How to deal with my MB?

[Anonymous]

I've recently started a new job and I now regret taking the offer over others. MB seemed really great and in tune with what I was searching for in a family. Last week the baby had a big blowout and it ended up all over my clothes while I was feeding him. I asked MB if I can quickly go home and clean up. She told me no because while she was working from home, she had important calls. About 5 hours later DB comes home and MB and him are watching tv while I'm still working. That when on for two more hours. I felt very disrespected and its completely unhygienic. I had to work 10 hours ( even go outside) with feces all over my shirt and leggings. Second thing is MB has started to leave her breakfast dishes out and has made two comments about them still being at the nook when she got home. My charge is high-needs and I don't have time to clean up after her. Third, I'm not allowed to cook myself anything in their kitchen. I don't have time and not much of a problem, but a little irritating if I want to bring soup to warm up. I am more upset over the hygiene issue and the fact that she thinks its my duty to clean up after her now. That was not in my job description.

I am working today but asked in advance to take off tomorrow. I was diagnosed with PCOS a month ago and I have limited time ability. I work 7:30am - 8pm, M-F. I need to see my doctor for consultation on what to do to deal with and reverse PCOS. She was understanding and said taking the day was fine ( its unpaid). She has been making passive aggressive remarks about my day off tomorrow, which she cleared the day I started working. I've been there there weeks and already feel so unwelcome. My job will be a temp for 6 months until they move out of state. I'm trying to stick it out but on the other hand, I am so unhappy and feel like quitting due to disrespect. All the families I worked previously have been great and I am still I touch will them all. I've never had to deal with having a job I was unhappy in and I'm not sure what is the appropriate way to handle this situation?? Thank you all.

[Anonymous]

Sounds awful, OP. I would let MB know all you've expressed here and tell her you're moving on to another family.

[Anonymous]

Who the hell goes home in the middle of their work day? Either stash a bag with backup clothes at their house or keep the bag in your car. That way if it happens again you don't even ask - you just go grab your bag and change your clothes.

Next time she makes a comment about her breakfast dishes, "Oh, I'm sorry - when we talked about the position my understanding was that I am to clean up after the baby's food and clothing. Nothing was ever said about cleaning up after your or your husband's meals. And honestly, I'm so busy with Larlo that I barely have a free minute to eat my lunch while working 11.5 hours let alone wash extra dishes."

Next time she makes a comment about your taking time off, "Oh, I'm sorry - when I asked specifically about this day you said it was fine. But based on the comment you made it sounds like it's not fine after all. My goal in going to this dr's appointment is so I am healthy and can give 110% at work. Is this day off no longer working for you?"

Suck it up for six months. Pretend you're on a reality tv show and think about what you want people to tweet about you and your bosses.

[Anonymous]

Just get out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who the hell goes home in the middle of their work day? Either stash a bag with backup clothes at their house or keep the bag in your car. That way if it happens again you don't even ask - you just go grab your bag and change your clothes.

Next time she makes a comment about her breakfast dishes, "Oh, I'm sorry - when we talked about the position my understanding was that I am to clean up after the baby's food and clothing. Nothing was ever said about cleaning up after your or your husband's meals. And honestly, I'm so busy with Larlo that I barely have a free minute to eat my lunch while working 11.5 hours let alone wash extra dishes."

Next time she makes a comment about your taking time off, "Oh, I'm sorry - when I asked specifically about this day you said it was fine. But based on the comment you made it sounds like it's not fine after all. My goal in going to this dr's appointment is so I am healthy and can give 110% at work. Is this day off no longer working for you?"

Suck it up for six months. Pretend you're on a reality tv show and think about what you want people to tweet about you and your bosses.

