:30pm.

As for sick days, did you negotiate for paid sick days (or even unpaid sick days?)? If you responsibly negotiated and you and your NF have a policy around sick time, then honor it and call out when you're sick. Simple.

I find it hard to believe you went to a good college and spent time in the cushy office job world and don't know how to negotiate and take sick time.

Or maybe you just came to whine about your "problem" and whip up the mean MB hating nannies here.

[Anonymous]

Funny how these bitches couldn't have their stupid careers without us nannies to raise their babies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, now you overplayed your hand, OP. Your MB isn't a bitch because she expects you to work until your end time. If she comes home at six and your end time is six thirty, she can do anything she wants during that half hour, change her clothes, check her email, watch TV. As long as she relieves you at your end time, she has done nothing wrong. She's paying you until 6:30, you should expect to work and be compensated until 6:30pm.

As for sick days, did you negotiate for paid sick days (or even unpaid sick days?)? If you responsibly negotiated and you and your NF have a policy around sick time, then honor it and call out when you're sick. Simple.

I find it hard to believe you went to a good college and spent time in the cushy office job world and don't know how to negotiate and take sick time.

Or maybe you just came to whine about your "problem" and whip up the mean MB hating nannies here.

Stop. Op here. I do have sick days and didn't take one yesterday because MB was in a bind and needed me. I have nothing to say to you if you don't think there is something wrong with a woman who wouldn't even let an employee go home fifteen minutes early when you know they are sick with an illness YOU gave her!


And it is never that simple. As I stated, MB was out for three days and DB was out of town. I did them a FAVOR by working yesterday.

[Anonymous]

People behave badly at times. I don't think it is wrong to express anger or frustration on a site like this when either your employer or your nanny handles something poorly.

I'm sorry, OP, your employer was being selfish and self-centered. She should have thanked you profusely for working when you were sick (especially since she knew how bad you felt having just taken off three days due to it) and you should have been relived early.

[Anonymous]

Different rules, different jobs. MB has a professional job, nanny has a ... well nanny job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, now you overplayed your hand, OP. Your MB isn't a bitch because she expects you to work until your end time. If she comes home at six and your end time is six thirty, she can do anything she wants during that half hour, change her clothes, check her email, watch TV. As long as she relieves you at your end time, she has done nothing wrong. She's paying you until 6:30, you should expect to work and be compensated until 6:30pm.

As for sick days, did you negotiate for paid sick days (or even unpaid sick days?)? If you responsibly negotiated and you and your NF have a policy around sick time, then honor it and call out when you're sick. Simple.

I find it hard to believe you went to a good college and spent time in the cushy office job world and don't know how to negotiate and take sick time.

Or maybe you just came to whine about your "problem" and whip up the mean MB hating nannies here.

Just be careful next time you whine to the nanny and your friends how much you "love" your child, and how much you miss him. After all, your "me time" trumps your kid time.