Nanny cooking for herself

[Anonymous]

Op here thanks for the replies. She is not bored, and there are things in her contracted responsibilities I feel she is not doing regularly. I would say she is fitting the cooking in as her personal priority. As someone above mentioned above it just struck me as a really strange / bold / unprofessional thing to do at a new job. And no she is not American.

[Anonymous]

But is she a bargain?

[Anonymous]

After 7 years of managing nannies, this is what I tell you.

That is not acceptable behavior. If you talk to her, she should understand. You should nip it in the bud.

Tell her that she has 30 minutes for lunch +/- a few for interruptions because of baby needs. Tell her explicitly that the baby needs to be fed, changed, goes down for nap and that is when she can have 30 minutes for lunch. If she can do all that-- chop cook eat clean up in 30 min, it is probably fair.

Tell her to bring her own tupperware.

[Anonymous]

My nanny families let me eat their food!! She’s not even eating your food! What’s the problem?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here thanks for the replies. She is not bored, and there are things in her contracted responsibilities I feel she is not doing regularly. I would say she is fitting the cooking in as her personal priority. As someone above mentioned above it just struck me as a really strange / bold / unprofessional thing to do at a new job. And no she is not American.

Probably cultural.

Anyway, I would talk to her about it - mostly the dereliction of her other duties. By law, a nanny must get 20 minutes to eat after every five hour period. She has 20 minutes to prepare and eat her food.

Next time hire an American who thinks lunch is a sandwich and piece of fruit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think there was a similar thread a while back but I couldn’t find it. Our new nanny ( approx a month , we have a new born ) has started cooking Her lunch at our house a few days a week. She bring her groceries in and does full scale cooking from scratch ( chopping veggies etc) with multiple pots and pans going. She then stores the leftovers in our fridge and I saw her taking a Tupperware Home in the evening presumably for her dinner. She does not cook for our family. This obviously takes a lot of time and I feel she should be bringing a packed lunch. The baby sleeps a lot but Am I being taken advantage? Has anyone dealt with this?

Exactly how do you feel taken advantage of?

[Anonymous]

If she is not allowed by cook her, do you allow her to go out to lunch? Didn't think so. She is not an American and maybe she doesn't want a damn cold sandwich for lunch. You probably pay her $10/hr with NO OT and she id probably undocumented. You are truly a terrible person, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she is not allowed by cook her, do you allow her to go out to lunch? Didn't think so. She is not an American and maybe she doesn't want a damn cold sandwich for lunch. You probably pay her $10/hr with NO OT and she id probably undocumented. You are truly a terrible person, OP.

Not allowed to cook her lunch

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she is not allowed by cook her, do you allow her to go out to lunch? Didn't think so. She is not an American and maybe she doesn't want a damn cold sandwich for lunch. You probably pay her $10/hr with NO OT and she id probably undocumented. You are truly a terrible person, OP.

Not allowed to cook her lunch

I'm sure you're right about op being a nasty person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she is not allowed by cook her, do you allow her to go out to lunch? Didn't think so. She is not an American and maybe she doesn't want a damn cold sandwich for lunch. You probably pay her $10/hr with NO OT and she id probably undocumented. You are truly a terrible person, OP.

Not allowed to cook her lunch

This is OP. Actually we pay her more than double that on the books with benefits. she is also only part time with us , 30 hrs a week. The point of my post was to find out if her cooking from scratch is a standard practice , and judging from the more intelligent replies it’s not. I would prefer her to cook herself gourmet meals on her own time. Just as I would prefer her to shower, do her laundry, and complete her other household tasks on her own time as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she is not allowed by cook her, do you allow her to go out to lunch? Didn't think so. She is not an American and maybe she doesn't want a damn cold sandwich for lunch. You probably pay her $10/hr with NO OT and she id probably undocumented. You are truly a terrible person, OP.

Not allowed to cook her lunch

This is OP. Actually we pay her more than double that on the books with benefits. she is also only part time with us , 30 hrs a week. The point of my post was to find out if her cooking from scratch is a standard practice , and judging from the more intelligent replies it’s not. I would prefer her to cook herself gourmet meals on her own time. Just as I would prefer her to shower, do her laundry, and complete her other household tasks on her own time as well.

Yep, you are an ass.

[Anonymous]

Op I'm sore people are saying such awful things to you. You sound like a fair employer.

Your nanny should not be cooking like this at your house . Heating up a grilled cheese sure. Cooking from scratch, no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she is not allowed by cook her, do you allow her to go out to lunch? Didn't think so. She is not an American and maybe she doesn't want a damn cold sandwich for lunch. You probably pay her $10/hr with NO OT and she id probably undocumented. You are truly a terrible person, OP.

Not allowed to cook her lunch

This is OP. Actually we pay her more than double that on the books with benefits. she is also only part time with us , 30 hrs a week. The point of my post was to find out if her cooking from scratch is a standard practice , and judging from the more intelligent replies it’s not. I would prefer her to cook herself gourmet meals on her own time. Just as I would prefer her to shower, do her laundry, and complete her other household tasks on her own time as well.

I am a nanny and I agree with you 100%, OP. Her preparation of her meal and eating her meal should take no more than 20 minutes.

Talk to her about it. It sounds like a cultural difference.

And, seriously, to the PP - who cares what you want for lunch? What you have time for is in question. You can microwave a meal you prepare at home and have a hot lunch in two minutes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she is not allowed by cook her, do you allow her to go out to lunch? Didn't think so. She is not an American and maybe she doesn't want a damn cold sandwich for lunch. You probably pay her $10/hr with NO OT and she id probably undocumented. You are truly a terrible person, OP.

Not allowed to cook her lunch

This is OP. Actually we pay her more than double that on the books with benefits. she is also only part time with us , 30 hrs a week. The point of my post was to find out if her cooking from scratch is a standard practice , and judging from the more intelligent replies it’s not. I would prefer her to cook herself gourmet meals on her own time. Just as I would prefer her to shower, do her laundry, and complete her other household tasks on her own time as well.

Yep, you are an ass.

And you’re a troll. Don’t respond to these posts, OP. You have received good advice from other posters to nip it in the bud.

[Anonymous]

The nanny should bring her lunch everyday . Not cooking at your house period. Who cook her lunch at her job? only if you are a chef.