What to do about MB/DB lying to me?

[Anonymous]

MB here - I'm a total germaphobe and we had a similar share where our partner would repeatedly drop off their very sick kid (high fevers, strep, and one unfortunate episode of profuse vomiting at our house). Needless to say I am vigilant about sickness. That said, they did tell you the child had diahrrea and I know from my own kids that sometimes the lower GI symptoms can take a few days to resolve after vomiting stops. I've also read that all poop is contagious for up to two weeks after norovirus so even if they're "healthy" they are still contagious. Anyway, my point is this actually doesn't seem so egregious to me. I would talk to both families and get clarification on expectations on all sides. Maybe wait until you're a little less upset though since it sounds like this has been building and this recent incident has understandably stirred the pot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. To reiterate, they have a pattern of doing this, which is really the issue here. When I asked MB about his symptoms this morning, she told me he still had a touch of diarrhea but seemed fine. If he still has diarrhea, obviously he is still ill, and my MB is not a stupid woman. Maybe they aren't lying and just didnt realize, but at this point I just don't buy it.

I will probably just mention the policy again when I update them at pickup and be done with it. Next time they leave me with their sick kid without regard for the other families they are affecting, I will call them to pick him up early like our policy says they should.

[b]

I think you advised yourself much better on this than anyone else could OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let's not create excuses for irresponsible parents. Doesn't everyone know you must be symptomless for a full 24 hours before you can be "fine" after a nasty bug?

The stomach bug going around right now is notorious for having people be asymptomatic for several days before a return of the symptoms. It's quite possible if a child was ill on Saturday they could have been find yesterday and ill again today. You sound like a dumbass btw.

OP here. Not sure if you're calling me a dumbass, but to clarify the child was sick yesterday(Sunday) and still had diarrhea this morning, which they were aware of. They claimed that he was much better today and that it shouldn't be an issue.

I'm not PP, I'm an NP, but if they said this upon drop-off, why didn't you say that you were sorry, but could not care for the child that day? Or if he had diarrhea on your watch, you should have called them and said 'Sorry, but he's still sick, please come and get him because he is going to infect everyone else.'

Obviously what they said was wrong. Why didn't you tell them that?

I would not work with them again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB here - I'm a total germaphobe and we had a similar share where our partner would repeatedly drop off their very sick kid (high fevers, strep, and one unfortunate episode of profuse vomiting at our house). Needless to say I am vigilant about sickness. That said, they did tell you the child had diahrrea and I know from my own kids that sometimes the lower GI symptoms can take a few days to resolve after vomiting stops. I've also read that all poop is contagious for up to two weeks after norovirus so even if they're "healthy" they are still contagious. Anyway, my point is this actually doesn't seem so egregious to me. I would talk to both families and get clarification on expectations on all sides. Maybe wait until you're a little less upset though since it sounds like this has been building and this recent incident has understandably stirred the pot.

OP here, and I understand what you're saying. I dont think that they are purposefully trying to hurt anyone, just that they would rather not inconvenience themselves. With diarreah it really is me who is most at risk since I am changing the diapers, and it frustrates me that that is okay with them...

I spoke to DB at pickup about the policy and said that I will be enforcing it to the letter in the future. To answer another poster about why I didn't enforce it this time, well they're the host family and everyone had already arrived for the day. If the whole point is to cause the least amount of issues for everyone, making a stink at that point wouldn't have helped.