Mental health issues

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Some of y'all are so dramatic! OP, I think the hardest part of this may be keeping the reason for the appointment a secret, and if you don't need to, don't.

If you can tell them it's only for a few weeks, my guess is they'll be fine with it. They may even be fine with it indefinitely. I WAH, and when my children were very small, I needed every minute of nanny time. As they got older, though, and slept better, I got a lot more efficient in my work, to the point that one year we gave her more PTO in lieu a raise, because I could cover the days off without too much trouble.

Op here
I felt like everyone was basically saying I’ll get fired for even trying to take time off. Every family is different. As I stated before, they can fire me if fhey want, but they wont. We have a good relationship but of course I realize this can be highly inconvenient for them. I love my charges amen my employers have been good to me as I have been to them. The relationship is reciprocal.

Also. As much as I like my employers, MB tends to meddle in my personal life soooo I know for a fact she’ll try to get me to say why I’m going. Which is why I posted in the first place.

I think if you don't tell her, she's going to guess and keep bringing it up. Yes, it's a huge boundary transgression, but it's not illegal and there's no HR to complain to. You may have to decide if keeping the information private is worth it. I'd probably opt for a white lie about weekly therapy, either saying it's for physical therapy or just very short term counseling due to school and life transitions or something.

Op here. I know it’s not illegal. I’ll probanlf either have to lie or just simply say it’s personal won’t share. Not even my parents know about this so there’s no way I’m mentioning it at work

[Anonymous]

I never admit any weakness to my employers. Never tell them when I go to the doctor or dentist or therapy. I never so much as tell them I am tired or sore from a workout. And I never ask for favors.

Don’t explain, OP. And I do think it is imperative to find a therapist after work hours.

[Anonymous]

I go to therapy and psychiatrist 20 years and see them on Saturdays. All doctors have to have some after hours appts because they know their patients have to work during the day

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just find a therapist who will see you at 6PM.

It is okay to go to your doctor/dentist occasionally during work hours but once a week would cause undue upheaval for most families.

It'd be no big deal for my "work at home" employer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just find a therapist who will see you at 6PM.

It is okay to go to your doctor/dentist occasionally during work hours but once a week would cause undue upheaval for most families.

It'd be no big deal for my "work at home" employer.

Even if it were nbd to my employer, I still wouldn’t do it. You are admitting weakness and asking for a favor - a favor you will be asked to repay repeatedly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just find a therapist who will see you at 6PM.

It is okay to go to your doctor/dentist occasionally during work hours but once a week would cause undue upheaval for most families.

It'd be no big deal for my "work at home" employer.

Even if it were nbd to my employer, I still wouldn’t do it. You are admitting weakness and asking for a favor - a favor you will be asked to repay repeatedly.

My employers ask me for extra favors. all. the. time.