Nannies and parents, what do your children/charges call your nanny/you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My charges call me a name my oldest charge made up for me which, strangely, is nothing like my actual first name! Like “Bonnie” and my real name is Karen.

It’s pretty cute!

DS did this with my mother - he refused to call her grandma or any variation of grandmother and insisted her name was something bearing no resemblance to her actual first name or mom, grandma, etc. Like he knew her from another life!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First name bc it’s not a formal relationship to me. They call their former nanny Ms. First Name. When I coached a sport I required my players to call me either Ms. First Name or Coach First Name bc that was a more formal relationship.

Please define your view of formal vs informal.

It’s clear in the post. What are you confused about?

[Anonymous]

Nana nickname, Nanny nickname, Miss nickname, Nanny, Miss, Nana

Depends on how old the kids are when I start. If the youngest is in school, Miss nickname, and they sometimes use just Miss until they remember my name. If the eldest is just starting to talk and there’s no classes yet, I forgo Miss as there’s no teacher correlation and elect to use Manny, but little mouths change it to Nana, and I don’t care if they tack on my nickname or just use Nana. For ages in between, I use either Miss or Nanny, after I get a feel for the family during the interview.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First name. We're not from the south and don't have that hangup about not calling adults by their first name.

It's about respect for your elders. No matter where you are from, good manners are thev same world wide. No child should call an adult by their first name. They could call her Nanny or nanny Smith, or nanny Jane but never by her first name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First name. We're not from the south and don't have that hangup about not calling adults by their first name.

It's about respect for your elders. No matter where you are from, good manners are thev same world wide. No child should call an adult by their first name. They could call her Nanny or nanny Smith, or nanny Jane but never by her first name.

For us it’s not respect for elders but respect for authority. Same reason the kids don’t call me, their mother, by my first name. A nanny relationship is as “informal” as my relationship with my kids. Nanny First Name or just Nanny are our choices too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First name. We're not from the south and don't have that hangup about not calling adults by their first name.

It's about respect for your elders. No matter where you are from, good manners are thev same world wide. No child should call an adult by their first name. They could call her Nanny or nanny Smith, or nanny Jane but never by her first name.

Whatever. I've seen little kids say, "I hate you Miss Mary!" as they kick their nanny. You think that's respectful just because they stuck "miss" in front of a person's name? You can show respect to someone without calling them "Miss". My kids would NEVER talk like that and would NEVER hit or kick someone. I consider them respectful. If you don't, I don't really care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First name. We're not from the south and don't have that hangup about not calling adults by their first name.

It's about respect for your elders. No matter where you are from, good manners are thev same world wide. No child should call an adult by their first name. They could call her Nanny or nanny Smith, or nanny Jane but never by her first name.

Whatever. I've seen little kids say, "I hate you Miss Mary!" as they kick their nanny. You think that's respectful just because they stuck "miss" in front of a person's name? You can show respect to someone without calling them "Miss". My kids would NEVER talk like that and would NEVER hit or kick someone. I consider them respectful. If you don't, I don't really care.

Those are two completely different situations and behaviors! Yes, many serial killers called their nannies Miss Name - it doesn’t disprove the PP’s point.

We call teachers, coaches, doctors, nurses, etc by a title for a reason, PP. As pointed out parents are rarely called by their first names.

[Anonymous]

I think a child calling his/her nanny Nanny or Nanny Name is lovely. Reminds me of old Disney movies and storybooks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think a child calling his/her nanny Nanny or Nanny Name is lovely. Reminds me of old Disney movies and storybooks.

Yeah, I don’t find that lovely. Especially when we look back at Disney movies and see the mess they were.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First name. We're not from the south and don't have that hangup about not calling adults by their first name.

It's about respect for your elders. No matter where you are from, good manners are thev same world wide. No child should call an adult by their first name. They could call her Nanny or nanny Smith, or nanny Jane but never by her first name.

Whatever. I've seen little kids say, "I hate you Miss Mary!" as they kick their nanny. You think that's respectful just because they stuck "miss" in front of a person's name? You can show respect to someone without calling them "Miss". My kids would NEVER talk like that and would NEVER hit or kick someone. I consider them respectful. If you don't, I don't really care.

Those are two completely different situations and behaviors! Yes, many serial killers called their nannies Miss Name - it doesn’t disprove the PP’s point.

We call teachers, coaches, doctors, nurses, etc by a title for a reason, PP. As pointed out parents are rarely called by their first names.

