Is it appropriate...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. It is patronizing To the nanny.

I strongly disagree.

When I was a nanny, a few neighbors who routinely saw me out with the kids praised me to MB & DB, who then relayed what the neighbors said to me. I really appreciated getting the positive feedback & I'm guessing it helped to reassure the parents that their kids were being well cared for while they were at work.

[Anonymous]

No, it is not inappropriate to do so. By all means, go ahead + let the parents know.

They will most likely appreciate the feedback and it will absolutely restore confidence that they have made the right choice overall!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find it inappropriate to meddle.

I agree. No matter if you are saying something nice, OP, you are still a butinsky. No doubt you also would tell if you THOUGHT you witness her doing something of which you do not approve.

Not necessarily. When I see some one being short with the kids, I don't automatically assume it's like that all day. Everyone caring for a three year old who asks why why why all day long + a reflux baby is going have some not so perfect moments, like when loading the kids in & out of the car and trying to get to drop off on time. Kinda stressful, no? So if I hear a harsh tone "stop running and get over here!", I don't automatically assume that I know everything I need to know in order to report it to the parents. If I see abuse, then sure I would report that but a general lack of warmth? I can't assess that with a single snapshot without further context.

Conversely, when I see the nanny handling a stressful situation with warmth and kindness, that says a lot IMO. I would have given her the benefit of the doubt if she got frustrated with the kid's meltdown, but she didn't. That's notable.