Would a nanny move with us temporarily?

[Anonymous]

Does she have pets?
Does she have a boyfriend?
Will she be able to use the kitchen freely or will she have to eat out a lot?
Will she have transportation to get around?
What if she doesn't want to live in?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you in diplomatic corps? If not, you will have to have a work permit for her. You need to do your homework before asking her. Also, Paris isn't particularly safe these days.

All nonsense!!! Where are you getting your false information?!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It really depends on the nanny. I personally would never want to be a live in nanny; sharing a house with young children is frustrating enough, not to mention sharing a bathroom, and also never really being able to get away from work, at home. However, the opportunity to live in Paris is incredibly exciting and even I, who do not want to be a live in nanny, might possibly consider it for the opportunity to live in Paris. But as I'm typing and considering that, it occurs to me that perhaps a nanny who wouldn't be a great live in nanny might say yes in this circumstance and then regret it, which would put everyone in a bad situation.

Does she have a boyfriend? if she is in a serious relationship she may not want to leave for that reason also.

I agree that French lessons or classes are a must.

Also dealing with a work at home parent is something many nannies avoid the hassle of. So not only are you asking her to become a live in nanny, you are also asking her to deal with the inconvenience of a work at home parent.

One last thing: you say it is a temporary move, but you don't say for how long. Is it six months? A year? Two years? That might need to be taken into consideration.

These are all good points, thank you. It would be for a year. She is already fluent in French, and DH already works from home a lot of the time (he runs out to meetings but his office is in our house).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a question only your nanny can answer.

If my NF asked I would say no. I live out for a reason as I have a family of my own and I have no interest in leaving them or uprooting them.

A younger nanny without serious commitments might jump at the chance.

Just ask.

Or an older nanny whose kids are grown.

I would do it in a heartbeat!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does she have pets?
Does she have a boyfriend?
Will she be able to use the kitchen freely or will she have to eat out a lot?
Will she have transportation to get around?
What if she doesn't want to live in?

I don't know about pets, don't think so. She's traveled with us and never mentioned any. I think she was dating someone over the summer but not seriously. She'd be able to use the kitchen any time. She'd have whatever transportation we have while there. If she doesn't want to live in then it'd be on her to find a place nearby to live.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you in diplomatic corps? If not, you will have to have a work permit for her. You need to do your homework before asking her. Also, Paris isn't particularly safe these days.

All nonsense!!! Where are you getting your false information?!!

From living there!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you in diplomatic corps? If not, you will have to have a work permit for her. You need to do your homework before asking her. Also, Paris isn't particularly safe these days.

All nonsense!!! Where are you getting your false information?!!

Some of us are not dense.

[Anonymous]

Considering that you are moving out of the country, she may or may not accept the position.

It all depends on many factors which us respondents are not privy too.

The best way to know for sure if she would be willing to move w/your family is simple. Ask her.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I have employed the same nanny for three years. We talked with her when we hired her about having a 10-12 or so year relationship. I have a job opportunity in Paris. DH could work from home there. Our nanny is live out. If we moved to Paris, we would offer a live-in situation. Separate bedroom but shared bathroom with the kids. Same hours as now.

We would pay for the nanny to fly home once for two weeks, and pay for her to put her things in storage here while we're living there. What else am I forgetting? Is this possible?

Very possible. I know a lot of nannies who regularly travel with their employers for months to years at a time, going from live-out to live-in.

My suggestion would be not to decrease her salary by one penny now that she is living in. That makes the offer infinitely more attractive. Free room and board.

And I would do it in a second.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I have employed the same nanny for three years. We talked with her when we hired her about having a 10-12 or so year relationship. I have a job opportunity in Paris. DH could work from home there. Our nanny is live out. If we moved to Paris, we would offer a live-in situation. Separate bedroom but shared bathroom with the kids. Same hours as now.

We would pay for the nanny to fly home once for two weeks, and pay for her to put her things in storage here while we're living there. What else am I forgetting? Is this possible?

So maybe your company can pull strings to move you and your family to France but there is 0% chance that your nanny will be able to go too. Is this your first time living outside of the US? You have a lot to learn. Talk to your companies HR first thing tomorrow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you in diplomatic corps? If not, you will have to have a work permit for her. You need to do your homework before asking her. Also, Paris isn't particularly safe these days.

All nonsense!!! Where are you getting your false information?!!

Some of us are not dense.

But you are.

My first nanny job was in France and no documentation was necessary when paid by an American family and came from the US with them. I still had US taxes and SS withheld. I was there for two years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you in diplomatic corps? If not, you will have to have a work permit for her. You need to do your homework before asking her. Also, Paris isn't particularly safe these days.

All nonsense!!! Where are you getting your false information?!!

Some of us are not dense.

But you are.

My first nanny job was in France and no documentation was necessary when paid by an American family and came from the US with them. I still had US taxes and SS withheld. I was there for two years.

This is technically illegal. You actually need a work permit to work in any of the EU countries and they are not that easy to come by. My friend just went through this when she went with her family to France for the mom to give birth.

That being said I've known several people who just skirt around this and get the long term visitor visa and pay their nanny in cash.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you in diplomatic corps? If not, you will have to have a work permit for her. You need to do your homework before asking her. Also, Paris isn't particularly safe these days.

All nonsense!!! Where are you getting your false information?!!

Some of us are not dense.

But you are.

My first nanny job was in France and no documentation was necessary when paid by an American family and came from the US with them. I still had US taxes and SS withheld. I was there for two years.

Whst you did was illegal and I am so sorry you and your employer weren't caught and thrown into a French dungeon.