Think I chose the wrong family
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Anonymous
I have always been fortunate in finding awesome family's to nanny for. I recently interviewed for a job and was offered 3 positions but chose the one closest to me with less traffic. This week has been my first week and it's been a week from hell and now I am wondering if I made the right decision. All the families I have worked for I have enjoyed being in their home from day 1.We just always had a good bond. No such luck with this family. Now it's day 5, with this family and I have wanted to quit three times already, I have cried in the bathroom because these kids were driving me insane; they do not listen, cry all the time and are just spoilt. No schedule. I don't even get time to eat and have a 15 minute break. Clearly they are used of getting their own way. Do I stay and hope it gets better? Or leave now??? Will I become an unhappy nanny, if I stay lol...? Wish I did like a weekend or evening trial before just agreeing to the job. Help!!! 
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Anonymous
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Tell you employers now that it isn't working out and give notice. Things will not get better. A two or three week hole in your resume won't matter to a new employer but any longer would definitely need to be explained and this is not something you will want to talk about.
Give notice this morning. Life is too short. |
Anonymous
| Get out of there. Say goodbye today right after you get your paycheck. GL. |
Anonymous
| I can't tell you if you should stay or not, but if you do decide to leave it would not be fair to take their money. If you quit decline your paycheck and move on, you haven't really done anything to earn that money except show up and cry in the bathroom, you did not give those children what a nanny should. |
Anonymous
Shut up don't listen to this troll. Take your money and if they decline to pay then report to the police. |
Anonymous
Exactly. The troll needs to be reported to get rid of her. |
Anonymous
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Listen to what your heart is telling you. It's not a good fit.
Every wonderful job I've had, I've know in the first few days that I would love it. The one crappy job I had, I couldn't seem to click with them. I kept trying to give it more time. It just never happened. Start interviewing and get out of there. |
Anonymous
Huh? |
Anonymous
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Give notice today. I know from a hard-earned experience that it will not get any better.
If you walk out today and don't come back then refuse your paycheck. If you give two weeks notice, then of course accept your very hard earned pay. Better luck next time, OP. Some kids are brats (bad parenting) and there is nothing a nanny can do. |
Anonymous
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I agree they should be reported...YES Leave it's not worth it.....Let them deal . Happiness better than money!!MONEY doesn't Give HAPPINESS!!! for what? Good luck my dear? |
Anonymous
| Hike up your skirt and run, OP. The other PPs are right - the situation will not improve. Give notice today and work out whatever time you promised them (2 weeks is more than enough). The next two weeks will be easier knowing that you are outta there. |
Anonymous
You are crazy. She worked and she gets paid. |
Anonymous
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Do not take the dumb advice regarding not accepting a week's pay. This must have been written by the same person and it is illegal and makes no sense to me at all. What useless logic.
If it a check, make sure it fully clears with your bank before you give notice, trust me on this. Anyway, no this job will not get any better, I promise you. After you have your $money in your hands, give your immediate notice to this family. Tell them this trial week was just too challenging for you and that you feel that you are just not a suitable match for the children. If she asks you to stay until they find another nanny, let them know that you simply cannot accommodate her wishes due to the stress of the job. If she tries to lure you back by making you feel guilty by leaving her "high and dry" without adequate childcare, do not let her do that. It is her responsibility to secure back-up childcare in case things didn't pan out for the trial week. If she didn't make a Plan B., then that is her bad. Not yours. |
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On one hand, I wonder if things would get better over time if you are able to get them on a schedule and set some boundaries? You didn't mention how old the kids are. If they're younger that might work.
On the other hand I recently quit a job that I knew in the interview wasn't a great fit, just OK, but I took the job because I had a preexisting trip planned when my previous family moved out of state and I had a hard time finding a job that could work around the trip. I wasn't going to cancel the trip I had saved all year for. The family and I got along OK, but it just wasn't a great match and I started last week with a family that is a much better match and I am really glad I made the switch. I stuck it out four months at the other job hoping it would improve over time and it really didn't. |
Anonymous
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MB here and I agree with the others - leave now.
Contact the other two families with whom you interviewed (if you liked them) and see if the position is still open. Be honest and say that you chose a job based on the commute but it isn't the best fit. If you get really lucky one of them will still be looking and you can have a seamless transition. Then give notice to current employer today. If you think you can stand it (and if they're calm enough to merit it) give them a week's notice so they can try to line something up. Give them some agency names and numbers so they can get short-term coverage. Then get out. I'm not a nanny but I have had the experience of knowing in the first week that I made a terrible mistake taking a new job. I couldn't afford to quit and it took me 6 months to find something else but they were six miserable months and my gut instincts from the first week were dead right. You sound like an experienced nanny so you should trust your gut. Good luck. I hope you can find something better quickly! |