What to do about MB/DB lying to me?

[Anonymous]

I'm a nanny in a share, and we have an illness policy in place stating that parents are responsible for caring for their sick child if they have a contagious illness. I'm not too strict about this, but go with what the families are comfortable and being realistic about the risk of passing around the illness.

This morning I arrive at work to learn that one family has had a stomach bug going around this weekend, but that everyone is fine now. Fast forward an hour later, their son is a whiny clingy poopy mess that is clearly still sick, and now I've been exposed and so has my other charge. They lied to my face about him being well enough to be in my care, and this is not the first time. If this had happened during the week and we were already exposed, fine, but now we've all been exposed to this bug for no reason because they were selfish and lied. Am I being ridiculous? Should I say something? It also really irritates me that they think its okay to lie to me.

[Anonymous]

Schedule a meeting with both families and discuss your documented observations. Asap.

[Anonymous]

I was in my teens before my mother figured out that I get a surge of being better before continuing on with my sicknesses - it was like the eye of the storm - so maybe that's what happened here.

[Anonymous]

Let's not create excuses for irresponsible parents. Doesn't everyone know you must be symptomless for a full 24 hours before you can be "fine" after a nasty bug?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let's not create excuses for irresponsible parents. Doesn't everyone know you must be symptomless for a full 24 hours before you can be "fine" after a nasty bug?

The stomach bug going around right now is notorious for having people be asymptomatic for several days before a return of the symptoms. It's quite possible if a child was ill on Saturday they could have been find yesterday and ill again today. You sound like a dumbass btw.

[Anonymous]

OP here. To reiterate, they have a pattern of doing this, which is really the issue here. When I asked MB about his symptoms this morning, she told me he still had a touch of diarrhea but seemed fine. If he still has diarrhea, obviously he is still ill, and my MB is not a stupid woman. Maybe they aren't lying and just didnt realize, but at this point I just don't buy it.

I will probably just mention the policy again when I update them at pickup and be done with it. Next time they leave me with their sick kid without regard for the other families they are affecting, I will call them to pick him up early like our policy says they should.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let's not create excuses for irresponsible parents. Doesn't everyone know you must be symptomless for a full 24 hours before you can be "fine" after a nasty bug?

The stomach bug going around right now is notorious for having people be asymptomatic for several days before a return of the symptoms. It's quite possible if a child was ill on Saturday they could have been find yesterday and ill again today. You sound like a dumbass btw.

OP here. Not sure if you're calling me a dumbass, but to clarify the child was sick yesterday(Sunday) and still had diarrhea this morning, which they were aware of. They claimed that he was much better today and that it shouldn't be an issue.

[Anonymous]

More nanny whining. Yay @@

[Anonymous]

I've never been in a nanny share but if I were the other family I'd want to be involved. It doesn't seem to me like handling this should fall solely on you OP - the other parents have a pretty vested issue in ensuring clarity and consideration on these things.

Hope you dodge the bullet!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've never been in a nanny share but if I were the other family I'd want to be involved. It doesn't seem to me like handling this should fall solely on you OP - the other parents have a pretty vested issue in ensuring clarity and consideration on these things.

Hope you dodge the bullet!

Thanks. The other mom isn't happy about it, but I doubt she'll say anything to them about it. She is, after all, guilty of doing the same thing occasionally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:More nanny whining. Yay @@

This is a forum where nannies and parents talk about things involved in the nanny-ing. Sometimes that means they complain about something in the course of asking what they should do about an issue. This happens with both nannies and parents. How else can you bring up an issue without saying what the issue is? And why does that have to be labeled as "whining"? Last but not least, what I'm really confused about, is if people don't like what they're reading here, why keep reading? It seems obvious you would avoid reading something that annoys you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:More nanny whining. Yay @@

This is a forum where nannies and parents talk about things involved in the nanny-ing. Sometimes that means they complain about something in the course of asking what they should do about an issue. This happens with both nannies and parents. How else can you bring up an issue without saying what the issue is? And why does that have to be labeled as "whining"? Last but not least, what I'm really confused about, is if people don't like what they're reading here, why keep reading? It seems obvious you would avoid reading something that annoys you.

sorry about my typo: drop "the" before nanny-ing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let's not create excuses for irresponsible parents. Doesn't everyone know you must be symptomless for a full 24 hours before you can be "fine" after a nasty bug?

The stomach bug going around right now is notorious for having people be asymptomatic for several days before a return of the symptoms. It's quite possible if a child was ill on Saturday they could have been find yesterday and ill again today. You sound like a dumbass btw.

You proved yourself to be the dumbass. Typical for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've never been in a nanny share but if I were the other family I'd want to be involved. It doesn't seem to me like handling this should fall solely on you OP - the other parents have a pretty vested issue in ensuring clarity and consideration on these things.

Hope you dodge the bullet!

Thanks. The other mom isn't happy about it, but I doubt she'll say anything to them about it. She is, after all, guilty of doing the same thing occasionally.

New poster here. Have you spoken to other MB about the issue today specifically? Does she know about the history the other family has with this sort of behavior? Also I'm curious what your paid sick leave situation is like. Personally, I don't get many paid sick days (thankfully I have only one charge so the chances of me getting sick are less), but if I were in your situation I would maybe reiterate that it isn't fair to subject you to this illness since you wouldn't be able to work for either family, and if limited sick days are a factor I would definitely bring that up, too.

[Anonymous]

i know hey. If the kid is sick the nanny is supposed to stay home and get paid to do nothing. Everyone knows that is why families choose a nanny and not day care.