I feel horrible for looking at new nanny jobs

[Anonymous]

I have a pretty good nanny job. They pay me well, I get plenty of vacation and we all seem to get along well. Somethings are eh but doable (like db just not following schedules when he's home or both parents just giving into the whining A THE TIME). I have been with them almost a year.

I've already been with multiple agencies (and they know I'm unable but they keep my resume on file).

I just saw a job posting with one of the agencies. It (on the surface) seems great. About 3 times as much pay (the pay is amazing!), full benefits, car, and traveling 75% of the year with the family (globally). I sent an email to the agency today and we are talking more on Monday.

I have a huge knot in my stomach. I keep telling myself if I was in any other business if I had seen a better job opportunity it would be ok to go.
(I also feel horrible because I saw my holiday gift (mb left it and my bonus on the counter today. I tried to pretend I didn't see anything and she quickly hid it when I was feeding the LOs)

Please tell me its ok to just talk to the agency, see more about it and not feel guilty.

[Anonymous]

Think of it this way: if they found someone who they could pay three times less, who was a better cook than you and spoke four languages, they wouldn't hesitate to dump you for them.

Go for it. Say you can start after the new year so you get your bonus.

[Anonymous]

I know exactly how you feel. It's so hard when the family is completely fine and you get along.

But it's fine to talk to the agency and find out more. What wouldn't be fine is telling them on Tuesday night that you won't be coming on Wednesday, but it seems like you're going to be gracious and considerate about your quitting, should that happen, so go for it.

[Anonymous]

Look at it this way OP, you have nothing spectacular to offer the new family that pays a ton and travels around the world. You aren't a serious contender for this job so I say go for it, live a little and have fun. Just don't do anything to jeopardize your real job.

[Anonymous]

Nothing is as good as it sounds. You will be working very hard.

[Anonymous]

You can absolutely talk to the agency. No offense intended, but there's no guarantee you'll get offered the job.

[Anonymous]

Op here

I know just talking to the agency doesn't guarantee me the job at all.
And yes I feel that even though it sounds amazing, there could be potential problems (I really don't want that crazy family). I also would never just leave my current family.

I am still going to talk to them, hopefully not feeling guilty.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes you have to do you.

Nothing wrong with looking into something new.

You won't know if you don't try.

[Anonymous]

You look after yourself because no poo no one else will. Go for it!

[Anonymous]

MB here. It's always fine to look at and investigate better job opportunities when they come along. It's done in every profession. In fact, a former mentor told me it was a good idea to look at job listings and try and interview every few years, just to see what's out there and if there might be a better fit for me in a new job. Of course, I don't have time to do that, but if I heard about a new job I liked, I would look into it. You're just fine.

Of course, if this do get the offer, I would hope you give your NF adequate notice (at least 2 weeks) and be professional about leaving in every way.

Good luck, OP.

[Anonymous]

If you were 100% happy at your current job, you wouldn't be looking.

But obviously there is something not quite right in your current position and that has caused you to look elsewhere.

So I wouldn't feel any guilt.

If you do decide to accept another job, at least try to bow out gracefully by giving adequate notice and not leave this family high and dry. They do not sound awful to me.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

MB here. I agree with 12:21 - your profession in your profession and you have to put what is best for you and your career first. This is life -we all make these calculations in our jobs, and if we're smart and decent we do our absolute best to make any transition as painless as possible for employers we respect and with whom we want to preserve a good relationship.

However, DO NOT talk to your current employer about this before you even have any inkling of whether you would want the job or be a serious contender. There is no good that can come of making your employers feel that you're halfway out the door. If the new job doesn't pan out your employers will never quite forget hearing that you were considering leaving.

There is no need to tell them yet.

I'd give this exact same advice regardless of your profession BTW.

[Anonymous]

I get it, but try not to feel guilty. We all unfortunately need money in this life to have a secure future and pay the bills, if you can make three times more and travel you definitely should. Good luck let us know how the new job sounds and if you get it!! I would love to travel but not sure how hard that would be with parents hanging around etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you were 100% happy at your current job, you wouldn't be looking.

But obviously there is something not quite right in your current position and that has caused you to look elsewhere.

So I wouldn't feel any guilt.

If you do decide to accept another job, at least try to bow out gracefully by giving adequate notice and not leave this family high and dry. They do not sound awful to me.

Good luck.

I disagree. First of all, no job is going to make someone 100% happy, and the OP acknowledged that. Second, this dream job comes with 3x the pay for a reason -- it's a give-up-your-life, 24/7, travel position. If she's interested in that kind of work even for a short time, then she should absolutely go for it. It's a totally different kind of job.

[Anonymous]

the unknown over the known....