Child prefers nanny

[Anonymous]

You have a great nanny. Your kids are happy and safe with her. Leave it alone.

And I mean I'm sorry, but you want her to write down that a child refused carrots? Does she then need to record that he are carrots the next day? You're being obsessive and weird. Your alternatives? Either you or DH SAH...or go ahead and hire a crappy nanny who leaves the house a mess, doesn't get the kids clean and fed before you're home, can't pack a lunch to save her life, doesn't understand developmentally-appropriate discipline, is negligent or shows poor judgment... Sure. Hire that woman to watch your kids and soon they'll be crying when YOU leave. Would that feel better for you OP?

[Anonymous]

Is this supposed to be a helpful forum. You all sound a bunch of spiteful cows!

To the mum. Don't stress it will pass it's very normal. It shows you have found a nanny that loves your kids and us mums can't help be a bit jealous when it comes to our kids. Yes you should set firm guidelines for her but you learn to pick your battles. If the kids are happy it's a good sign. I have a nanny too and face a few bitchy Comments as generally others battle with school drops, getting ready for work/school etc . I'm fortunate enough to have help. Generally the comments are people who love to judge as it makes them feel better about their own daily struggle and they are jealous. We all do what we have to do so we can work/provide for the family. There's no perfect solution. We all muddle through best we can

One of my children is adopted and she bonded with the nanny quicker than me. It was tough but unsurprising as I'm at work. It passed

To the ridiculous people that make comments like why is she holding a 3 year old? Are you serious?? I hope you don't have children. I have 3 children and 3 year olds(and sometimes 5 year olds) need holding

To the idiots calling out this lady for her parenting. Don't be so quick to criticize. With your personality type you're probably doing a shit job yourselves! This woman was looking for a bit of support. Bunch of twats!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this supposed to be a helpful forum. You all sound a bunch of spiteful cows!

To the mum. Don't stress it will pass it's very normal. It shows you have found a nanny that loves your kids and us mums can't help be a bit jealous when it comes to our kids. Yes you should set firm guidelines for her but you learn to pick your battles. If the kids are happy it's a good sign. I have a nanny too and face a few bitchy Comments as generally others battle with school drops, getting ready for work/school etc . I'm fortunate enough to have help. Generally the comments are people who love to judge as it makes them feel better about their own daily struggle and they are jealous. We all do what we have to do so we can work/provide for the family. There's no perfect solution. We all muddle through best we can

One of my children is adopted and she bonded with the nanny quicker than me. It was tough but unsurprising as I'm at work. It passed

To the ridiculous people that make comments like why is she holding a 3 year old? Are you serious?? I hope you don't have children. I have 3 children and 3 year olds(and sometimes 5 year olds) need holding

To the idiots calling out this lady for her parenting. Don't be so quick to criticize. With your personality type you're probably doing a shit job yourselves! This woman was looking for a bit of support. Bunch of twats!

You take the cake for nasty name calling. Congratulations.

[Anonymous]

Quite possibly. But it was only directed at those who were bitchy and unhelpful so if you weren't one of them you can take no notice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny is wonderful and our kids love her but lately things have gotten out of hand. They have complete breakdowns if she isn't holding them. They ask to call her on the phone before bed and throw tantrums of they can't, if I try to hold them and she is there they just push me away. We aren't sure how healthy this is. And well it sucks for my husband and I honestly.

Also I can't help but feel like our nanny secretly love this. And she is constantly saying things like "well I could have told you x doesn't like carrots" if I say oh they hated such and such this weekend.

It's Annoying and I know she means well but it's starting to feel like we are visitors in our own home

If you feel like you are visitor sin your own home then don't hire nanny, simply put them in daycare....

[Anonymous]

All the ugliness in this thread and I guarantee it was a troll post in the op in the first place. Nothing added up or made sense

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this supposed to be a helpful forum. You all sound a bunch of spiteful cows!

To the mum. Don't stress it will pass it's very normal. It shows you have found a nanny that loves your kids and us mums can't help be a bit jealous when it comes to our kids. Yes you should set firm guidelines for her but you learn to pick your battles. If the kids are happy it's a good sign. I have a nanny too and face a few bitchy Comments as generally others battle with school drops, getting ready for work/school etc . I'm fortunate enough to have help. Generally the comments are people who love to judge as it makes them feel better about their own daily struggle and they are jealous. We all do what we have to do so we can work/provide for the family. There's no perfect solution. We all muddle through best we can

One of my children is adopted and she bonded with the nanny quicker than me. It was tough but unsurprising as I'm at work. It passed

To the ridiculous people that make comments like why is she holding a 3 year old? Are you serious?? I hope you don't have children. I have 3 children and 3 year olds(and sometimes 5 year olds) need holding

To the idiots calling out this lady for her parenting. Don't be so quick to criticize. With your personality type you're probably doing a shit job yourselves! This woman was looking for a bit of support. Bunch of twats!

You are ridiculous. .may be a troll like the poster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny is wonderful and our kids love her but lately things have gotten out of hand. They have complete breakdowns if she isn't holding them. They ask to call her on the phone before bed and throw tantrums of they can't, if I try to hold them and she is there they just push me away. We aren't sure how healthy this is. And well it sucks for my husband and I honestly.

Also I can't help but feel like our nanny secretly love this. And she is constantly saying things like "well I could have told you x doesn't like carrots" if I say oh they hated such and such this weekend.

It's Annoying and I know she means well but it's starting to feel like we are visitors in our own home

You know am a nanny for many years and for my experience you and your husband are not giving enough attention to your kids,try to do the same nanny do you going to see the big change,sorry say that,but I have manny ,many years of experience,plus I was teacher in my country.
Good luck!!