This is literally the dumbest answer I have seen given to an OP. Pretend you are on a reality show? Her life is not a reality show. Tweeting? You are seriously out of your mind pp. OP doesn't need to think she is on some show or what someone would tweet about her. OP quit and thats it. Do not stay in a position you are unhappy with. Your health is your priority.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've recently started a new job and I now regret taking the offer over others. MB seemed really great and in tune with what I was searching for in a family. Last week the baby had a big blowout and it ended up all over my clothes while I was feeding him. I asked MB if I can quickly go home and clean up. She told me no because while she was working from home, she had important calls. About 5 hours later DB comes home and MB and him are watching tv while I'm still working. That when on for two more hours. I felt very disrespected and its completely unhygienic. I had to work 10 hours ( even go outside) with feces all over my shirt and leggings. Second thing is MB has started to leave her breakfast dishes out and has made two comments about them still being at the nook when she got home. My charge is high-needs and I don't have time to clean up after her. Third, I'm not allowed to cook myself anything in their kitchen. I don't have time and not much of a problem, but a little irritating if I want to bring soup to warm up. I am more upset over the hygiene issue and the fact that she thinks its my duty to clean up after her now. That was not in my job description.

I am working today but asked in advance to take off tomorrow. I was diagnosed with PCOS a month ago and I have limited time ability. I work 7:30am - 8pm, M-F. I need to see my doctor for consultation on what to do to deal with and reverse PCOS. She was understanding and said taking the day was fine ( its unpaid). She has been making passive aggressive remarks about my day off tomorrow, which she cleared the day I started working. I've been there there weeks and already feel so unwelcome. My job will be a temp for 6 months until they move out of state. I'm trying to stick it out but on the other hand, I am so unhappy and feel like quitting due to disrespect. All the families I worked previously have been great and I am still I touch will them all. I've never had to deal with having a job I was unhappy in and I'm not sure what is the appropriate way to handle this situation?? Thank you all.

I agree with the other poster below, I wouldn't have given you my Ok either to go home and change... unless you lived next door or something. If you work with babies you should be smart enough to carry a change of clothes in your car or a backpack.

[Anonymous]

Working with a baby and not having a change of clothes is insane

[Anonymous]

Wow, how unbelievable!

Clearly, you need a new job, OP.

[Anonymous]

I've worked with babies for years and never took a change of clothes with me. I've never ended up needing One. However, my first day working for MB she showed me where the shower and her clothes were and told me to feel free to use them if it was ever necessary due to poop/spit up/throw up. She's a truly awesome MB, though, and a wonderful person. The way you treat people as equally as important as how much you pay them, if not more.

[Anonymous]

*is equally.

[Anonymous]

Ugh, I would start looking for other jobs asap. If someone was in my home, employee or not, and my baby pooped/vomited/whatever on them I would offer them a shirt (mine or my husband's, whatever would fit). I can understand if she needed you to stay because she had to work, but she certainly could have offered you another shirt to wear at least.

[Anonymous]

Op here. Please let me clarify. I have a car but take the subway ( I'm in NYC) because Mb doesn't have parking around her home. I'm also not allowed to keep a change of clothes or other necessities at her home. I asked her the first day if I can leave a few items like snacks, change of clothes, a few girl products, etc in the babies closet. She told me she wasn't ok with that. She really wanted daycare but he was kicked out within a week of being there. I even keep my purse on the floor by the back door.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Please let me clarify. I have a car but take the subway ( I'm in NYC) because Mb doesn't have parking around her home. I'm also not allowed to keep a change of clothes or other necessities at her home. I asked her the first day if I can leave a few items like snacks, change of clothes, a few girl products, etc in the babies closet. She told me she wasn't ok with that. She really wanted daycare but he was kicked out within a week of being there. I even keep my purse on the floor by the back door.

Put a shirt and a pair of jeans or shorts in your purse. Or carry a small backpack. Adults can work through these issues....

[Anonymous]

Op please quit. You shouldn't have to work with a family who is so unwelcoming. She's sound like a horrible employer. Run!

[Anonymous]

MB here! Please quit like others have said. What I find despicable is she let you work with poop all on your clothes. Working with a baby requires a lot of holding and it's a safety hazard to care for a child with feces all over you. Then to watch tv and still have you work is more vile. Not letting you bring personal items is just baffling. Clearly this woman has no respect for you as a human being.

Making you clean up her mess isn't your responsibility. She seems lazy.

In any other job if you don't get an appropriate time for lunch or bathroom breaks, that is illegal. I believe that goes for nannies as well. Leave ASAP!