3 family Nanny Share?

[Anonymous]

Looking for a bit of advice, insight and experiences from anyone who has been in a 3 family share or even just 2 that might have good advice. There are three expecting families hoping to create a share together. The first baby would start around 10 weeks solo. That baby would be 5 to 6 months when the next baby starts around 3 months old, and the other shortly thereafter.

Is it unrealistic to think a nanny can handle a 5-6 month old and two 3-4 month olds at once? And if not, if anyone has experiences with nannies who are capable of this arrangement that might be available late this summer I'd love more info.

Thanks!

[Anonymous]

It's possible, but you will have to pay this person very, very well.

[Anonymous]

It's possible you will want someone with infant multiples experience even better if that person has maybe infant daycae experience so they are used to managing infants in different developmental phases at once.

I would also suggest you agree to host the share in one home.

Then you have to think of equipment. Where will babies nap and feed?

Purchasing a triple stroller for the nanny or at least a double stroller and a good carrier for baby wearing etc etc.

You have to give the nanny the freedom to create a schedule that works for her and the babies and more or less stick to that on the weekends.

That's just the tip of the iceberg.
As pp mentioned it is going to cost you like starting at $27 hour and upwards from there.

[Anonymous]

I think it's too much to ask. Our nanny had her hands very full with my twins from 3-11 months.

[Anonymous]

This is not realistic. Even two babies are a boatload of work. BTDT.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's possible you will want someone with infant multiples experience even better if that person has maybe infant daycae experience so they are used to managing infants in different developmental phases at once.

I would also suggest you agree to host the share in one home.

Then you have to think of equipment. Where will babies nap and feed?

Purchasing a triple stroller for the nanny or at least a double stroller and a good carrier for baby wearing etc etc.

You have to give the nanny the freedom to create a schedule that works for her and the babies and more or less stick to that on the weekends.

That's just the tip of the iceberg.
As pp mentioned it is going to cost you like starting at $27 hour and upwards from there.

I agree with all your suggestions. It's definitely doable. I've worked with 3 before. I definitely co-sign with keeping the share in one home. Moving constantly in a share can be nerve racking, and disrupts whatever schedule the nanny wants to create.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's possible you will want someone with infant multiples experience even better if that person has maybe infant daycae experience so they are used to managing infants in different developmental phases at once.

I would also suggest you agree to host the share in one home.

Then you have to think of equipment. Where will babies nap and feed?

Purchasing a triple stroller for the nanny or at least a double stroller and a good carrier for baby wearing etc etc.

You have to give the nanny the freedom to create a schedule that works for her and the babies and more or less stick to that on the weekends.

That's just the tip of the iceberg.
As pp mentioned it is going to cost you like starting at $27 hour and upwards from there.

I agree with all your suggestions. It's definitely doable. I've worked with 3 before. I definitely co-sign with keeping the share in one home. Moving constantly in a share can be nerve racking, and disrupts whatever schedule the nanny wants to create.

Do you really think it's a good idea for the babies, generally speaking?

[Anonymous]

I have two kids and we had a temporary nanny who brought her child, who was between my two in terms of age. I will say that the logistics of 3 car seats, 3 kids/babies who need to be carried and/or rolled is limiting. A three way share would work if you don't expect the nanny to drive the kids around - sticking only to things in the neighborhood. A double stroller + the third baby in a carrier would be a must if you can't find a triple stroller (do those even exist?).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two kids and we had a temporary nanny who brought her child, who was between my two in terms of age. I will say that the logistics of 3 car seats, 3 kids/babies who need to be carried and/or rolled is limiting. A three way share would work if you don't expect the nanny to drive the kids around - sticking only to things in the neighborhood. A double stroller + the third baby in a carrier would be a must if you can't find a triple stroller (do those even exist?).

Again, for three unrelated babies, do you imagine this would likely be good for the three babies?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have two kids and we had a temporary nanny who brought her child, who was between my two in terms of age. I will say that the logistics of 3 car seats, 3 kids/babies who need to be carried and/or rolled is limiting. A three way share would work if you don't expect the nanny to drive the kids around - sticking only to things in the neighborhood. A double stroller + the third baby in a carrier would be a must if you can't find a triple stroller (do those even exist?).

Again, for three unrelated babies, do you imagine this would likely be good for the three babies?

I don't think OP is look for a debate on the merits of this for her child(ren) - just input on the logistics.

But if you send your baby to daycare then you get at least this number of infants in any given setting so a triple share is not necessarily significantly different from that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have two kids and we had a temporary nanny who brought her child, who was between my two in terms of age. I will say that the logistics of 3 car seats, 3 kids/babies who need to be carried and/or rolled is limiting. A three way share would work if you don't expect the nanny to drive the kids around - sticking only to things in the neighborhood. A double stroller + the third baby in a carrier would be a must if you can't find a triple stroller (do those even exist?).

Again, for three unrelated babies, do you imagine this would likely be good for the three babies?

I don't think OP is look for a debate on the merits of this for her child(ren) - just input on the logistics.

But if you send your baby to daycare then you get at least this number of infants in any given setting so a triple share is not necessarily significantly different from that.

Hence, "The Hell of American Daycare."

[Anonymous]

What the heck would possess you to do this? what exactly is the benefit? I'm truly confused. This sounds more like a home daycare without the regulation, license, insurance, set-up, or helpers.

My kids went to a home daycare and there were 12 children, 3 adults, and never more than 3 babies. They had everything set up for the babies to foster safety and consistency, plus all the required licenses and state mandated training.

I would never host such a spectacle. What if something happens to one of the kids? Like they choke on something off the floor, tumble down stairs, or wander down the street. That would be my ass sued. No thanks.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I am asking because I am curious if it's even a possibility both logistically and for the good of the babies and parents.

As far as "what the heck would possess you to do this?", the answer is that there are three families that get along very well, have similar expectations for their children and seem like a great fit for a share so we'd love to see if it could work. If it's not possible that is fine, and one of the three will have to figure out other arrangements.

As a group of all first time parents we are new to the childcare arena and are just trying to research, ask for insight from those who have been there and find out what is and is not possible and reasonable.

[Anonymous]

Can one person handle three infants? absolutely. It will be a ton of work and the nanny will be exhausted, but it's possible. there are triplet nannies out there.

The issue is the share. I've been in long term two family shares that are consider successful, however, as an employee dealing with two sets of families is annoying. The logistics, parenting styles, different expectations can be overwhelming. You need to hire someone who has pervious experience with not only multiple children but also shares in general in order for it to last. With all my years of experience I would NEVER do a share with three sets of parents no matter how well they pay. The hassle of communicating with everyone, organizing plans, coordinating vacations, figuring out sick days, routines, travel is a major pain in the ass. You can forget about activities outside the home because it would require a triple stroller, a car large enough to fit three car seats plus that stroller. So one of the families need to provide a large enough vehicle or you need to find a nanny with an suv/minivan who is also willing to permanently give up her entire backseat to car seats. Taking three car seats in and out of a car weekly is ridiculous.

The rate would be very very high. I'd expect a minimum of $30 for a share of this kind because of the hassle of dealing with three babies from three different families with three different routines plus having to juggling three sets of employers. But hey, you might find some naive desperate nanny with minimal experience willing to take the job for low pay. Just don't expect her to stay very long.

[Anonymous]

What's the point? Who is to benefit from such an arrangement?