nanny's husband while we are away

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm not really sure why all the nanny PPs are jumping all over you. We have a long-term professional nanny whom we occasionally use for overnights and weekends. She has asked to have her husband come hang out with her after our kids go to bed, and we refused. Nothing personal- we have met him and like him- but I am paying my nanny to work, not to socialize.

Re: the overnight payment- when our nanny stays over, we lay her her full overtime rate until our kids go to bed, and then a flat overnight fee of $100. I have never heard of a nanny getting their full overtime rate for each hour that she "works" overnight (while she is sleeping)- that would be quite odd, and for us, cost prohibitive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm not really sure why all the nanny PPs are jumping all over you. We have a long-term professional nanny whom we occasionally use for overnights and weekends. She has asked to have her husband come hang out with her after our kids go to bed, and we refused. Nothing personal- we have met him and like him- but I am paying my nanny to work, not to socialize.

Re: the overnight payment- when our nanny stays over, we lay her her full overtime rate until our kids go to bed, and then a flat overnight fee of $100. I have never heard of a nanny getting their full overtime rate for each hour that she "works" overnight (while she is sleeping)- that would be quite odd, and for us, cost prohibitive.

"She would sleep the nights (kids do not wake up), so there is no night shift.
It is not much different from me being home for 2 days alone with kids, when my husband travels."

It is because of this attitude. OP has insinuated that she shouldn't have to pay her nanny more for the privilege of her staying at her home for 48 hours and then wants to deny her the small joy of seeing her husband for dinner.
There seems to be no real motivation behind her sentiment other than she just doesn't want to feel like the nanny is getting one over on her. It's petty and mean spirited. Why wouldn't you want the employee, who you trust enough to sleep in your home with your children, to feel comfortable and appreciated?

[Anonymous]

Op isn't paying anything.

[Anonymous]

No night shift? So she can ignore the kids IF they wake up through the night.

I can understand you being hesitant but something about your attitude is disconcerting. You seem to think the disruption to her life/schedule is no big deal. I don't think it's asking too much to have her husband there for supper at least.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm not really sure why all the nanny PPs are jumping all over you. We have a long-term professional nanny whom we occasionally use for overnights and weekends. She has asked to have her husband come hang out with her after our kids go to bed, and we refused. Nothing personal- we have met him and like him- but I am paying my nanny to work, not to socialize.

Re: the overnight payment- when our nanny stays over, we lay her her full overtime rate until our kids go to bed, and then a flat overnight fee of $100. I have never heard of a nanny getting their full overtime rate for each hour that she "works" overnight (while she is sleeping)- that would be quite odd, and for us, cost prohibitive.

You are cheap. federal law mandates that ALL domestic employees are paid OT after 40 hours. Unless she 's, leave the house, get drunk or socialize, the, she should be paid OT. Who gives a damn if it is cost prohibitive for you. She was entitled to OT and she should have turned the gig down.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm not really sure why all the nanny PPs are jumping all over you. We have a long-term professional nanny whom we occasionally use for overnights and weekends. She has asked to have her husband come hang out with her after our kids go to bed, and we refused. Nothing personal- we have met him and like him- but I am paying my nanny to work, not to socialize.

Re: the overnight payment- when our nanny stays over, we lay her her full overtime rate until our kids go to bed, and then a flat overnight fee of $100. I have never heard of a nanny getting their full overtime rate for each hour that she "works" overnight (while she is sleeping)- that would be quite odd, and for us, cost prohibitive.

You are cheap. federal law mandates that ALL domestic employees are paid OT after 40 hours. Unless she 's, leave the house, get drunk or socialize, the, she should be paid OT. Who gives a damn if it is cost prohibitive for you. She was entitled to OT and she should have turned the gig down.

actually, federal law allows you to have 8 unpaid hours out of a 24 hour shift if an employee has both the means and opportunity to get uninterrupted sleep. You may insist on full OT all night (good luck with that) but please know the laws before you start throwing around what you are"entitled" to.

[Anonymous]

Nannies are in fact "entitled" to a living wage, and pp's can fight about what that should be. It'd be utterly shameful for a nanny to collect social benefits because you pay her so dreadfully, and she qualifies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nannies are in fact "entitled" to a living wage, and pp's can fight about what that should be. It'd be utterly shameful for a nanny to collect social benefits because you pay her so dreadfully, and she qualifies.

How did you manage to leap so far away from the original topic at hand? And who is saying Nannies AREN'T entitled to a living wage? Did you even bother to read the thread?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm not really sure why all the nanny PPs are jumping all over you. We have a long-term professional nanny whom we occasionally use for overnights and weekends. She has asked to have her husband come hang out with her after our kids go to bed, and we refused. Nothing personal- we have met him and like him- but I am paying my nanny to work, not to socialize.

Re: the overnight payment- when our nanny stays over, we lay her her full overtime rate until our kids go to bed, and then a flat overnight fee of $100. I have never heard of a nanny getting their full overtime rate for each hour that she "works" overnight (while she is sleeping)- that would be quite odd, and for us, cost prohibitive.

You are cheap. federal law mandates that ALL domestic employees are paid OT after 40 hours. Unless she 's, leave the house, get drunk or socialize, the, she should be paid OT. Who gives a damn if it is cost prohibitive for you. She was entitled to OT and she should have turned the gig down.

actually, federal law allows you to have 8 unpaid hours out of a 24 hour shift if an employee has both the means and opportunity to get uninterrupted sleep. You may insist on full OT all night (good luck with that) but please know the laws before you start throwing around what you are"entitled" to.

