MB is mad but refuses to fix the issues.

[Anonymous]

I started my new job two weeks ago with my charge ego is now 14 weeks. She naps a lot ( that's a given) but will only nap with someone holding her. She will not nap in the crib, stroller, carseat, bassinet, carrier, pack n play or anything else. She sleeps in co-sleeper at night or with MB in her bed. I've tried putting her down but no matter how asleep, she screams bloody murder within a few minutes. MB told me she has never napped anywhere but her or DB's arms.

Now I have things like baby laundry, bottle washing, and light housekeeping I need to do during naptimes. Well I can't get anything done be because I'm constantly holding my charge. MB got mad that I asked to stay a few minutes later to clean up. She said that's my job during the day. I adressed the issue of me holding my charge and can't get anything done. MB said no fussing for my charge so I automatically have to pick her up and that she " isn't ready" to nap on her own. I suggested swaddling or using the swing but MB said she doesn't want her dependent on that. I politely told MB that this isn't a phase that she will grow out of. She is accustomed to napping being held and we have to do something to get her to nap. Not just for my responsibilities but because its the best thing for her. She refuses to do so. MB gets mad that I leave my charge on the playmat to wash dishes and fold clothes ( in eye sight) because I'm not " active enough". I do so much with my charge but I can't get housework done if she has to be held 24/7 and MB won't let her play independently.

What should I do?

[Anonymous]

Put her in a sling.

[Anonymous]

MB here. Your MB sounds unreasonable. Is she a FTM? If so, she'll soon realize what a mistake she made regarding the napping/sleeping issue.

[Anonymous]

OP, you know you need to quit. MB is nuts; sounds like she's doing AP. Which is supposed to be done by the PARENT hence the term.

[Anonymous]

Find another job. She sounds like she created the situation, looks to you to fix it using her rules that got her in trouble in the first place and isn't willing to work with you. At that age, you do not need to hold 24/7. That could be more for her need, than the baby.

[Anonymous]

You are clearly not a good nanny. Quit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Put her in a sling.

He has hated every carrier and sling brand they bought. Not really an option.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB here. Your MB sounds unreasonable. Is she a FTM? If so, she'll soon realize what a mistake she made regarding the napping/sleeping issue.

She is a FTM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are clearly not a good nanny. Quit.

Stop the hating. I'm a damn good nanny and have several recommendations because of it. I'm an infant nanny so I've dealt with certain situations but not this bad. MB played it off in the interview like she napped in her crib for 1 or 2 out of 4 naps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are clearly not a good nanny. Quit.

Stop the hating. I'm a damn good nanny and have several recommendations because of it. I'm an infant nanny so I've dealt with certain situations but not this bad. MB played it off in the interview like she napped in her crib for 1 or 2 out of 4 naps.

Ignore the PP. She's just a nasty troll. If you want to make this work then you need to sit down with your MB and ask her exactly how she wants you to get the tasks that she is requesting done while simultaneously holding or interacting with the baby. She can't just say it's your job to do x, y and z but say no to everything you suggest that makes it possible for you to do it. With that said though no one would fault you for looking for a new job. This one sounds pretty ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Babywear? I'd try out some ring slings, SSC and even some wraps. If baby likes to be held that much, I'm almost sure you can find a babywearing solution that he will like.

Also, does he have a lovey? If not, you can introduce one at this age.

Otherwise honestly I'd swaddle the baby and start slowing sleep training while I'm there. By slowly I mean starting by putting baby down for 2-3 mins and going from there.

[Anonymous]

MB here.

Get a new job.

This mother sounds nuts and why should you have to suffer through her learning phase (or her stubbornness).

I don't think it's ethical to disregard her clear directions and instructions though so you're stuck.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

She's doing AP but doesn't have an assortment of babywearing gear? I'm calling bs here. Find a sling baby likes and go from there.

[Anonymous]

I never said she doesn't have a sling or baby wear gear. I saidu charge refuses to be in one. We have tried the mobu wrap, baby b., and a few others but she won't stay more than a few minutes in them. She likes to be cradled in your arms.

To other pp: I will not start slowly sleep training unless my employers specifically say. I'm not happy with the way things are going but that doesn't justify me disregarding their instructions. They are the parents, not me.

Thanks to all the other pps and MB's. I have decided to look for a new position and resign.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never said she doesn't have a sling or baby wear gear. I saidu charge refuses to be in one. We have tried the mobu wrap, baby b., and a few others but she won't stay more than a few minutes in them. She likes to be cradled in your arms.

To other pp: I will not start slowly sleep training unless my employers specifically say. I'm not happy with the way things are going but that doesn't justify me disregarding their instructions. They are the parents, not me.

Thanks to all the other pps and MB's. I have decided to look for a new position and resign.

Seems like the easiest and right call OP. Good luck.