What to charge nanny who will bring her 8 month old son to watch my 7 month old son at my house?

[Anonymous]

So this is a "nanny-share" but since it's her own child, I'm not sure whats fair in terms of pricing etc. This is a part time arrangement so I will be paying her cash and if we increase hours to full time I can consider other benefits etc as well.

Just trying to figure out fair pay. She would come to my home, I have a pack and play and will clearly share all toys/baby stuff etc for whatever she needs for her boy.

What is a good hourly rate?

[Anonymous]

OP here - sorry not "charge" but what to "pay her"...she charges me duh!

[Anonymous]

Wait, so if it was just your child you would pay her, and if she took her child to daycare or had a nanny then she would pay that person, so why not call it a wash and neither of you pay anything while she watches the kids.

Unless I'm missing something here?

[Anonymous]

Nanny shares of two kids, each different families pay $9-10/hr each. So I'd start there. More kids and the per kid rate goes down.
Nanny shares each family supplies their kids diapers, wipes, bedding, extra clothes, and food/milk/snacks.

[Anonymous]

Are you talking about a full day time coverage or date night?

I would say 9-10 an hour is great. Although- you will be paying more for this arrangment than just putting your kid in daycare.

We had a set up like this- where a SAHM friend of ours watched DS until we got a daycare spot. She was great- but I always knew that my kid took a back seat to hers. Naps were altered so her kid could go to ballet, doctor, ect. I did not freak out- this is what would happen if our son was not an only- but it did not feel great either.
When we got into daycare it was refreshing to know that all the kids were on the same playing field.

[Anonymous]

If she's any good, she'll be moving on to a better family. GL, op.

[Anonymous]

Considering that we don't know the area you live in OP, this would be difficult to exactly answer, but in general since she is bringing along her own child that is considered a HUGE perk on her end plus it also means your child will get less attention from her and let's face it....He will get treated less favorably in most instances since he is not her child. It is only natural.

So I would pay her probably $10/Hr...??

[Anonymous]

If you pay her nanny share rates, as in $8-$10/hour, she is an equal partner in the share and her wants/needs for her child are just as important as yours. She has an equal say in how things are done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you pay her nanny share rates, as in $8-$10/hour, she is an equal partner in the share and her wants/needs for her child are just as important as yours. She has an equal say in how things are done.

No she doesn't. Her child coming is a benefit. OP is still her MB and still determines how things are done for her child.

[Anonymous]

OT but aren't you afraid that she won't pay nearly as much attention to your son as her own son? Your poor little guy could be begging for her attention and she will choose him second to her own child. Your son will be growing up thinking he is second best.

I think this is a terrible idea, OP!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you pay her nanny share rates, as in $8-$10/hour, she is an equal partner in the share and her wants/needs for her child are just as important as yours. She has an equal say in how things are done.

No she doesn't. Her child coming is a benefit. OP is still her MB and still determines how things are done for her child.

Yes. She does. If she accepts a discounted rate because her baby is there...she is "paying" her portion of the share.
Of course OP can determine how things are done for her child, but so does the nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait, so if it was just your child you would pay her, and if she took her child to daycare or had a nanny then she would pay that person, so why not call it a wash and neither of you pay anything while she watches the kids.

Unless I'm missing something here?

Yes! She should watch your child for free. Just explain to her what a favor you are doing for her. Maybe offer her an apple, but only one a day!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait, so if it was just your child you would pay her, and if she took her child to daycare or had a nanny then she would pay that person, so why not call it a wash and neither of you pay anything while she watches the kids.

Unless I'm missing something here?

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No one could be this stupid...

[Anonymous]

OP here - thanks $10 an hour is what I was thinking. Part of the reason im doing this is to make it affordable to have in home care. I realize day care or other things may be cheaper but I work from home and wanted someone at the house with me. In terms of favoritism I'll defintely have an eye out for it to see how it goes but from our brief meetings I think it'll be fine since it's only part time. We'll see.

Thanks for the advice on rates!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you talking about a full day time coverage or date night?

I would say 9-10 an hour is great. Although- you will be paying more for this arrangment than just putting your kid in daycare.

We had a set up like this- where a SAHM friend of ours watched DS until we got a daycare spot. She was great- but I always knew that my kid took a back seat to hers. Naps were altered so her kid could go to ballet, doctor, ect. I did not freak out- this is what would happen if our son was not an only- but it did not feel great either.
When we got into daycare it was refreshing to know that all the kids were on the same playing field.

Asking a friend who stays at home to watch your child is vastly different than a nanny bringing her own child, how is this not obvious?