Considering move from nanny to daycare

[Anonymous]

DH and I both have pretty crazy work schedules. We have a 1 yo who is cared for by a nanny. I am considering a job that has much more reasonsble hours. Problem is that it pays significantly less. If I took the job, we could not afford the nanny, so we would need to use daycare. I know that nannies are preferable to daycare. But I also want to see my son and not work all the time.

Has anyone else been in this sort of situation?

[Anonymous]

Yes. We cut out all extras to afford to keep our nanny.

That said, a good daycare could be great for your child. I just wasn't ready to handle all the new illnesses he would pick up in his first year at daycare and missing so much work with a new job.

[Anonymous]

As a nanny almost every employer I've had has told me they hired a nanny because it's so much cheaper then daycare. But if you only have 1 child I can understand it being a little higher.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a nanny almost every employer I've had has told me they hired a nanny because it's so much cheaper then daycare. But if you only have 1 child I can understand it being a little higher.

OP here. We only have one child. With taxes, breedlove fees, and bonus, we pay about $1,000 a week

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a nanny almost every employer I've had has told me they hired a nanny because it's so much cheaper then daycare. But if you only have 1 child I can understand it being a little higher.

OP here. We only have one child. With taxes, breedlove fees, and bonus, we pay about $1,000 a week

How old would your child be at the point he/she would start daycare? By 2, s/he might enjoy it, really, and by 3, s/he almost certainly will enjoy it. We have a bunch of kids and stuck with the nanny, but by the time they are 3.5, it has been clear to me that they would do just as well at preschool/daycare with friends.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a nanny almost every employer I've had has told me they hired a nanny because it's so much cheaper then daycare. But if you only have 1 child I can understand it being a little higher.

OP here. We only have one child. With taxes, breedlove fees, and bonus, we pay about $1,000 a week

How old would your child be at the point he/she would start daycare? By 2, s/he might enjoy it, really, and by 3, s/he almost certainly will enjoy it. We have a bunch of kids and stuck with the nanny, but by the time they are 3.5, it has been clear to me that they would do just as well at preschool/daycare with friends.

He'd be about 18 months when we would switch

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a nanny almost every employer I've had has told me they hired a nanny because it's so much cheaper then daycare. But if you only have 1 child I can understand it being a little higher.

OP here. We only have one child. With taxes, breedlove fees, and bonus, we pay about $1,000 a week

How old would your child be at the point he/she would start daycare? By 2, s/he might enjoy it, really, and by 3, s/he almost certainly will enjoy it. We have a bunch of kids and stuck with the nanny, but by the time they are 3.5, it has been clear to me that they would do just as well at preschool/daycare with friends.

He'd be about 18 months when we would switch

Could you keep the nanny just a few months more even it meant spending some savings? Daycare costs decrease at 2, also. For a child that young, I would probably look for a nanny share or small home daycare first.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a nanny almost every employer I've had has told me they hired a nanny because it's so much cheaper then daycare. But if you only have 1 child I can understand it being a little higher.

OP here. We only have one child. With taxes, breedlove fees, and bonus, we pay about $1,000 a week

How old would your child be at the point he/she would start daycare? By 2, s/he might enjoy it, really, and by 3, s/he almost certainly will enjoy it. We have a bunch of kids and stuck with the nanny, but by the time they are 3.5, it has been clear to me that they would do just as well at preschool/daycare with friends.

He'd be about 18 months when we would switch

Could you keep the nanny just a few months more even it meant spending some savings? Daycare costs decrease at 2, also. For a child that young, I would probably look for a nanny share or small home daycare first.

Isn't home daycare worse than larger centers?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a nanny almost every employer I've had has told me they hired a nanny because it's so much cheaper then daycare. But if you only have 1 child I can understand it being a little higher.

OP here. We only have one child. With taxes, breedlove fees, and bonus, we pay about $1,000 a week

I take care of 3 toddlers and make 400. Maybe find a cheaper nanny

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a nanny almost every employer I've had has told me they hired a nanny because it's so much cheaper then daycare. But if you only have 1 child I can understand it being a little higher.

OP here. We only have one child. With taxes, breedlove fees, and bonus, we pay about $1,000 a week

How old would your child be at the point he/she would start daycare? By 2, s/he might enjoy it, really, and by 3, s/he almost certainly will enjoy it. We have a bunch of kids and stuck with the nanny, but by the time they are 3.5, it has been clear to me that they would do just as well at preschool/daycare with friends.

