severance pay

[Anonymous]

I had to let my nanny go after 8 month, she is a great nanny and family friend to our little boy but we had to let her go because our relatives just moved in to our home. They are planing on living with us so we no longer need her. We only gave her a week notice and would like to still be on good terms with her since she is a family friend. My husband only wants to give her $350 as severance and I am unsure if that is adequate enough since she makes double this in a week. What are your thoughts?
PS my husband is very stingy

[Anonymous]

You gave her a weeks notice, you
should be ashamed of yourself.
How would you like it if she have
you a weeks notice? You should
give her at least two weeks severance.

[Anonymous]

I don't think severance is required anyways, so I feel $350 is more than adequate so you should be fine. If she is a real friend the money won't matter. Don't stress mama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You gave her a weeks notice, you
should be ashamed of yourself.
How would you like it if she have
you a weeks notice? You should
give her at least two weeks severance.

+1 Your DH is wrong and two weeks severance/notice is minimum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had to let my nanny go after 8 month, she is a great nanny and family friend to our little boy but we had to let her go because our relatives just moved in to our home. They are planing on living with us so we no longer need her. We only gave her a week notice and would like to still be on good terms with her since she is a family friend. My husband only wants to give her $350 as severance and I am unsure if that is adequate enough since she makes double this in a week. What are your thoughts?
PS my husband is very stingy

This is not fear,you mess her life,do you have any idea how is to get a new family?, you have to give to her least 3 weeks payd and you have to help her to find anther replacement..
Nice American family do that ,what you plan to do is very bad.

[Anonymous]

Very shitty OP. Very, very shitty.

[Anonymous]

MB here. One week's notice is extremely abrupt. Severance pay can mitigate the pain and economic disruption of being fired but half a week's pay doesn't go very far.

If you or your husband were fired how much severance would it take for you to feel ok with it and to have some degree of financial security while you were looking for another job?

What if she were leaving you? Wouldn't you want more than a week to line up her replacement? Treat others the way you would like to be treated.

Try to frame it in those kinds of terms for your husband and see if you can do better.

I would not expect any positive ongoing relationship with this nanny w/ the notice and severance you've described above.

[Anonymous]

You should give her minimum 1 wk severance in addition to the one week notice. Minimum. Torr husband is a selfish ass and this is going to come back to bite him when the relatives take poor care of your kids and annoy the crap out of him living there.

[Anonymous]

Well she definitely isnt going to be a family friend after that. You fucked up and your husband is a dick. How long have you known your parents were moving in? I'm sure longer than a week. You could have given her a months notice. It's not like you have to pay someone else for childcare now, so give your nanny two weeks severance for being abruptly let go for no fault of her own. Stop being cheap and do what's right.

[Anonymous]

I also hope you paid taxes if your not going to give proper severance because I would definitely go for unemployment and drag you under for tax evasion if you didn't.

[Anonymous]

She will not be a family friend for long. You do not reward a wonderful nanny by screwing them over. Two weeks notice/severance is the BARE minimum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also hope you paid taxes if your not going to give proper severance because I would definitely go for unemployment and drag you under for tax evasion if you didn't.

+1

If you let her go because of nothing related to the care provided to your children, a minimum of 2 weeks severance should be given. I don't care how frugal your husband is. Tell him to think of all the money he is saving by firing a nanny with one weeks notice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think severance is required anyways, so I feel $350 is more than adequate so you should be fine. If she is a real friend the money won't matter. Don't stress mama.

That is a fine amount.

[Anonymous]

Since you only gave her a week's notice, if you can afford to do so, could you perhaps at least offer her two week's worth of pay? That is if you can financially do it.

If not, then $350 will suffice.

[Anonymous]

MB here- okay, some people are going too far by calling you names, not necessary or helpful. I understand the situation changed so it sounds like you needed to make a change in your childcare. That said, I think 1 week notice and 1/2 week pay is too short. Can you still have her work part time for awhile so she has some income and *actively* help her find a new job if she wants one?