Nannies and parents, what do your children/charges call your nanny/you?

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Anonymous wrote:First name. We're not from the south and don't have that hangup about not calling adults by their first name.

It's about respect for your elders. No matter where you are from, good manners are thev same world wide. No child should call an adult by their first name. They could call her Nanny or nanny Smith, or nanny Jane but never by her first name.

Whatever. I've seen little kids say, "I hate you Miss Mary!" as they kick their nanny. You think that's respectful just because they stuck "miss" in front of a person's name? You can show respect to someone without calling them "Miss". My kids would NEVER talk like that and would NEVER hit or kick someone. I consider them respectful. If you don't, I don't really care.

Those are two completely different situations and behaviors! Yes, many serial killers called their nannies Miss Name - it doesn’t disprove the PP’s point.

We call teachers, coaches, doctors, nurses, etc by a title for a reason, PP. As pointed out parents are rarely called by their first names.

Np...Mom and dad are the most informal ways to address someone. The examples you listed have a relationship that is strictly formal. Nannies and parents have informal relationships. If you want to be called Ms or Nanny that’s you. Not everyone feels the same way. IMO saying nanny in front of a name reeks of servant level but that’s me. Having a 3 year old call me Ms/Miss just feels wrong based on the informal relationship.

Just curious - what do you think of Coach? Nurse?

Reread bc it’s explained.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First name. We're not from the south and don't have that hangup about not calling adults by their first name.

It's about respect for your elders. No matter where you are from, good manners are thev same world wide. No child should call an adult by their first name. They could call her Nanny or nanny Smith, or nanny Jane but never by her first name.

Whatever. I've seen little kids say, "I hate you Miss Mary!" as they kick their nanny. You think that's respectful just because they stuck "miss" in front of a person's name? You can show respect to someone without calling them "Miss". My kids would NEVER talk like that and would NEVER hit or kick someone. I consider them respectful. If you don't, I don't really care.

Those are two completely different situations and behaviors! Yes, many serial killers called their nannies Miss Name - it doesn’t disprove the PP’s point.

We call teachers, coaches, doctors, nurses, etc by a title for a reason, PP. As pointed out parents are rarely called by their first names.

Np...Mom and dad are the most informal ways to address someone. The examples you listed have a relationship that is strictly formal. Nannies and parents have informal relationships. If you want to be called Ms or Nanny that’s you. Not everyone feels the same way. IMO saying nanny in front of a name reeks of servant level but that’s me. Having a 3 year old call me Ms/Miss just feels wrong based on the informal relationship.

Larla is a friend. Nani Lala is similar to aunt Lala. Miss Lola has the same connotation that Miss Susan does at school. I’m not another three-year-old. I am the adult, Therefore my charge Uses an honorific.

If that’s the only way you can feel like an adult to a 3 year old then I don’t know what to tell you. All of my charges have respected my authority and didn’t need to call me Nanny or Ms.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First name. We're not from the south and don't have that hangup about not calling adults by their first name.

It's about respect for your elders. No matter where you are from, good manners are thev same world wide. No child should call an adult by their first name. They could call her Nanny or nanny Smith, or nanny Jane but never by her first name.

Whatever. I've seen little kids say, "I hate you Miss Mary!" as they kick their nanny. You think that's respectful just because they stuck "miss" in front of a person's name? You can show respect to someone without calling them "Miss". My kids would NEVER talk like that and would NEVER hit or kick someone. I consider them respectful. If you don't, I don't really care.

Those are two completely different situations and behaviors! Yes, many serial killers called their nannies Miss Name - it doesn’t disprove the PP’s point.

We call teachers, coaches, doctors, nurses, etc by a title for a reason, PP. As pointed out parents are rarely called by their first names.

Np...Mom and dad are the most informal ways to address someone. The examples you listed have a relationship that is strictly formal. Nannies and parents have informal relationships. If you want to be called Ms or Nanny that’s you. Not everyone feels the same way. IMO saying nanny in front of a name reeks of servant level but that’s me. Having a 3 year old call me Ms/Miss just feels wrong based on the informal relationship.

Larla is a friend. Nani Lala is similar to aunt Lala. Miss Lola has the same connotation that Miss Susan does at school. I’m not another three-year-old. I am the adult, Therefore my charge Uses an honorific.

If that’s the only way you can feel like an adult to a 3 year old then I don’t know what to tell you. All of my charges have respected my authority and didn’t need to call me Nanny or Ms.

It’s not about me, it’s about them understanding that it’s how all adults are addressed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First name. We're not from the south and don't have that hangup about not calling adults by their first name.

It's about respect for your elders. No matter where you are from, good manners are thev same world wide. No child should call an adult by their first name. They could call her Nanny or nanny Smith, or nanny Jane but never by her first name.