He'd be about 18 months when we would switch

IMO he is too young, OP. Stick it out with the nanny until he is at least two. PP is right - the illnesses that kids pick up in their first year of school or daycare will keep you home with him far more than you should be out of a new job anyway.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a nanny almost every employer I've had has told me they hired a nanny because it's so much cheaper then daycare. But if you only have 1 child I can understand it being a little higher.

OP here. We only have one child. With taxes, breedlove fees, and bonus, we pay about $1,000 a week

How old would your child be at the point he/she would start daycare? By 2, s/he might enjoy it, really, and by 3, s/he almost certainly will enjoy it. We have a bunch of kids and stuck with the nanny, but by the time they are 3.5, it has been clear to me that they would do just as well at preschool/daycare with friends.

He'd be about 18 months when we would switch

He's too little! Wait, OP. Poor little guy is used to the 1:1 attention he has gotten from his nanny since birth.

You can make more sacrifices than you think you can, OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a nanny almost every employer I've had has told me they hired a nanny because it's so much cheaper then daycare. But if you only have 1 child I can understand it being a little higher.

OP here. We only have one child. With taxes, breedlove fees, and bonus, we pay about $1,000 a week

How old would your child be at the point he/she would start daycare? By 2, s/he might enjoy it, really, and by 3, s/he almost certainly will enjoy it. We have a bunch of kids and stuck with the nanny, but by the time they are 3.5, it has been clear to me that they would do just as well at preschool/daycare with friends.

He'd be about 18 months when we would switch

He's too little! Wait, OP. Poor little guy is used to the 1:1 attention he has gotten from his nanny since birth.

You can make more sacrifices than you think you can, OP.

OP, don't listen to the nanny trolls. 18 months is perfectly fine for a good daycare. He will want to be around other kids. Plenty of people put their much younger infants in daycare with no problem.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a nanny almost every employer I've had has told me they hired a nanny because it's so much cheaper then daycare. But if you only have 1 child I can understand it being a little higher.

OP here. We only have one child. With taxes, breedlove fees, and bonus, we pay about $1,000 a week

How old would your child be at the point he/she would start daycare? By 2, s/he might enjoy it, really, and by 3, s/he almost certainly will enjoy it. We have a bunch of kids and stuck with the nanny, but by the time they are 3.5, it has been clear to me that they would do just as well at preschool/daycare with friends.

He'd be about 18 months when we would switch

He's too little! Wait, OP. Poor little guy is used to the 1:1 attention he has gotten from his nanny since birth.

You can make more sacrifices than you think you can, OP.

OP, don't listen to the nanny trolls. 18 months is perfectly fine for a good daycare. He will want to be around other kids. Plenty of people put their much younger infants in daycare with no problem.

I am the PP and neither a nanny nor a troll. I think 18 months is too young to switch from a nanny to daycare. If the child has always been in daycare that is a totally separate circumstance - the baby knows nothing different. OP is talking about a little guy who only knows one-on-one care and probably loves his nanny. 18 months is too young to rock his world and sense of security. Even preschools have "parent and me" programs for children under two because they are too young to separated from their mother/nanny.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a nanny almost every employer I've had has told me they hired a nanny because it's so much cheaper then daycare. But if you only have 1 child I can understand it being a little higher.

OP here. We only have one child. With taxes, breedlove fees, and bonus, we pay about $1,000 a week

How old would your child be at the point he/she would start daycare? By 2, s/he might enjoy it, really, and by 3, s/he almost certainly will enjoy it. We have a bunch of kids and stuck with the nanny, but by the time they are 3.5, it has been clear to me that they would do just as well at preschool/daycare with friends.

He'd be about 18 months when we would switch

He's too little! Wait, OP. Poor little guy is used to the 1:1 attention he has gotten from his nanny since birth.

You can make more sacrifices than you think you can, OP.

OP, don't listen to the nanny trolls. 18 months is perfectly fine for a good daycare. He will want to be around other kids. Plenty of people put their much younger infants in daycare with no problem.

I am the PP and neither a nanny nor a troll. I think 18 months is too young to switch from a nanny to daycare. If the child has always been in daycare that is a totally separate circumstance - the baby knows nothing different. OP is talking about a little guy who only knows one-on-one care and probably loves his nanny. 18 months is too young to rock his world and sense of security. Even preschools have "parent and me" programs for children under two because they are too young to separated from their mother/nanny.

+1 I agree. For a child who has always been in daycare, there is no issue. For a child who has only been with a nanny or parent, eighteen-months is the WRONG time to move to daycare.

Hold out until DC is at least two, OP.

[Anonymous]

I think your child will be fine OP. Do not beat yourself up if daycare is what works now for your family.