Nanny encouraging me to wean toddler!

[Anonymous]

As a nanny, I would never roll my eyes. I would respect my MB’s choice. She’s not necessarily causing harm per say, but I do know one thing. My MB was 8 months pregnant with baby #2 when I started working for them. She would smoke cigarettes ALL THE TIME. Now that I look back, I wish I would’ve told her to stop. Not that’s being completely selfish.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a nanny, I would never roll my eyes. I would respect my MB’s choice. She’s not necessarily causing harm per say, but I do know one thing. My MB was 8 months pregnant with baby #2 when I started working for them. She would smoke cigarettes ALL THE TIME. Now that I look back, I wish I would’ve told her to stop. Not that’s being completely selfish.

Lots of parents do selfish things that harm their children. So sad. I would not waste my time with them.

[Anonymous]

OP, if you are making the choice you believe is best for you and your toddler, I suggest you ask your nanny "Why do you feel so strongly that I should ween Ashlyn?"

She might actually have experience or knowledge to share that would help you when you are ready to wean. She also might be having issues with your toddler that are directly related to EBF.

Of course, if she is just being a jerk, you can decide whether to ignore her comments ("I will give your opinion the consideration it deserves.") or if you feel the need to give her a formal warning to keep her eye rolling and opinions to herself WRT breastfeeding.

If you find out she is just a jerk, I suggest starting a nanny search so you are able to replace her quickly if she quits because you won't do as you are told.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Re: solid food: I nurse my 22-month-old at wake up, bf nap, after nap, and at bedtime, for about 5-10 mins each time. She eats a good breakfast, lunch, snack, and dinner just like any other toddler.

And if you were giving formula, would you bottle feed as often? Just curious.

Can she hold and drink from a cup?

Yes my daughter can drink from a cup. She drinks water throughout the day. Not sure what I would do if she were formula fed bc I know nothing about formula or bottles. I was responding to the idea from several posters that breastfeeding gets in the way of eating solid food.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Re: solid food: I nurse my 22-month-old at wake up, bf nap, after nap, and at bedtime, for about 5-10 mins each time. She eats a good breakfast, lunch, snack, and dinner just like any other toddler.

And if you were giving formula, would you bottle feed as often? Just curious.

Can she hold and drink from a cup?

Yes my daughter can drink from a cup. She drinks water throughout the day. Not sure what I would do if she were formula fed bc I know nothing about formula or bottles. I was responding to the idea from several posters that breastfeeding gets in the way of eating solid food.

Extended breastfeeding and formula use does get in the way of eating solids. These two year olds are drinking their calories. Neither is good.

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Anonymous wrote:Re: solid food: I nurse my 22-month-old at wake up, bf nap, after nap, and at bedtime, for about 5-10 mins each time. She eats a good breakfast, lunch, snack, and dinner just like any other toddler.

And if you were giving formula, would you bottle feed as often? Just curious.

Can she hold and drink from a cup?

Yes my daughter can drink from a cup. She drinks water throughout the day. Not sure what I would do if she were formula fed bc I know nothing about formula or bottles. I was responding to the idea from several posters that breastfeeding gets in the way of eating solid food.

Extended breastfeeding and formula use does get in the way of eating solids. These two year olds are drinking their calories. Neither is good.

But what about the standard pediatric recommendation that toddlers drink 16 oz of cow’s milk a day? Isn’t that also drinking calories?

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Anonymous wrote:Re: solid food: I nurse my 22-month-old at wake up, bf nap, after nap, and at bedtime, for about 5-10 mins each time. She eats a good breakfast, lunch, snack, and dinner just like any other toddler.

And if you were giving formula, would you bottle feed as often? Just curious.

Can she hold and drink from a cup?

Yes my daughter can drink from a cup. She drinks water throughout the day. Not sure what I would do if she were formula fed bc I know nothing about formula or bottles. I was responding to the idea from several posters that breastfeeding gets in the way of eating solid food.

