Is it appropriate...

[Anonymous]

... to mention to the parents that I think they have an outstanding nanny?

I see this nanny in the library and park all the time. Not only is she wonderful with the little boy in her care but she is also very kind and sweet to all the kids. I have seen the parents with the little boy on the weekends and was wondering if it was appropriate that I introduce myself to them and tell them how great I think their nanny is.

I am a FTM and a SAHM so I have no experience in the "nanny world" but went through high school and college babysitting for extra money so the concept of childcare is not foreign to me. I would also limit my praise to just what I have seen. I wouldn't presume to know how the nanny is with the child when they are at home.

[Anonymous]

Definitely! Kudos to you for caring.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely, OP. I would appreciate any information about my nanny - positive or negative - from another parent who sees her out-and-about.

[Anonymous]

Both appropriate and greatly appreciated, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both appropriate and greatly appreciated, OP.

+1 I wish more people gave me feedback on our nanny.

[Anonymous]

Go for it!

[Anonymous]

Sure. I'd love to hear that from another mom.

[Anonymous]

People stop me all the time in the neighborhood when they see my kids to tell me how they know them and how good the nanny is. It's such a relief to know when I'm not there, they are being well taken care of. Every single time it happens I'm relieved.

[Anonymous]

Former nanny here. I had neighbors and others tell my employers positive reviews. I never knew this until I left, but my MB mentioned this in her final review of me and that it gave her an extra sense of security.


Also as a nanny there are so many negative stories about us a good report is always appropriate.

[Anonymous]

You'd be quick to share something you didn't like.
Read: not abuse just something you didn't like.
Why not be quick to share something positive?

[Anonymous]

Please do! The people at the toy store came up to tell me how great our au pair was - I already knew it but it was great to hear it from others. And our au pair was thrilled to hear it.

[Anonymous]

One of the staff at my daughter's preschool stopped to tell me how well the au pair handled a meltdown at pick up one day. I was very happy to hear it - she was new and things seemed to be going well and it was just nice to hear confirmation that things were as I thought they were. I think any parent would be too.

[Anonymous]

I find it inappropriate to meddle.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I find it inappropriate to meddle.

I agree. No matter if you are saying something nice, OP, you are still a butinsky. No doubt you also would tell if you THOUGHT you witness her doing something of which you do not approve.

[Anonymous]

No. It is patronizing To the nanny.