Federal law states that the first day of multiple 24 hour shifts may have the nanny's 8 hour sleep period unpaid only if she has 8 hours at least in which to sleep and she is able to sleep for at least 5 hours continuously. If either condition is unmet, every hour must be paid. And that provision only applies to the first night, which means that technically, nanny would be on OT for the next night, regardless of whether she woke during the night. Finally, if this is the family's nanny and she's hitting 40 for the week prior to this weekend, every hour should be OT, not that the employer is doing it.

[Anonymous]

OP, are you one of those people who think that someone is always out to get them? Aka paranoid about everything? You clearly don't want the nanny's DH in your house, you are in this forum to troll and seek validation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm not really sure why all the nanny PPs are jumping all over you. We have a long-term professional nanny whom we occasionally use for overnights and weekends. She has asked to have her husband come hang out with her after our kids go to bed, and we refused. Nothing personal- we have met him and like him- but I am paying my nanny to work, not to socialize.

Re: the overnight payment- when our nanny stays over, we lay her her full overtime rate until our kids go to bed, and then a flat overnight fee of $100. I have never heard of a nanny getting their full overtime rate for each hour that she "works" overnight (while she is sleeping)- that would be quite odd, and for us, cost prohibitive.

It is because OP implied she doesn't need to pay her nanny ANYTHING overnight since the kids are asleep. She is still working, even if the kids are asleep. Also, OP keeps coming back to complain about the husband but refuses to answer what she is actually paying.

[Anonymous]

And I'm an MB NOT a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm not really sure why all the nanny PPs are jumping all over you. We have a long-term professional nanny whom we occasionally use for overnights and weekends. She has asked to have her husband come hang out with her after our kids go to bed, and we refused. Nothing personal- we have met him and like him- but I am paying my nanny to work, not to socialize.

Re: the overnight payment- when our nanny stays over, we lay her her full overtime rate until our kids go to bed, and then a flat overnight fee of $100. I have never heard of a nanny getting their full overtime rate for each hour that she "works" overnight (while she is sleeping)- that would be quite odd, and for us, cost prohibitive.

You are cheap. federal law mandates that ALL domestic employees are paid OT after 40 hours. Unless she 's, leave the house, get drunk or socialize, the, she should be paid OT. Who gives a damn if it is cost prohibitive for you. She was entitled to OT and she should have turned the gig down.

actually, federal law allows you to have 8 unpaid hours out of a 24 hour shift if an employee has both the means and opportunity to get uninterrupted sleep. You may insist on full OT all night (good luck with that) but please know the laws before you start throwing around what you are"entitled" to.

Ok, but you better be prepared to pay extra if your child wakes up for even a moment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm not really sure why all the nanny PPs are jumping all over you. We have a long-term professional nanny whom we occasionally use for overnights and weekends. She has asked to have her husband come hang out with her after our kids go to bed, and we refused. Nothing personal- we have met him and like him- but I am paying my nanny to work, not to socialize.

Re: the overnight payment- when our nanny stays over, we lay her her full overtime rate until our kids go to bed, and then a flat overnight fee of $100. I have never heard of a nanny getting their full overtime rate for each hour that she "works" overnight (while she is sleeping)- that would be quite odd, and for us, cost prohibitive.

You are cheap. federal law mandates that ALL domestic employees are paid OT after 40 hours. Unless she 's, leave the house, get drunk or socialize, the, she should be paid OT. Who gives a damn if it is cost prohibitive for you. She was entitled to OT and she should have turned the gig down.

actually, federal law allows you to have 8 unpaid hours out of a 24 hour shift if an employee has both the means and opportunity to get uninterrupted sleep. You may insist on full OT all night (good luck with that) but please know the laws before you start throwing around what you are"entitled" to.

Ok, but you better be prepared to pay extra if your child wakes up for even a moment.

Since MBs like to quote the law when it's convenient, if the child wakes and requires care at any point during the night, the entire night should be paid at regular or OT rates if they apply. No one gives a hoot if that's too cost prohibitive for you PP. If you can't afford it, don't buy it, just like the rest of us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I'm not really sure why all the nanny PPs are jumping all over you. We have a long-term professional nanny whom we occasionally use for overnights and weekends. She has asked to have her husband come hang out with her after our kids go to bed, and we refused. Nothing personal- we have met him and like him- but I am paying my nanny to work, not to socialize.

Re: the overnight payment- when our nanny stays over, we lay her her full overtime rate until our kids go to bed, and then a flat overnight fee of $100. I have never heard of a nanny getting their full overtime rate for each hour that she "works" overnight (while she is sleeping)- that would be quite odd, and for us, cost prohibitive.

You are cheap. federal law mandates that ALL domestic employees are paid OT after 40 hours. Unless she 's, leave the house, get drunk or socialize, the, she should be paid OT. Who gives a damn if it is cost prohibitive for you. She was entitled to OT and she should have turned the gig down.

actually, federal law allows you to have 8 unpaid hours out of a 24 hour shift if an employee has both the means and opportunity to get uninterrupted sleep. You may insist on full OT all night (good luck with that) but please know the laws before you start throwing around what you are"entitled" to.

Ok, but you better be prepared to pay extra if your child wakes up for even a moment.

Since MBs like to quote the law when it's convenient, if the child wakes and requires care at any point during the night, the entire night should be paid at regular or OT rates if they apply. No one gives a hoot if that's too cost prohibitive for you PP. If you can't afford it, don't buy it, just like the rest of us.

Well said. Having a nanny is luxury child care. People can find a friend or neighbor if they can't afford a nanny. Of course they'd have to reciprocate in some way. Yikes! Maybe that's the problem.