Whatever. I've seen little kids say, "I hate you Miss Mary!" as they kick their nanny. You think that's respectful just because they stuck "miss" in front of a person's name? You can show respect to someone without calling them "Miss". My kids would NEVER talk like that and would NEVER hit or kick someone. I consider them respectful. If you don't, I don't really care.

Those are two completely different situations and behaviors! Yes, many serial killers called their nannies Miss Name - it doesn’t disprove the PP’s point.

We call teachers, coaches, doctors, nurses, etc by a title for a reason, PP. As pointed out parents are rarely called by their first names.

Np...Mom and dad are the most informal ways to address someone. The examples you listed have a relationship that is strictly formal. Nannies and parents have informal relationships. If you want to be called Ms or Nanny that’s you. Not everyone feels the same way. IMO saying nanny in front of a name reeks of servant level but that’s me. Having a 3 year old call me Ms/Miss just feels wrong based on the informal relationship.

Larla is a friend. Nani Lala is similar to aunt Lala. Miss Lola has the same connotation that Miss Susan does at school. I’m not another three-year-old. I am the adult, Therefore my charge Uses an honorific.

If that’s the only way you can feel like an adult to a 3 year old then I don’t know what to tell you. All of my charges have respected my authority and didn’t need to call me Nanny or Ms.

It’s not about me, it’s about them understanding that it’s how all adults are addressed.

That’s not how all adults want to be addressed. As this thread is explaining, it’s a preference. You should teach them to be respectful of how adults want to be addressed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First name. We're not from the south and don't have that hangup about not calling adults by their first name.

It's about respect for your elders. No matter where you are from, good manners are thev same world wide. No child should call an adult by their first name. They could call her Nanny or nanny Smith, or nanny Jane but never by her first name.

Whatever. I've seen little kids say, "I hate you Miss Mary!" as they kick their nanny. You think that's respectful just because they stuck "miss" in front of a person's name? You can show respect to someone without calling them "Miss". My kids would NEVER talk like that and would NEVER hit or kick someone. I consider them respectful. If you don't, I don't really care.

Those are two completely different situations and behaviors! Yes, many serial killers called their nannies Miss Name - it doesn’t disprove the PP’s point.

We call teachers, coaches, doctors, nurses, etc by a title for a reason, PP. As pointed out parents are rarely called by their first names.

Np...Mom and dad are the most informal ways to address someone. The examples you listed have a relationship that is strictly formal. Nannies and parents have informal relationships. If you want to be called Ms or Nanny that’s you. Not everyone feels the same way. IMO saying nanny in front of a name reeks of servant level but that’s me. Having a 3 year old call me Ms/Miss just feels wrong based on the informal relationship.

Larla is a friend. Nani Lala is similar to aunt Lala. Miss Lola has the same connotation that Miss Susan does at school. I’m not another three-year-old. I am the adult, Therefore my charge Uses an honorific.

If that’s the only way you can feel like an adult to a 3 year old then I don’t know what to tell you. All of my charges have respected my authority and didn’t need to call me Nanny or Ms.

It’s not about me, it’s about them understanding that it’s how all adults are addressed.

But NOT all adults want to be addressed that way. I don't. I like my kids' friends to call me by my first name. I grew up calling some adults "Evelyn" and some "Mrs. Greenbaum" depending on our relationship. I called my teachers Mrs. Hershel until I graduated and they then said "Oh, you can call me Jamie." It's no big deal to call different people different things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Having my baby grow up calling his nanny by her first name seems too cheeky to me but Miss First name sounds too formal.

Since you feel this way, OP, and to answer you concern - Nanny or Nanny First Name is the best answer for you (provided your nanny is in agreement).

[Anonymous]

Wow, this is interesting. My kids call their sitters Miss First Name (even the 14-year-old mother's helper) and their nannies by their first names. I am super formal with making my kids call adults Mr./Mrs. Last Name but it never ever crossed my mind that a nanny would be called a formal name since they call us Mom/Dad and there is no special word for Nanny. I don't know why and now I feel bad about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Having my baby grow up calling his nanny by her first name seems too cheeky to me but Miss First name sounds too formal.

Since you feel this way, OP, and to answer you concern - Nanny or Nanny First Name is the best answer for you (provided your nanny is in agreement).

+1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, this is interesting. My kids call their sitters Miss First Name (even the 14-year-old mother's helper) and their nannies by their first names. I am super formal with making my kids call adults Mr./Mrs. Last Name but it never ever crossed my mind that a nanny would be called a formal name since they call us Mom/Dad and there is no special word for Nanny. I don't know why and now I feel bad about it.

Nanny is a special word for Nanny! But don’t feel bad about it now. Clearly your nanny was fine with it.

[Anonymous]

We let our nanny decide - she taught the kids to call her by her first name. She did not want to be called Ms./Mrs.