Nanny told me she isnt coming on time

[Anonymous]

Excuse me? I'm appalled. My nanny first text me this morning to see if I was off, I work from home so unless it's impossible to get here or the Internet is out then I'm working. She's supposed to show up at 12:30pm. Her text around 8am was that she was going to come at 1pm (her usual start time however this month we agreed she would start at 12:30pm). Although it isn't a huge inconvenience because I don't actually start until 1:30 I just got a bad vibe from her text. Her reasoning was because she's not sure how bad the roads are. I understand wanting to be safe, etc but my thoughts are that you need to plan accordingly to be to work at your scheduled time. I feel as though she thinks because im not actually working she can show up at her desired time. Apart from a previous last minute call out over something she could of gave us notice to, she is a great nanny. Am I overreacting? I did want to run a few quick errands.

[Anonymous]

I'm confused. Are you working or not today?

[Anonymous]

Yes I'm working at 1:30. But I run errands the first hour nanny is here. So by her essentially coming 30 mins late I can no longer do the stuff I'd planned.

[Anonymous]

Has she done this before?
If not, cut her some slack.
I've been in situations like this. The roads are bad or traffic is heavy. I let my Mb know that I could be running a bit late, as I want to give myself as much time as possible to get there. Does she work another job before yours?
Perhaps she wants some extra time so she doesn't have to rush and risk an accident.

[Anonymous]

She's off from her other morning job today. Those parents are off when government offices shut down. And aside from the time mentioned above then yes it's her first time.

[Anonymous]

OP, you're appalling.

[Anonymous]

If I worked outside of home I can't tell my employer 4 hours before I start I'll be late because I don't know how traffic will be? Is that not the same case here?

[Anonymous]

the roads are fine right now...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Has she done this before?
If not, cut her some slack.
I've been in situations like this. The roads are bad or traffic is heavy. I let my Mb know that I could be running a bit late, as I want to give myself as much time as possible to get there. Does she work another job before yours?
Perhaps she wants some extra time so she doesn't have to rush and risk an accident.

this is silly, she didn't text 20 minutes before she was supposed to show up she texted HOURS before. traffic and road conditions have nothing to do with that since they will certainly be different in that time frame

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Excuse me? I'm appalled. My nanny first text me this morning to see if I was off, I work from home so unless it's impossible to get here or the Internet is out then I'm working. She's supposed to show up at 12:30pm. Her text around 8am was that she was going to come at 1pm (her usual start time however this month we agreed she would start at 12:30pm). Although it isn't a huge inconvenience because I don't actually start until 1:30 I just got a bad vibe from her text. Her reasoning was because she's not sure how bad the roads are. I understand wanting to be safe, etc but my thoughts are that you need to plan accordingly to be to work at your scheduled time. I feel as though she thinks because im not actually working she can show up at her desired time. Apart from a previous last minute call out over something she could of gave us notice to, she is a great nanny. Am I overreacting? I did want to run a few quick errands.

Stop assigning her motives. Tell her what you expect and, if you worry she's going to be a flake, hire someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's off from her other morning job today. Those parents are off when government offices shut down. And aside from the time mentioned above then yes it's her first time.

Do you know for sure that she is off from her other job or are you assuming?

[Anonymous]

So, you go out when your husband gets home after work. Simple. You sound unrasonable.

[Anonymous]

I think your nanny is taking advantage. She clearly just doesn't want to leave that bit earlier to make it on time and resents the fact you're not actually working the first hour she is there.
I definitely wouldn't pay her for the time she missed but if you like her in all other ways I would probably just let this go

[Anonymous]

She's wrong. When you're worried about the roads you leave earlier.

[Anonymous]

Why can't she just go in at 1.30? If I were her I'd be wondering what you have to do that's so pressing it can't wait and can only be done during that one hour on a snowy cold yucky day. Chill out.