Anyone Love their AP for a While but then AP Became Weird and Lame - is that a thing?
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Anonymous
| We are living this now - Au pair was amazing first six months - now she’s partying and a pain in the ass - |
Anonymous
| Our current one is by far the best au pair we've had. She started really strong. Her year ends in a couple of months and I've realized that she's been withdrawing more and more from us. It's normal for them to detach as their departure date approaches. |
Anonymous
Wait, what? |
Anonymous
Maybe related to Dobby? But, please do enlighten us. |
Anonymous
Yes, exactly. That's what they call themselves when they think HFs are treating them like slaves apparently. And they buy each other Dobby charms |
Anonymous
| After reading this thread - I am really questioning if we should participate in this program. Why would I want to deal with this drama in my own home …. |
Anonymous
Cheap childcare, target language/culture, cultural exchange, schedule flexibility, etc. |
Anonymous
It can be great. But it's really a crap shoot when you invite a foreign teenager or young adult into your family. |
Anonymous
| The Brazilian AP network is vicious - but, bad news for those in DC, our LCC says there are for more APs than HFs right now. |
Anonymous
| I have to say I think I also lose patience and interest in my APs as their time draws to a close - sooner and sooner it seems. We are on AP #5 and she is BUGGING me and we still have 2 months to go. Probably this goes both ways - APs and Hosts both start to pull away/see the flaws more than the positives etc. |
Anonymous
What does that mean exactly? Not enough HFs? The Brazilian network is vicious—-/they take the sweetest people and turn them into Manipulators. Colombian network in moco and s not much better. |
Anonymous
Yes, we are looking to leave the program as we got our kids into school-age care at their school (which is what the kids asked for because all their friends are there), so we asked the LCC if a rematch would be possible for her. The kids are in camp all summer as well. Our LCC was honest and said "most-likely no" because DC has more APs than HFs requiring APs. Our AP is 18 months in with us on her full-year extension. She has been such an easy AP in so many ways, but she is not so phenomenal that we can justify the $240 a week we pay to keep her on when she will work, maybe, 3 hours a week. On that note, I am too coward to just tell her this, so I foresee we will have her until her contract is up, it is not like we would get any refund of agency fees... |
Anonymous
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We're experiencing this now. Our sweet AP has always had a hard time connecting with DC1--he's not as easy as DC2 and she's overly critical, even for age-appropriate behavior. Now she openly mocks him and posts things like "worst day" or "worst week" on social media.
I'm thinking we need a reset conversation just so that she can finish her year on a decent rather than a sour note. |
Anonymous
Everyone has bad days at work and vents about it on SM. Your child sounds like a headache just be lucky she’s venting on SM and not quitting |
Anonymous
IT's the b***cy troll again. |