Would you leave a family you like for more money?

[Anonymous]

I started with NF two weeks ago. I really like my new position and the family. They are wonderful people and my job is great. I couldn't ask for better people to work for. I am paid the rate I asked for ( average market rate for my area).

I was suppose to interview with a family while interviewing for the family I chose but they had to postpone due to a death in their family. Now they want to interview me. The job is a few hours more a week but a $2/hr pay increase. It will an extra $900 per month.

That money is a big deal because I am a student and I pay my own tuition.

I do feel slightly guilty because I am employed. I also worry that I may accept a position ( I am highly sought after) that pays more but I do not like my employers, etc.

Nannies - WWYD?

[Anonymous]

You only just started with your new employers and I think it would be wrong to leave so soon. It would be different, of course, if you hadn't yet accepted the position or if you had cause to leave your new job (cause being that they didn't pay you on time, lied about responsibilities, were abusive, etc.).


Leaving now would definitely be wrong and karma is a bitch.

- signed a nanny.

[Anonymous]

I'd be worried the universe would come back to bite me in the ass since its kind of a dickish move to accept a job and then leave that quickly. Like the parents would be awful to work for, the kids would be miserable, my school schedule eventually wouldn't work with the job, etc.

[Anonymous]

It would be a very wrong thing to leave your new job this soon because a better one came along. Very, very wrong and, as PP wrote, something like that will come back to bite you in the ass.

What if your new employers let you go because someone cheaper came along now? You know what you would think of them.


Everyone has responsibilities and most of us paid for our own educations - that is no reason to be a dick. You made a commitment to this new family.

[Anonymous]

Go interview with them and tell them that you have a job you like but you would be happy to do some occasional sitting for them.
Everyone needs backup care.

Who knows what might happen in the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It would be a very wrong thing to leave your new job this soon because a better one came along. Very, very wrong and, as PP wrote, something like that will come back to bite you in the ass.

What if your new employers let you go because someone cheaper came along now? You know what you would think of them.


Everyone has responsibilities and most of us paid for our own educations - that is no reason to be a dick. You made a commitment to this new family.

So true. This post would be several pages long berating the OP if she were an MB.

[Anonymous]

I'm going to be the lone dissenter here. You are newly employed, and probably still within the trial period of your contract. Your main responsibility is to yourself, and if this new job would be a better situation for you, it'd be silly to turn it down because of a sense of loyalty for some people you've known for a couple of weeks. Take the interview, see what happens, and make your exit as professionally as possible, but don't feel bad for doing what is best for you. If after 2 weeks with you, your nanny family heard back from a nanny they interviewed and loved, that she'd like the job and will work for $900 less per month, what do you think would happen?

[Anonymous]

Op here. Thanks for all the responses. I am always the person that does the right thing. Unfortunately I have put many families before my school scheduling leading me to miss semesters, canceling or rearranging plans to be available for last minute issues or late nights. I know that it's sucky and wrong and I normally wouldn't even let this thought run through my mind but I am so tired.

I have worked for great families and gave 110% for my job only to have the job end unexpectedly. One family really dicked me over. After talking with my employers about the long-term expect and being assured they were happy with my work, I signed a lease on a place and then not even two weeks later MB quit her job and let me go. I also had a situation where I worked for a nice family who I based my school schedule around only to have them give me notice that they were moving out of state.

It's time I put myself first and not my job. It's time I put my feelings and career ahead of everyone else. I'm just tired of being the one getting screwed in the end.

[Anonymous]

OP, if your NF could replace you with a nanny fid $2.00 less an hour, they would. It is a job, nothing more. Tskd the money and run.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to be the lone dissenter here. You are newly employed, and probably still within the trial period of your contract. Your main responsibility is to yourself, and if this new job would be a better situation for you, it'd be silly to turn it down because of a sense of loyalty for some people you've known for a couple of weeks. Take the interview, see what happens, and make your exit as professionally as possible, but don't feel bad for doing what is best for you. If after 2 weeks with you, your nanny family heard back from a nanny they interviewed and loved, that she'd like the job and will work for $900 less per month, what do you think would happen?

I am their first choice. They have said this to me several times and even MB's mom made a reference how they were worried I would be taken. They offered me the position hours after we interviewed. They hurried to write up a contract, check references, and do a thorough background check.

MB raved to her family and friends about me and thanked me profusely for the easy two weeks and being the nanny I am. They are great people but I know if MB or DB got a job in another state that was too good to not take, they would. I have to do what is best for me in the end and put my future first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if your NF could replace you with a nanny fid $2.00 less an hour, they would. It is a job, nothing more. Tskd the money and run.

For not fid and Take not Tskd

[Anonymous]

Nope.

[Anonymous]

What you are thinking about doing is wrong, OP, and you know it. The fact that you have been dicked around by other people is no reason to do it to this new family. In fact, having been burned and knowing what it feels like should be a greater motivation to do the right thing.

You are not "putting yourself first" when you do the wrong thing.

Take PP's suggestion and explain to the two-buck-more-an-hour family the situation and that you would love to work for them on you days off.

[Anonymous]

If I just "liked" my NF I would consider everything and if the other job worked out better for me I would do it. $900 seems like a lot but I consider many other things including location, schedule, kids, etc. But if I "loved" my NF like I do with my current one I would not consider leaving them, even for an extra $900 a month.

MBs take note, you can keep a nanny easily without paying an absurd rate and offering every single benefit by just being a wonderful person and employer.

[Anonymous]

Yikes. This is a tough call OP.

On one hand, you made a commitment to this new family by accepting their job and by all accounts, it sounds like a great fit for everyone.

Yet on the other hand, you have the potential to make more money from this other job, yet you do not know yet if you will even get this job yet or if you will even mesh well with this other family.

Here is what I would do: I would simply not rush this yet. However, go to the interview and see what it's about. Meet the family, see how the chemistry flows and get some more job details too. They may also be interviewing other nannies too so you could be jumping the gun here.

Then if you actually do get the job offer, weigh the pros and cons and then you can make the decision.