Nanny pay when child goes to PT preschool?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is so strange. Both my kids went to preschool. Nanny dropped them at 9, picked them up at 12. OF COURSE I paid her for those hours. She's on call. If a kid vomits, are you hauling your ass out of work to get the kid? I didn't think so.

I don't believe you are really a mother. Of course I would leave work if my kid were vomiting at school or fell and needed stitches or whatever else is going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is so strange. Both my kids went to preschool. Nanny dropped them at 9, picked them up at 12. OF COURSE I paid her for those hours. She's on call. If a kid vomits, are you hauling your ass out of work to get the kid? I didn't think so.

I don't believe you are really a mother. Of course I would leave work if my kid were vomiting at school or fell and needed stitches or whatever else is going on.

Stitches? Seriously depends on the injury Sick? Considering my career, i don't get hysterical over common childhood illnesses. That is why I have a nanny. I could save myself 25k/yr and just send them to daycare if I could miss work all the time.

Not everyone can just up and leave work and commute back home. It would take me at least 25min to get home (depending on where I am) assuming I could sprint out of the hospital or office on a moments notice. Ever have a physician do that in the middle of a procedure or exam? How about an anesthesiologist or an OB? Yea, sure, can someone cover for me and finish up this cesarean? Maybe the attending nurse can do it, she's seen enough, she'll be great! I happen to be a nurse anathesiologist and absolutely cannot walk out in the middle of surgery, even if the fire alarm is going off.


Many people have jobs that can't be abandoned on a moments notice, pretty much all first line responders, critical hospital staff, trial attorneys, teachers, an the thousands of other people who have meetings and appointments where they can't stare at their phone every moment of the day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is so strange. Both my kids went to preschool. Nanny dropped them at 9, picked them up at 12. OF COURSE I paid her for those hours. She's on call. If a kid vomits, are you hauling your ass out of work to get the kid? I didn't think so.

I don't believe you are really a mother. Of course I would leave work if my kid were vomiting at school or fell and needed stitches or whatever else is going on.

Stitches? Seriously depends on the injury Sick? Considering my career, i don't get hysterical over common childhood illnesses. That is why I have a nanny. I could save myself 25k/yr and just send them to daycare if I could miss work all the time.

Not everyone can just up and leave work and commute back home. It would take me at least 25min to get home (depending on where I am) assuming I could sprint out of the hospital or office on a moments notice. Ever have a physician do that in the middle of a procedure or exam? How about an anesthesiologist or an OB? Yea, sure, can someone cover for me and finish up this cesarean? Maybe the attending nurse can do it, she's seen enough, she'll be great! I happen to be a nurse anathesiologist and absolutely cannot walk out in the middle of surgery, even if the fire alarm is going off.


Many people have jobs that can't be abandoned on a moments notice, pretty much all first line responders, critical hospital staff, trial attorneys, teachers, an the thousands of other people who have meetings and appointments where they can't stare at their phone every moment of the day.

I don't know what to tell you. I am a physician married to another physician. You probably don't know how to deal with these situations because you never went to med school or residency and had to deal with long hours and no money for a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is so strange. Both my kids went to preschool. Nanny dropped them at 9, picked them up at 12. OF COURSE I paid her for those hours. She's on call. If a kid vomits, are you hauling your ass out of work to get the kid? I didn't think so.

I don't believe you are really a mother. Of course I would leave work if my kid were vomiting at school or fell and needed stitches or whatever else is going on.

Stitches? Seriously depends on the injury Sick? Considering my career, i don't get hysterical over common childhood illnesses. That is why I have a nanny. I could save myself 25k/yr and just send them to daycare if I could miss work all the time.

Not everyone can just up and leave work and commute back home. It would take me at least 25min to get home (depending on where I am) assuming I could sprint out of the hospital or office on a moments notice. Ever have a physician do that in the middle of a procedure or exam? How about an anesthesiologist or an OB? Yea, sure, can someone cover for me and finish up this cesarean? Maybe the attending nurse can do it, she's seen enough, she'll be great! I happen to be a nurse anathesiologist and absolutely cannot walk out in the middle of surgery, even if the fire alarm is going off.


Many people have jobs that can't be abandoned on a moments notice, pretty much all first line responders, critical hospital staff, trial attorneys, teachers, an the thousands of other people who have meetings and appointments where they can't stare at their phone every moment of the day.

I don't know what to tell you. I am a physician married to another physician. You probably don't know how to deal with these situations because you never went to med school or residency and had to deal with long hours and no money for a nanny.

I don't know what kind of physician you are, but I don't know a single anathesiologist that can walk out of the middle of surgery. And I surely have never seen a cardiologist walk out of the middle of a double bypass. I doubt you are a physician, maybe a pediatrician or a dentist. Certainly not a surgeon!

Please do share with me what surgical procedure you have walked out of the OR when the school called and told you Lara has a fever? Please share your ER experience when someone comes in in cardiac arrest and you've gotta a call from school and simply walked out the door. I'd love to hear that one. Maybe you work at the hospital for Unicorns.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is so strange. Both my kids went to preschool. Nanny dropped them at 9, picked them up at 12. OF COURSE I paid her for those hours. She's on call. If a kid vomits, are you hauling your ass out of work to get the kid? I didn't think so.