Extended breastfeeding and formula use does get in the way of eating solids. These two year olds are drinking their calories. Neither is good.

But what about the standard pediatric recommendation that toddlers drink 16 oz of cow’s milk a day? Isn’t that also drinking calories?

You have five nursing sessions, PP. If you and your toddler is like mine, that is far more than 16 ounces. NP here and you should cut out some of those nursing sessions. The easiest ones to lose are the wake up sessions-just have her breakfast and snack ready when she wakes up.

[Anonymous]

Ask her why, OP.

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Anonymous wrote:Re: solid food: I nurse my 22-month-old at wake up, bf nap, after nap, and at bedtime, for about 5-10 mins each time. She eats a good breakfast, lunch, snack, and dinner just like any other toddler.

And if you were giving formula, would you bottle feed as often? Just curious.

Can she hold and drink from a cup?

Yes my daughter can drink from a cup. She drinks water throughout the day. Not sure what I would do if she were formula fed bc I know nothing about formula or bottles. I was responding to the idea from several posters that breastfeeding gets in the way of eating solid food.

Extended breastfeeding and formula use does get in the way of eating solids. These two year olds are drinking their calories. Neither is good.

But what about the standard pediatric recommendation that toddlers drink 16 oz of cow’s milk a day? Isn’t that also drinking calories?

You have five nursing sessions, PP. If you and your toddler is like mine, that is far more than 16 ounces. NP here and you should cut out some of those nursing sessions. The easiest ones to lose are the wake up sessions-just have her breakfast and snack ready when she wakes up.

No, I nurse her 4 times a day, not 5. I have no idea how many oz it is. What I am telling you is that it does not get in the way of her eating solid food. I have seen the recommendations for how much solid food a toddler is supposed to eat and that is what my daughter eats.

[Anonymous]

Here is a question no one asked yet: are you sure she rolled her eyes at you? Maybe you are misinterpreting her advice.

That said - I think you should wean as well.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Re: solid food: I nurse my 22-month-old at wake up, bf nap, after nap, and at bedtime, for about 5-10 mins each time. She eats a good breakfast, lunch, snack, and dinner just like any other toddler.

And if you were giving formula, would you bottle feed as often? Just curious.

Can she hold and drink from a cup?

Yes my daughter can drink from a cup. She drinks water throughout the day. Not sure what I would do if she were formula fed bc I know nothing about formula or bottles. I was responding to the idea from several posters that breastfeeding gets in the way of eating solid food.

Extended breastfeeding and formula use does get in the way of eating solids. These two year olds are drinking their calories. Neither is good.

But what about the standard pediatric recommendation that toddlers drink 16 oz of cow’s milk a day? Isn’t that also drinking calories?

You have five nursing sessions, PP. If you and your toddler is like mine, that is far more than 16 ounces. NP here and you should cut out some of those nursing sessions. The easiest ones to lose are the wake up sessions-just have her breakfast and snack ready when she wakes up.

No, I nurse her 4 times a day, not 5. I have no idea how many oz it is. What I am telling you is that it does not get in the way of her eating solid food. I have seen the recommendations for how much solid food a toddler is supposed to eat and that is what my daughter eats.

Are you ever going to wean her? That sounds like a huge amount to me at nearly 2.

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Anonymous wrote:Re: solid food: I nurse my 22-month-old at wake up, bf nap, after nap, and at bedtime, for about 5-10 mins each time. She eats a good breakfast, lunch, snack, and dinner just like any other toddler.

And if you were giving formula, would you bottle feed as often? Just curious.

Can she hold and drink from a cup?

Yes my daughter can drink from a cup. She drinks water throughout the day. Not sure what I would do if she were formula fed bc I know nothing about formula or bottles. I was responding to the idea from several posters that breastfeeding gets in the way of eating solid food.

Extended breastfeeding and formula use does get in the way of eating solids. These two year olds are drinking their calories. Neither is good.

But what about the standard pediatric recommendation that toddlers drink 16 oz of cow’s milk a day? Isn’t that also drinking calories?

