Nanny kisses baby and says "I love you" to her. Is this OK?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, my suggestion is that you get a new nanny that has different boundaries. There are nannies out there who view their employment as more of a job, not have such a strong personal attachment and will not take such offense to your wife's request not to say 'I love you.' They can still be great nannies and care for your child, but will not love' your child the way the current nanny does.

This.

Your wife's reaction is unusually possessive and jealous towards the nanny. But there are other nannies out there to try out before she quits her career/job. She could try daycare. Daycare workers constantly see kids change and fewer at daycare show overt super affection on kids.

I personally am happy to see my nanny kiss and say I love you to my infant. I am not a first time mom and know I won't be displaced(?) long term even when at times my baby prefers the nanny hold him or something. As one of the PP said, you can be a crappy mom but no one will replace Mom in the kid's heart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not a troll and sorry to come across so ignorant. The more responses the better to help me here. No need to be so harsh.

Thanks

Mary

If am your nanny ,I run alway from you.you are Hart less,my Lord!!

[Anonymous]

Aww how horrible the parent is obviously worried maybe she's a first time mom. I came across this post because I was actually googling is it ok for a nanny to say I love you to children in their care... political correctness has gone mad... you don't know what you can say or can say these days. I left work today and the child said to me don't go I love you right in front of her mom and dad so I said , I love you too and we can play again tomorrow. I'm a nanny and the children I look after one in particular always tells me she loves me and I say it back because... well to me she's like a little friend that gets excited when I come round. It's ok to be worried but in my experience any worries can be discussed and sorted out... I've had parents cry on me because they feel bad leaving their children... it's much better to be open and honest and maybe explore why you feel like this x

[Anonymous]

I love my charge but never say it outloud as my MB is a bit like Mary and very insecure. She knows I love him and he knows it so I don't really need to say it out loud. But it's a shame when MB's don't allow it as the more love a child has in their lives the better and children need to hear 'I love you'.

[Anonymous]

I'm an MB and am on nanny #2. It didn't bother me when our former nanny said I love you to DD because I knew she meant it, but it annoys me when our current nanny says it because I know she doesn't mean it.

[Anonymous]

Troll.

Your nanny has spent a year with your child, if your nanny doesn't love her, you have a shitty nanny.

Your child NEEDS their primary caregivers (you, your spouse, your nanny) to love them and show them affection and love.