Nanny encouraging me to wean toddler!

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*i meant to say "and you are breastfeeding" not tryouts!

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Anonymous wrote:Fire her immediately

Yeah, good luck with that attitude.

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Anonymous wrote:Nanny here-

It was totally inappropriate and disrespectful for your nanny to roll her eyes at you. Your body, your baby, your choice.

However, I think now it's time to wean and tryouts are breastfeeding for you not your kid. But that's really none of my business and if you want to breastfeed until your child is 5 then have a good time. How is this affecting the nanny's life??

We don’t know how it is affecting the nanny’s job. Maybe the toddler can’t fall asleep without nursing; maybe the toddler doesn’t eat enough depending on breastmilk and is cranky; maybe the child is slow to speak or has palate issues due to extended and extensive nursing; maybe the toddler is a hot hungry mess waiting for mom to come home to nurse.

Having been a nanny to an extended nursing mother once, there were definite issues nursing an older child caused since there was nothing I could do to replace his mother’s breasts. Extended nursery are generally bad at self soothing since they use nursing for comfort.

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Wow, I am flabbergasted by the responses, “breast milk is bad, cows milk is better.” Seriously!?! There are many benefits to nursing, including the cuddle time. I cannot believe people are so judgmental (an inaccurate in their judgement). I would tell your nanny that you have heard her opinion but that you plan to continue breastfeeding until either you or your child are ready to stop. The end.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, I am flabbergasted by the responses, “breast milk is bad, cows milk is better.” Seriously!?! There are many benefits to nursing, including the cuddle time. I cannot believe people are so judgmental (an inaccurate in their judgement). I would tell your nanny that you have heard her opinion but that you plan to continue breastfeeding until either you or your child are ready to stop. The end.

No one even mentioned cows milk. Breastmilk is for babies - just like formula. Nothing bad about either but not sufficient for a nearly two year old child.

You can and should cuddle without offering milk. And you are the one inaccurate in your assessment. If you saw a toddler with a bottle of formula at 22 months, your response would be much different.

The era of “magical breastmilk” is well over, OP. Weaning from bottle and breast are important developmental milestones toward a child’s independence and individuation.

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I have to agree that the defense of extended nursing is very last decade. Nothing supports it as being healthful and it is so much harder on the child to wean after 18 months than before 18 months.

That said, people close to your child will have reactions to how you treat your child, OP. Your nanny undoubtedly loves your child so let her reaction go. Do nothing and say nothing.

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Really surprised to see all the posts against toddler nursing. I am far from a lactivist, but it’s ridiculous to act like nursing a toddler is harmful...you people do realize most toddlers throughout human history were probably still nursing, right? And aap is clear that nursing is fine as long as mom and child are still happy with it. Do what works for your family. If this is directly causing a specific problem for the nanny fine for her to mention that, but otherwise this really isn’t her business.

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If that is the only way you have a special bond, then you need to find another way as that is not the only way to bond. Limit nursing to wake up and before bed. This is more about you and your need than the child's need.

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Nanny here- If our nanny doesn't like it she can leave. I don't want to work for mothers who breastfeed on demand or past 6 months because it makes my job so much harder. So, I don't take those jobs or quit when it becomes an issue. If this mom wants to extended breastfeed that is HER business and ride nanny can leave if she doesn't like it.

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Anonymous wrote:Whatever I believe (or your nanny believes) about how long you should or shouldn't nurse is irrelevant. He is your child, and you are her boss. I would not tolerate this.

"Nanny, your opinion on this is clear but I intend to nurse Jack as long as I wish. I would prefer no further discussion of this until I ask for your advice in making a change. I trust you will respect my right to parent, and nurse, as I see fit."

I don't tolerate selfish parents like you. You'd be history on my list.

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Anonymous wrote:Whatever I believe (or your nanny believes) about how long you should or shouldn't nurse is irrelevant. He is your child, and you are her boss. I would not tolerate this.

"Nanny, your opinion on this is clear but I intend to nurse Jack as long as I wish. I would prefer no further discussion of this until I ask for your advice in making a change. I trust you will respect my right to parent, and nurse, as I see fit."