You have five nursing sessions, PP. If you and your toddler is like mine, that is far more than 16 ounces. NP here and you should cut out some of those nursing sessions. The easiest ones to lose are the wake up sessions-just have her breakfast and snack ready when she wakes up.

No, I nurse her 4 times a day, not 5. I have no idea how many oz it is. What I am telling you is that it does not get in the way of her eating solid food. I have seen the recommendations for how much solid food a toddler is supposed to eat and that is what my daughter eats.

Are you ever going to wean her? That sounds like a huge amount to me at nearly 2.

I don’t have any plans to wean. I don’t mind sitting down with her 5-10 mins at a time 4 times a day. A lot of times she nurses for only a couple minutes then wants to go in her crib or eat her snack. Once she starts preschool next year I will prob take it down to just morning and bedtime. We sometimes skip nursings now with no issue. The other night I had to be out at bedtime and my husband gave her a cup of whole milk and it was fine. I find it odd that so many people are doubting my experience with feeding my own child. I am not telling anyone else what to do. I was just responding with my personal experience to the idea that breastfeeding gets in the way of solid food.

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Anonymous wrote:Re: solid food: I nurse my 22-month-old at wake up, bf nap, after nap, and at bedtime, for about 5-10 mins each time. She eats a good breakfast, lunch, snack, and dinner just like any other toddler.

And if you were giving formula, would you bottle feed as often? Just curious.

Can she hold and drink from a cup?

Yes my daughter can drink from a cup. She drinks water throughout the day. Not sure what I would do if she were formula fed bc I know nothing about formula or bottles. I was responding to the idea from several posters that breastfeeding gets in the way of eating solid food.

Extended breastfeeding and formula use does get in the way of eating solids. These two year olds are drinking their calories. Neither is good.

But what about the standard pediatric recommendation that toddlers drink 16 oz of cow’s milk a day? Isn’t that also drinking calories?

You have five nursing sessions, PP. If you and your toddler is like mine, that is far more than 16 ounces. NP here and you should cut out some of those nursing sessions. The easiest ones to lose are the wake up sessions-just have her breakfast and snack ready when she wakes up.

No, I nurse her 4 times a day, not 5. I have no idea how many oz it is. What I am telling you is that it does not get in the way of her eating solid food. I have seen the recommendations for how much solid food a toddler is supposed to eat and that is what my daughter eats.

Are you ever going to wean her? That sounds like a huge amount to me at nearly 2.

I don’t have any plans to wean. I don’t mind sitting down with her 5-10 mins at a time 4 times a day. A lot of times she nurses for only a couple minutes then wants to go in her crib or eat her snack. Once she starts preschool next year I will prob take it down to just morning and bedtime. We sometimes skip nursings now with no issue. The other night I had to be out at bedtime and my husband gave her a cup of whole milk and it was fine. I find it odd that so many people are doubting my experience with feeding my own child. I am not telling anyone else what to do. I was just responding with my personal experience to the idea that breastfeeding gets in the way of solid food.

I'm a MB like you, OP, and I've been following this thread with total surprise. My son is 18 months and nurses 5 or 6 times a day when I'm around, but we can also skip for hours when I'm working on site somewhere, and he takes cows milk a few times a week from the nanny or my husband. He drinks lots of water and eats a wide range of food and is in the 90+ percentiles for height and weight. I'm just stunned at how antibreastfeeding people are. I've heard about it in theory, but with the APA and WHO recommendations, I had not plans to wean before age 2. Just, wow.

[Anonymous]

Both of my kids were too active and curious about the world to want to nurse past 12 months. I was willing but they weren’t.

That said, I would smile and ignore any advice anyone gave me about raising my children. The nanny obviously has opinions and cares about your child but it always needs to be the parents call. Just smile and ignore her eye rolls, OP.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes mothers think their child actually needs the prolonged nursing, but regret it later. I realized later that I had become my child's doormat. Big mistake.

We aren't in a tribal culture where this may be considered a normal or healthy practice.