Would you find this weird?

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Anonymous wrote:What exactly is odd? Your nanny spent like 5 bucks on your kid, it's not exactly something to confront her about, I'd say.

I think it’s odd she bought the pants with her own money instead of letting me know she forgot an extra pair and asking if she can use the nanny CC. That’s why she has the CC, for cases like this. It’s almost like she didn’t want me to know she forgot.

If I have a kid who crapped in their pants and I was desperate to find a clothing solution, I would use my own money to buy a pair of $2 pants before I'd text and wait for someone to let me know that it was ok to use the nanny CC. I find you weird, OP.

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If she needs to get permission to use the nanny CC, then it's pretty obvious why she didn't do that. I imagine she wanted to address the problem as quickly as possible and with the minimum of hassle.

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Anonymous wrote:My nanny took my DD to Gymboree. On the way DD has a massive blow-out. Nanny forgot to check diaper bag for extra clothes and there were no pants. She changed DD and stopped by an Outlet Carter’s and bought DD a new pair of pants. Nanny never mentioned this to me and it was only confirmed after I noticed a new pair of pants and checked our nanny CC and saw there were no charges. When I confronted her she seemed pretty dismissive. I find this odd.

I find you weird. Why would you "confront" your nanny over this, and why would she be anything other than dismissive? The kid had a blowout, she got the kid some pants. What's the big deal?

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Why does she need to “ask” prior to such a minor purchase?

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We're all human and we've all had this happen while out with kids, whether we're the parents or the nannies. She was a quick thinker, took care of the situation, and continued on with her day. OP, you should learn to chill and to go with the flow. Your life will be much easier.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she felt the money should come out of her pocket, since she realised her mistake was not checking the diaper bag. we have all been there

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My nanny took my DD to Gymboree. On the way DD has a massive blow-out. Nanny forgot to check diaper bag for extra clothes and there were no pants. She changed DD and stopped by an Outlet Carter’s and bought DD a new pair of pants. Nanny never mentioned this to me and it was only confirmed after I noticed a new pair of pants and checked our nanny CC and saw there were no charges. When I confronted her she seemed pretty dismissive. I find this odd.

You are an idiot but, luckily, for your child, nanny is very smart!

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Anonymous wrote:OP, why on earth would you need to “confront” her? That’s the only thing weird about this scenario. The diaper bag wasn’t fully stocked. It happens. She fixed the problem and got in with her day but you’re the one who can’t let it go and is turning into an issue. WTF? I also think it’s sad she needs to ask permission for every single purchase.

This. It sounds like you would have criticized her for not stocking the diaper bag.

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why is it a "mistake" -stuff like that happens to the best of us-it is called life!

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I took my twin toddler NKs swimming last summer and realized I only regular diapers not swim diapers so we walked 2 blocks to Walgreens and I bought some. Literally never once thought it was something worth mentioning. We spent 2hrs at the pool with a picnic after and had a great day.

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Our Nanny is allowed to use her CC for purchases at her discretion. We tell her we'd like to aim for the bill to be under $100/month, excluding things we specifically ask her to buy or emergencies. She still asks us if she's going to buy something that's more than a few bucks, typically, although we reiterate that she doesn't have to. Why not go with this approach and see if it helps your relationship?

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OP, ask yourself if that happened to you whether you'd specifically mention it to your husband or whether you'd think it was NBD. She probably felt bad she forgot so wanted to eat the very small cost herself. (And/or she knows you're completely insane... so thought it was easier not to mention it.)