Would a nanny move with us temporarily?

[Anonymous]

DH and I have employed the same nanny for three years. We talked with her when we hired her about having a 10-12 or so year relationship. I have a job opportunity in Paris. DH could work from home there. Our nanny is live out. If we moved to Paris, we would offer a live-in situation. Separate bedroom but shared bathroom with the kids. Same hours as now.

We would pay for the nanny to fly home once for two weeks, and pay for her to put her things in storage here while we're living there. What else am I forgetting? Is this possible?

[Anonymous]

Um, ask her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I have employed the same nanny for three years. We talked with her when we hired her about having a 10-12 or so year relationship. I have a job opportunity in Paris. DH could work from home there. Our nanny is live out. If we moved to Paris, we would offer a live-in situation. Separate bedroom but shared bathroom with the kids. Same hours as now.

We would pay for the nanny to fly home once for two weeks, and pay for her to put her things in storage here while we're living there. What else am I forgetting? Is this possible?

I started with my first family as a traditional live out - 2 day a week nanny. A year and a half in they asked if I'd relocate with them and move in. It was a tough transition, but I'm so glad I did it! It worked out really well for them and I got to relocate to a new (and much more exciting) city. Ask her - sounds like a really neat opportunity!

[Anonymous]

Why dors a 12 yr old need a nanny?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why dors a 12 yr old need a nanny?

Because we each travel for work so she'll need overnight care, and although my 3 yr old is a genius in my eyes, nobody will give her a driver's license in 9 years.

[Anonymous]

I would do it in a hot New York minute!!! First, because I love my charges and, secondly, because it is the opportunity of a lifetime!!! It is Paris!!!!

I would add in French classes to the pot for your nanny as well. Her learning french is a marketable skill and she could meet some friends away from your family.

New rules apply for a live-in in regard to time off and respect of her privacy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I have employed the same nanny for three years. We talked with her when we hired her about having a 10-12 or so year relationship. I have a job opportunity in Paris. DH could work from home there. Our nanny is live out. If we moved to Paris, we would offer a live-in situation. Separate bedroom but shared bathroom with the kids. Same hours as now.

We would pay for the nanny to fly home once for two weeks, and pay for her to put her things in storage here while we're living there. What else am I forgetting? Is this possible?

If she liked you she might, but I assume she wouldn't.

[Anonymous]

It really depends on the nanny. I personally would never want to be a live in nanny; sharing a house with young children is frustrating enough, not to mention sharing a bathroom, and also never really being able to get away from work, at home. However, the opportunity to live in Paris is incredibly exciting and even I, who do not want to be a live in nanny, might possibly consider it for the opportunity to live in Paris. But as I'm typing and considering that, it occurs to me that perhaps a nanny who wouldn't be a great live in nanny might say yes in this circumstance and then regret it, which would put everyone in a bad situation.

Does she have a boyfriend? if she is in a serious relationship she may not want to leave for that reason also.

I agree that French lessons or classes are a must.

Also dealing with a work at home parent is something many nannies avoid the hassle of. So not only are you asking her to become a live in nanny, you are also asking her to deal with the inconvenience of a work at home parent.

One last thing: you say it is a temporary move, but you don't say for how long. Is it six months? A year? Two years? That might need to be taken into consideration.

[Anonymous]

You won't be able to get a residence permit for the nanny to live in Paris. France is not in the business of importing nannies. While it might be a sweet thought there is no way to make this work legally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You won't be able to get a residence permit for the nanny to live in Paris. France is not in the business of importing nannies. While it might be a sweet thought there is no way to make this work legally.

Of course they can have their nanny come with them to France!!! She doesn't need a permit to continue to work for her American family.

[Anonymous]

Ask me, OP!!! I am a nanny and would switch to a live-in situation tomorrow to spend a year in Paris!!!

[Anonymous]

If she can learn French quickly, that would be very important.

[Anonymous]

We live in Los Angeles and our nanny came with us to New York for six months when DH and I had to work there. She left her husband and two older children. We paid for a trip home every other month, I think, and insisted she take full days away for us and the kids. She also went from a live out to a live in while we were there. She had her own room and bath in the apartment we rented.

Our nanny is a lovely woman and made friends quickly in New York. She really made the most of her time there.

When we asked her she said "yes, of course". She saw it as all a part of her job.

[Anonymous]

OP, are you in diplomatic corps? If not, you will have to have a work permit for her. You need to do your homework before asking her. Also, Paris isn't particularly safe these days.

[Anonymous]

This is a question only your nanny can answer.

If my NF asked I would say no. I live out for a reason as I have a family of my own and I have no interest in leaving them or uprooting them.

A younger nanny without serious commitments might jump at the chance.

Just ask.