Np...Mom and dad are the most informal ways to address someone. The examples you listed have a relationship that is strictly formal. Nannies and parents have informal relationships. If you want to be called Ms or Nanny that’s you. Not everyone feels the same way. IMO saying nanny in front of a name reeks of servant level but that’s me. Having a 3 year old call me Ms/Miss just feels wrong based on the informal relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First name bc it’s not a formal relationship to me. They call their former nanny Ms. First Name. When I coached a sport I required my players to call me either Ms. First Name or Coach First Name bc that was a more formal relationship.

Please define your view of formal vs informal.

The difference between people you like and people you love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First name. We're not from the south and don't have that hangup about not calling adults by their first name.

It's about respect for your elders. No matter where you are from, good manners are thev same world wide. No child should call an adult by their first name. They could call her Nanny or nanny Smith, or nanny Jane but never by her first name.

Whatever. I've seen little kids say, "I hate you Miss Mary!" as they kick their nanny. You think that's respectful just because they stuck "miss" in front of a person's name? You can show respect to someone without calling them "Miss". My kids would NEVER talk like that and would NEVER hit or kick someone. I consider them respectful. If you don't, I don't really care.

Those are two completely different situations and behaviors! Yes, many serial killers called their nannies Miss Name - it doesn’t disprove the PP’s point.

We call teachers, coaches, doctors, nurses, etc by a title for a reason, PP. As pointed out parents are rarely called by their first names.

Np...Mom and dad are the most informal ways to address someone. The examples you listed have a relationship that is strictly formal. Nannies and parents have informal relationships. If you want to be called Ms or Nanny that’s you. Not everyone feels the same way. IMO saying nanny in front of a name reeks of servant level but that’s me. Having a 3 year old call me Ms/Miss just feels wrong based on the informal relationship.

Just curious - what do you think of Coach? Nurse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First name. We're not from the south and don't have that hangup about not calling adults by their first name.

It's about respect for your elders. No matter where you are from, good manners are thev same world wide. No child should call an adult by their first name. They could call her Nanny or nanny Smith, or nanny Jane but never by her first name.

Whatever. I've seen little kids say, "I hate you Miss Mary!" as they kick their nanny. You think that's respectful just because they stuck "miss" in front of a person's name? You can show respect to someone without calling them "Miss". My kids would NEVER talk like that and would NEVER hit or kick someone. I consider them respectful. If you don't, I don't really care.

Those are two completely different situations and behaviors! Yes, many serial killers called their nannies Miss Name - it doesn’t disprove the PP’s point.

We call teachers, coaches, doctors, nurses, etc by a title for a reason, PP. As pointed out parents are rarely called by their first names.

Np...Mom and dad are the most informal ways to address someone. The examples you listed have a relationship that is strictly formal. Nannies and parents have informal relationships. If you want to be called Ms or Nanny that’s you. Not everyone feels the same way. IMO saying nanny in front of a name reeks of servant level but that’s me. Having a 3 year old call me Ms/Miss just feels wrong based on the informal relationship.

That’s okay. NP here and I love a three-year-old calling me Nanny! But you do you. I don’t think there is one right answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think a child calling his/her nanny Nanny or Nanny Name is lovely. Reminds me of old Disney movies and storybooks.

Yeah, I don’t find that lovely. Especially when we look back at Disney movies and see the mess they were.

NP again. And I feel it’s lovely, too. The point is that we, as nannies, made the decisions on what our charges call us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First name. We're not from the south and don't have that hangup about not calling adults by their first name.

It's about respect for your elders. No matter where you are from, good manners are thev same world wide. No child should call an adult by their first name. They could call her Nanny or nanny Smith, or nanny Jane but never by her first name.

Whatever. I've seen little kids say, "I hate you Miss Mary!" as they kick their nanny. You think that's respectful just because they stuck "miss" in front of a person's name? You can show respect to someone without calling them "Miss". My kids would NEVER talk like that and would NEVER hit or kick someone. I consider them respectful. If you don't, I don't really care.

Those are two completely different situations and behaviors! Yes, many serial killers called their nannies Miss Name - it doesn’t disprove the PP’s point.

We call teachers, coaches, doctors, nurses, etc by a title for a reason, PP. As pointed out parents are rarely called by their first names.

Np...Mom and dad are the most informal ways to address someone. The examples you listed have a relationship that is strictly formal. Nannies and parents have informal relationships. If you want to be called Ms or Nanny that’s you. Not everyone feels the same way. IMO saying nanny in front of a name reeks of servant level but that’s me. Having a 3 year old call me Ms/Miss just feels wrong based on the informal relationship.

Larla is a friend. Nani Lala is similar to aunt Lala. Miss Lola has the same connotation that Miss Susan does at school. I’m not another three-year-old. I am the adult, Therefore my charge Uses an honorific.