another lack of common sense story

[Anonymous]

I'm sure that you do expect them to obey you-you're the one in a position of social and economic power in this relationship. This is a very minor transgression, and it put absolutely no one at risk of harm. What it DID do is show the host parent that their AP isn't as invested in this dynamic as they had hoped. Rematch til you find someone who is more afraid of retribution! Lots of host parents on here who sound like frustrated middle managers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm sure that you do expect them to obey you-you're the one in a position of social and economic power in this relationship. This is a very minor transgression, and it put absolutely no one at risk of harm. What it DID do is show the host parent that their AP isn't as invested in this dynamic as they had hoped. Rematch til you find someone who is more afraid of retribution! Lots of host parents on here who sound like frustrated middle managers.

I think that all the time. Give people a little power and holy hell do they abuse it. I think there was actually a study on this, that when someone with very little power gets some, they use it to be jerks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:By all means, talk to him since you feel so strongly about him not following your instructions. Just to put it into perspective, though, watching soccer is not really something most HF would rematch over. And it seems kind of arbitrary/hard hearted not to allow a soccer match both your child and the AP were interested in. If you are talking about this past Tuesday (Election Day), when the weather was very rainy in the DC area, there probably were fewer opportunities to get out of the house too, so that would have been a tough day to be screenless. I think your LCC/agency would consider you too quick to rematch if you hook them in. To put things in perspective, after 12 years of APs and hearing about other people's nannies/daycare providers/grandparents, NONE of them do 100% what you ask. If there is a safety issue, that is a dealbreaker, but other than that, child care providers are not robots. If you get 80% of what you want, you're doing well. If that's not good enough, you might need to hire a $30/hour nanny or do it yourself. But the $30 professional nanny will want to be full charge and not have to follow a lot of rules, and SAH parents tend to be way more flexible once they are responsible for living with their own rules.

This is the most logical post ever written on this forum.

Agree.