I don't believe you are really a mother. Of course I would leave work if my kid were vomiting at school or fell and needed stitches or whatever else is going on.

Stitches? Seriously depends on the injury Sick? Considering my career, i don't get hysterical over common childhood illnesses. That is why I have a nanny. I could save myself 25k/yr and just send them to daycare if I could miss work all the time.

Not everyone can just up and leave work and commute back home. It would take me at least 25min to get home (depending on where I am) assuming I could sprint out of the hospital or office on a moments notice. Ever have a physician do that in the middle of a procedure or exam? How about an anesthesiologist or an OB? Yea, sure, can someone cover for me and finish up this cesarean? Maybe the attending nurse can do it, she's seen enough, she'll be great! I happen to be a nurse anathesiologist and absolutely cannot walk out in the middle of surgery, even if the fire alarm is going off.


Many people have jobs that can't be abandoned on a moments notice, pretty much all first line responders, critical hospital staff, trial attorneys, teachers, an the thousands of other people who have meetings and appointments where they can't stare at their phone every moment of the day.

I don't know what to tell you. I am a physician married to another physician. You probably don't know how to deal with these situations because you never went to med school or residency and had to deal with long hours and no money for a nanny.

I don't know what kind of physician you are, but I don't know a single anathesiologist that can walk out of the middle of surgery. And I surely have never seen a cardiologist walk out of the middle of a double bypass. I doubt you are a physician, maybe a pediatrician or a dentist. Certainly not a surgeon!

Please do share with me what surgical procedure you have walked out of the OR when the school called and told you Lara has a fever? Please share your ER experience when someone comes in in cardiac arrest and you've gotta a call from school and simply walked out the door. I'd love to hear that one. Maybe you work at the hospital for Unicorns.

You both sound like toxic moms.

[Anonymous]

I would seriously find another nanny. MANY of them do cleaning and family errands during morning preschool and dinner meal prep during afternoon naps.

Not sure what your nanny's deal is but it's pretty subpar.

[Anonymous]

At my DD's preschool nearly all of the families have parents who both work full time, and most have nannies (a couple have family that helps out). I was chatting with some of the other moms at an event about this exact situation, and hands down everyone pays their nanny the same as before the kid started school. It's just what you have to do or the nanny will look for a job elsewhere. It's painful, but not the nanny's fault that she has free time during the day.

Do you want to have more children? If so, it's definitely worth keeping the nanny so she can watch the second as well when the time comes.

[Anonymous]

Switch to an au pair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At my DD's preschool nearly all of the families have parents who both work full time, and most have nannies (a couple have family that helps out). I was chatting with some of the other moms at an event about this exact situation, and hands down everyone pays their nanny the same as before the kid started school. It's just what you have to do or the nanny will look for a job elsewhere. It's painful, but not the nanny's fault that she has free time during the day.

Do you want to have more children? If so, it's definitely worth keeping the nanny so she can watch the second as well when the time comes.

Yeah, except most of those nannies are still working doing things for their NF during that time. I think that is OPs issue: her nanny is good at kids but sub-par at everything else. Since a chunk of time will now fall under "everything else" you need to have a come to jesus with her and make sure she knows the expectations for that time. I would give her a chore list everyday for when larlo is in school.

[Anonymous]

This is interesting. Maybe its slightly different b/c we hired our nanny once our kids were already in preschool- so these were the terms coming in, we were not decreasing her hours. We don't pay her for the hours the kids are in preschool. However, we do guarantee 40 hours a week- so if the preschool hours decrease below 40 then we would 'pay for downtime.'

[Anonymous]

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Please consider the lifelong benefits of stable early care such as you seem to have. This is nothing to sneeze at. It's a critical investment in your child's future success and wellbeing.

Please also consider that if you switch from a nanny to full time daycare, you could put the savings ($50-60k) in your child's 529.

Given that daycare costs about $24,000, how many nannies do you know who earn $74,000 -$84,000 a year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Please consider the lifelong benefits of stable early care such as you seem to have. This is nothing to sneeze at. It's a critical investment in your child's future success and wellbeing.

Please also consider that if you switch from a nanny to full time daycare, you could put the savings ($50-60k) in your child's 529.

Given that daycare costs about $24,000, how many nannies do you know who earn $74,000 -$84,000 a year.

I am assuming that a three year old would need a nanny for two years. I think a lot of nannies make $40-50k/yr plus vacation, holidays, bonuses, and taxes. $40k + $6k for the above is $46k-$24k for daycare is $22k x two years= $44k. Or at $50k + $7500 for taxes, vacation, etc=$57.5k - $24k= $33.5k x two years= $67,000.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would propose she get paid half her rate but that she doesn't need to be physically present in the house during those hours if she doesn't want to. Nanny can run her personal errands, nap at MB's house, go back to her house, go to her friend's house, whatever.

Or help her find a PT gig.

This would mean that she can find a p/t gig with another family but when your kid is sick, preschool is closed, inclement weather you would be without child care. Of you want her available to you exclusively, then you pay her.