2019 annual “what did you get for Christmas” nanny thread

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This annual thread always makes me feel unappreciated and like my employers just don’t care but I’m grateful I at least have a job and happy for all of you!

Most jobs don’t give bonuses or presents.

Most jobs aren’t involved with actually raising another human being.

Actually a lot are and that has nothing to do with a gift or presents. You get paid to do a job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This annual thread always makes me feel unappreciated and like my employers just don’t care but I’m grateful I at least have a job and happy for all of you!

Most jobs don’t give bonuses or presents.

Most jobs aren’t involved with actually raising another human being.

Actually a lot are and that has nothing to do with a gift or presents. You get paid to do a job.

Teachers are not in charge of raising your children. They are in charge of educating your children. I know that is lost on a lot of lazy and terrible parents. So no, there are not a lot of jobs involved with actually raising another human being. If someone is coming into your home, raising your child while you aren’t, then, yeah, they should be paid well, acknowledged and appreciated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This annual thread always makes me feel unappreciated and like my employers just don’t care but I’m grateful I at least have a job and happy for all of you!

Most jobs don’t give bonuses or presents.

Most jobs aren’t involved with actually raising another human being.

Actually a lot are and that has nothing to do with a gift or presents. You get paid to do a job.

Teachers are not in charge of raising your children. They are in charge of educating your children. I know that is lost on a lot of lazy and terrible parents. So no, there are not a lot of jobs involved with actually raising another human being. If someone is coming into your home, raising your child while you aren’t, then, yeah, they should be paid well, acknowledged and appreciated.

Please stop hijacking this thread. The topic is what did you get for Christmas from your nanny family/what did you give your nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This annual thread always makes me feel unappreciated and like my employers just don’t care but I’m grateful I at least have a job and happy for all of you!

Most jobs don’t give bonuses or presents.

Most jobs aren’t involved with actually raising another human being.

Actually a lot are and that has nothing to do with a gift or presents. You get paid to do a job.

Teachers are not in charge of raising your children. They are in charge of educating your children. I know that is lost on a lot of lazy and terrible parents. So no, there are not a lot of jobs involved with actually raising another human being. If someone is coming into your home, raising your child while you aren’t, then, yeah, they should be paid well, acknowledged and appreciated.

Please stop hijacking this thread. The topic is what did you get for Christmas from your nanny family/what did you give your nanny.

Then shouldn’t you be posting that to ALL of the posters not answering the actual question. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Our nanny is taking a 4-week vacation all paid (Dec 13 to Jan 11). She was paid for that time in advance. When she returns, she'll get a one-week salary bonus and a small gift like a scarf or gloves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny is taking a 4-week vacation all paid (Dec 13 to Jan 11). She was paid for that time in advance. When she returns, she'll get a one-week salary bonus and a small gift like a scarf or gloves.

Wow, is this for real?! If yes, you are amazingly generous!!

[Anonymous]

We gave ours 1K plus around $200 in personal gifts.

[Anonymous]

Not a damn thing, been with them almost four years. I’ve nannied in the DC area for 20+ years. This is the first family I haven’t received a small gift, card and/or bonus. I’ve just decided they are not thoughtful and appreciative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not a damn thing, been with them almost four years. I’ve nannied in the DC area for 20+ years. This is the first family I haven’t received a small gift, card and/or bonus. I’ve just decided they are not thoughtful and appreciative.

It is time to move on

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not a damn thing, been with them almost four years. I’ve nannied in the DC area for 20+ years. This is the first family I haven’t received a small gift, card and/or bonus. I’ve just decided they are not thoughtful and appreciative.

Maybe it’s still to come? Do your employers celebrate Christmas?

[Anonymous]

$200 and I’ve been with the family for 6 years. I’ve made my own bonus over the years, such as eating all my meals at their home (lower grocery bill) and not arriving early for car pool like I used to. I just arrive exactly on time. No extras. Just doing my job well and what they pay for. Going above and beyond isn’t appreciated, so now I just do what I’m paid to do.

[Anonymous]

This is the first year I didn’t get a Christmas gift. Every family I’ve been with before has been very generous, and I really feel hurt. I know they are happy with my performance and I go above and beyond to assist as I’m able. I got them a thoughtful gift for the kids. They gave me a hastily written generic card, written as an afterthought after I gave them my gift. Not even a note to express gratitude. I am well compensated, but it’s the little things that make us want to strive to go the extra mile. This family is very high net worth, so even a small gift card would have been welcomed. I know it’s not expected, but I know the tipped other household employees, so it just feels bad. I want to ask if everything is ok and they are still happy with me as they’ve previously expressed. I don’t want to look like I’m digging, though. It’s definitely causing me not to do the extras I’ve been doing before this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is the first year I didn’t get a Christmas gift. Every family I’ve been with before has been very generous, and I really feel hurt. I know they are happy with my performance and I go above and beyond to assist as I’m able. I got them a thoughtful gift for the kids. They gave me a hastily written generic card, written as an afterthought after I gave them my gift. Not even a note to express gratitude. I am well compensated, but it’s the little things that make us want to strive to go the extra mile. This family is very high net worth, so even a small gift card would have been welcomed. I know it’s not expected, but I know the tipped other household employees, so it just feels bad. I want to ask if everything is ok and they are still happy with me as they’ve previously expressed. I don’t want to look like I’m digging, though. It’s definitely causing me not to do the extras I’ve been doing before this.

I’m sorry, PP. maybe a year end bonus is still coming.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$200 and I’ve been with the family for 6 years. I’ve made my own bonus over the years, such as eating all my meals at their home (lower grocery bill) and not arriving early for car pool like I used to. I just arrive exactly on time. No extras. Just doing my job well and what they pay for. Going above and beyond isn’t appreciated, so now I just do what I’m paid to do.

It is called "work to rule". Good for you for catching on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not a damn thing, been with them almost four years. I’ve nannied in the DC area for 20+ years. This is the first family I haven’t received a small gift, card and/or bonus. I’ve just decided they are not thoughtful and appreciative.

Maybe it’s still to come? Do your employers celebrate Christmas?

They do. It’s not the first year without a gift/bonus.