MB gone for THREE WEEKS!

[Anonymous]

I am shocked. MB is going on a trip for three weeks to pursue an opportunity for her horse hobby (or perhaps it's more of an obsession). She's leaving DB and DS behind to go across the country for three weeks to do this. I know she's in love with her equestrian hobby and is very good at it, but this seems extreme. I'm worried because it's just me that DB has to rely on for that time (no backup care whatsoever). And he's got important stuff at work he absolutely cannot miss, so if something happens where I have to miss for any reason, they are screwed. Thst's a lot of pressure. It's easier when MB is here, but what the hell kind of mother leaves her toddler and husband behind for that long for a hobby?! I just can't even imagine doing that. Does anyone else think this is extreme?

[Anonymous]

Yikes, that is a long time. But it's not your place to question her as a mother or wife.

I do think it would be appropriate to talk with them about backup care options though. Neighborhood babysitters who could be lined up, an agency as a backup plan, etc...

I travel a fair amount for work (though never for more than 5 or 6 days) and I always have a couple of levels of backup support in place when I do.

[Anonymous]

That's sick. That poor child.

[Anonymous]

Another nanny as parent situation.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she's having an affair.

[Anonymous]

Do your regular hours and mind your own business

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do your regular hours and mind your own business

OP here and sorry but I have every right to judge her in this instance knowing the strain it will put on the family and me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's sick. That poor child.

lol wow

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do your regular hours and mind your own business

OP here and sorry but I have every right to judge her in this instance knowing the strain it will put on the family and me.

I completely agree with OP. She has every right to be concerned about the mother's lack of sound judgment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do your regular hours and mind your own business

OP here and sorry but I have every right to judge her in this instance knowing the strain it will put on the family and me.

I agree with you, but this is pretty specific info. I hope that you MB or one of her friends don't read this and recognize you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do your regular hours and mind your own business

OP here and sorry but I have every right to judge her in this instance knowing the strain it will put on the family and me.

I agree with you, but this is pretty specific info. I hope that you MB or one of her friends don't read this and recognize you.

Maybe the crazy mother would think twice about making the nanny do the parenting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am shocked. MB is going on a trip for three weeks to pursue an opportunity for her horse hobby (or perhaps it's more of an obsession). She's leaving DB and DS behind to go across the country for three weeks to do this. I know she's in love with her equestrian hobby and is very good at it, but this seems extreme. I'm worried because it's just me that DB has to rely on for that time (no backup care whatsoever). And he's got important stuff at work he absolutely cannot miss, so if something happens where I have to miss for any reason, they are screwed. Thst's a lot of pressure. It's easier when MB is here, but what the hell kind of mother leaves her toddler and husband behind for that long for a hobby?! I just can't even imagine doing that. Does anyone else think this is extreme?

No I actually have great respect for mothers ( parents in general) that continue to pursue hobbies, education, dreams etc post parenthood it tends to make for happier lest stressed parents which is great for kids and also a great model for kids.

As for not having back up that is a concern you should have addressed during the interview.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do your regular hours and mind your own business

OP here and sorry but I have every right to judge her in this instance knowing the strain it will put on the family and me.

No you don't! It's not your family and it will only put extra strain on you if you allow it to. Mention to them that you recommend they have backup care lined up in case it is needed and do your job. Everyone is far too judgemental of others' parenting choices. This does not make her a bad mother and if you disagree then quit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am shocked. MB is going on a trip for three weeks to pursue an opportunity for her horse hobby (or perhaps it's more of an obsession). She's leaving DB and DS behind to go across the country for three weeks to do this. I know she's in love with her equestrian hobby and is very good at it, but this seems extreme. I'm worried because it's just me that DB has to rely on for that time (no backup care whatsoever). And he's got important stuff at work he absolutely cannot miss, so if something happens where I have to miss for any reason, they are screwed. Thst's a lot of pressure. It's easier when MB is here, but what the hell kind of mother leaves her toddler and husband behind for that long for a hobby?! I just can't even imagine doing that. Does anyone else think this is extreme?

No I actually have great respect for mothers ( parents in general) that continue to pursue hobbies, education, dreams etc post parenthood it tends to make for happier lest stressed parents which is great for kids and also a great model for kids.

As for not having back up that is a concern you should have addressed during the interview.

Agree. People in the military go away for a lot longer than three weeks. Actors on location go away for much longer. It's healthy for people to have interests outside of their family. My nanny confirmed in her interview that we had backup care and explained what kind she could provide for us.

[Anonymous]

My previous MB was into equestrian stuff. It's just one of those hobbies that you can really get sucked into the whole lifestyle and culture. My MB never left for 3 weeks but she did spend many weekends and holiday weeks at horse shows.