If I were your nanny and you spoke to me like this, you'd be looking for a new nanny.

Exactly. Parents need to understand that good nannies expect mutual respect. If a serious disagreement comes up that can't be resolved, it's simply time to part ways. Obviously that's a very sad thing for your child.

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Anonymous wrote:Wow, I am flabbergasted by the responses, “breast milk is bad, cows milk is better.” Seriously!?! There are many benefits to nursing, including the cuddle time. I cannot believe people are so judgmental (an inaccurate in their judgement). I would tell your nanny that you have heard her opinion but that you plan to continue breastfeeding until either you or your child are ready to stop. The end.

No one even mentioned cows milk. Breastmilk is for babies - just like formula. Nothing bad about either but not sufficient for a nearly two year old child.

You can and should cuddle without offering milk. And you are the one inaccurate in your assessment. If you saw a toddler with a bottle of formula at 22 months, your response would be much different.

The era of “magical breastmilk” is well over, OP. Weaning from bottle and breast are important developmental milestones toward a child’s independence and individuation.

At least 90% of toddlers drink milk, please explain to me what is the best milk for a toddler, I am genuinely curious. Would I support a toddler drinking formula? Yes, a formula formulated for toddlers as I think it is more nutritionally beneficial than cow’s milk. Additionally, a toddler having milk in no way prevents them from getting nutrients from food, that is a ridiculous thought (unless there is some other issue going on). Milk is only one part of a toddler’s diet. Lastly, it is comforting to the CHILD, and that comfort/snuggle/bonding time is proven to be beneficial for a child. Now please explain to me the problems with breast milk, other than your personal, non-scientific view.

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Re: solid food: I nurse my 22-month-old at wake up, bf nap, after nap, and at bedtime, for about 5-10 mins each time. She eats a good breakfast, lunch, snack, and dinner just like any other toddler.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, I am flabbergasted by the responses, “breast milk is bad, cows milk is better.” Seriously!?! There are many benefits to nursing, including the cuddle time. I cannot believe people are so judgmental (an inaccurate in their judgement). I would tell your nanny that you have heard her opinion but that you plan to continue breastfeeding until either you or your child are ready to stop. The end.

No one even mentioned cows milk. Breastmilk is for babies - just like formula. Nothing bad about either but not sufficient for a nearly two year old child.

You can and should cuddle without offering milk. And you are the one inaccurate in your assessment. If you saw a toddler with a bottle of formula at 22 months, your response would be much different.

The era of “magical breastmilk” is well over, OP. Weaning from bottle and breast are important developmental milestones toward a child’s independence and individuation.

At least 90% of toddlers drink milk, please explain to me what is the best milk for a toddler, I am genuinely curious. Would I support a toddler drinking formula? Yes, a formula formulated for toddlers as I think it is more nutritionally beneficial than cow’s milk. Additionally, a toddler having milk in no way prevents them from getting nutrients from food, that is a ridiculous thought (unless there is some other issue going on). Milk is only one part of a toddler’s diet. Lastly, it is comforting to the CHILD, and that comfort/snuggle/bonding time is proven to be beneficial for a child. Now please explain to me the problems with breast milk, other than your personal, non-scientific view.

You are so 1990s, PP.

Learn to provide comfort and snuggles to your poor child without sticking food in his mouth.

NP here. By your poor reasoning, you should be only providing breast milk and breast milk products like breast milk yogurt and cheese to humans for their lifetime. Why stop at two or three? The truth is that we, as a species, have been consuming cows milk and cows milk products for over a century and have evolved into needing the nutrients it provides. But you never need to give your kid cows milk.

And I would never choose a purely processed baby formula over cows milk or water.

You sound old, PP. Not a mother with young children. The whole breast milk craze is over. Even pediatricians are now admitting that it doesn’t make that much difference.

And to OP - wean your toddler. Let him grow up.

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Anonymous wrote:Re: solid food: I nurse my 22-month-old at wake up, bf nap, after nap, and at bedtime, for about 5-10 mins each time. She eats a good breakfast, lunch, snack, and dinner just like any other toddler.

And if you were giving formula, would you bottle feed as often? Just curious.

Can she hold and drink from a cup?