Job searching guilt

[Anonymous]

I've started to look for a new job, and I plan to give one month's notice if at all possible, but I haven't yet told my MB and DB. I don't like the feeling of "sneaking around," even though I know that in general, it's a bad idea to tell any employer you're looking to move on without having the next gig lined up, and especially in this business. I tell myself I have to be practical and look out for myself and my finances, so I'm doing ok-ish with the job search aspect of it. The problem is that I've noticed I'm starting to spend too much of my own money on things related to my job. For instance, my charge is turning 4 soon, and I spent about twice as much on his birthday gift as I normally would. I've also been buying some art supplies and things like that. Have any of you done this before? I know I shouldn't be spending my money for things that should be coming from petty cash, but they don't fill the petty cash envelope very often

[Anonymous]

It takes a special horrible nanny to screw over MB like that by looking for a job behind her back. If you are unhappy be a big girl and tell her.

[Anonymous]

Stop spending your money. It won't fix your guilt. If you want to refill art supplies, tell the MB, "I'd like to replenish the art supplies with about $30 worth of new stuff."

Just focus on finding a good job and then give proper notice to this one. But stop spending money where you shouldn't. You know better than this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It takes a special horrible nanny to screw over MB like that by looking for a job behind her back. If you are unhappy be a big girl and tell her.

Please shut up.

[Anonymous]

Be honest. In this business, good references are critical.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be honest. In this business, good references are critical.

...which is why I will give a long notice period. However, this is a low-paying job. I haven't been able to save, so I simply can't afford to take the risk of telling them prematurely.

[Anonymous]

Please look for a new job with no guilt whatsoever. All you owe your employers is the agreed upon notice and nothing more.

[Anonymous]

You made the choice to spend too much money on his gift.

[Anonymous]

Stop spending your own money shopping. If you feel the kid needs something, tell them to get it.

Petty cash is for urgent things (out of whole milk) or things they tell you to get or do. It's not for your random shopping trips or lunches out.

Sounds like you don't like the job because you feel you can find a better job and one that's pays better. Test the market,nor quit and then test the market. That is a function of your risk tolerance or how miserable you are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop spending your own money shopping. If you feel the kid needs something, tell them to get it.

Petty cash is for urgent things (out of whole milk) or things they tell you to get or do. It's not for your random shopping trips or lunches out.

Sounds like you don't like the job because you feel you can find a better job and one that's pays better. Test the market,nor quit and then test the market. That is a function of your risk tolerance or how miserable you are.

This depends on the job. Nanny jobs vary in many areas, including how petty cash is used.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop spending your own money shopping. If you feel the kid needs something, tell them to get it.

Petty cash is for urgent things (out of whole milk) or things they tell you to get or do. It's not for your random shopping trips or lunches out.

Sounds like you don't like the job because you feel you can find a better job and one that's pays better. Test the market,nor quit and then test the market. That is a function of your risk tolerance or how miserable you are.

Guess you haven't had many jobs since you don't realize different families can do things different ways. The family I work for gave me $200 when I started as cash to cover things when we were out so I would never feel awkward about buying something and having to ask for reimbursement or not having brought cash from the house with us. So since they basically "reimbursed" me up front I just keep general track on a sticky note on my fridge to make sure I stay under the $200 and don't start using my own money.

Then also there is the cash envelope they keep for me at their house, this has about $100-$140 in $20s for anything we need.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It takes a special horrible nanny to screw over MB like that by looking for a job behind her back. If you are unhappy be a big girl and tell her.

I don't agree!
I've done that before and didn't have any problem.
Today I still have a great relationship with my boss and the kids after I left.
Think about you first!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please look for a new job with no guilt whatsoever. All you owe your employers is the agreed upon notice and nothing more.

Nanny here and I agree 100% on that.