Letting go of nanny - personality clash

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's the older nannies who push their old-school "rice cereal in bottles" bit. Perhaps try a younger nanny?

I'd be concerned the nanny was going against your wishes and using rice cereal when you tell her not to.

EVERYONE working with children should know that no two kids are exactly alike, and what works for one may not work for another.

The difference isn’t older nanny vs younger nanny. It’s between undereducated nanny vs educated nanny.

And as a nanny, I would tire quickly of a mother or nanny pushing that nonsense on me. I support OP in letting this nanny go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Acid reflux meds don’t work. I’ve always used cereal and kept the babies upright for 15-20 mins after feeds. Your nanny sounds experiences. You sound insecure.

- Nanny for 25 years

They did my child.

[Anonymous]

Working as a nanny is a very difficult job because you gain a lot of experience and knowledge with each family you work for. Every child is different, and not everything works for each child, but you pick up a lot of great skills that do work. Is it easy to pass these skills onto parents? No. Never. Parents are very easily offended and very sensitive about feeling criticized about their parenting skills. I try to let parents know what I’ve tried with other kids that’s worked great in the past, and try to gently suggest trying that. Sleep schedules are a very difficult subject because parents are quite often tired and burnt out and very defensive about their methods. I hope you reconsider firing her. She sounds like she has a lot of experience and knowledge to bring to your family. If you do fire her, I hope you give her a month’s severance. Two weeks is not enough time to find a new job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At this point, you should give at least two weeks severance and her dismissal is immediate.

Just a note, however - she is your child’s nanny and not yours. You don’t need to like her and she doesn’t need to even like you. You judge a nanny on how she relates to your child.

No. Parents absolutely need to have a good rapport with the nanny.