Giving Notice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this just a bunch of posts by OP posing as new posters?

There is zero clarity her and just a slew of fake pats on the back to OP.

Yes, of course OP is lying and sock-puppeting. Everyone knows that all MBs are perfect in every way and all nannies are bad and evil people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: OP here and this is my first nanny position although I have been a preschool teacher for many years. I am very torn. Thank you for your responses - even the bitchy ones - as I agree I am way too attached to my charge.

I will request a formal recommendation letter and secure a new position (probably out of the neighborhood - I will not hurt my current charge) before I give my final notice.

I truly do hate my MB for putting me in this position but I am more angry at myself for putting up with it for so long and getting so attached to my charge. Everywhere we go - library, Music Together, Parent & Me - people comment on how great I am with him and how lucky my employers are to have me. My MB seems to be the only one who doesn't appreciate how good I am with her child.

Thank you.

Half your job is childcare (sounds like you are an A+) and the other half your job is making your Nanny Family's lives easier (doing kid meals, kid schedules, kid laundry, kid skill training, kid area cleanup, etc). The latter involves communicating and planning with with the parents of the charges. Most want the nanny in charge of things, but step in if things are getting lax, off or not getting done.

For example, a previous nanny we had for two years started slacking off: no longer fed the toddler dinner by 6pm, stopped vacuuming the play area weekly, stopped making batch foods (or any real foods) for child, stopped putting child I. Toddler bed and out her back in little sisters nursery. She did all this stuff which made HER job easier but made us have to do it. Pretty soon we took out the job contract and it was crystal clear she was not a professional nanny. She was a playmate to our child but had nothing else to offer. Even daycare would have made our lives smoother than that nanny. She was fired when we had our second kid and it was apparent she was kit organized enough to handle it, even with the toddler in preschool.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unless they were paying me to put up with that kind of parent, I wouldn't do it.

What kind of parent?
Does she work at home and keep a close eye on you? Or does she work in a office 9-5 but keep texting or calling?
How many minutes a day do you have to actually deal with MB?

[Anonymous]

What a collection of wingnuts on this forum. OP never once explained what the issue was, and when she's called out for failing to do so the nanny nazis come storming in to defend her without any basis of discerning if there is a real problem here or not. (look out!! this will bring them out in droves as well)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a collection of wingnuts on this forum. OP never once explained what the issue was, and when she's called out for failing to do so the nanny nazis come storming in to defend her without any basis of discerning if there is a real problem here or not. (look out!! this will bring them out in droves as well)

yeah, I'm a nanny and I'm still just confused about why everybody hates the MB so much in this situation. for all we know, OP is the inappropriate acting one

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What a collection of wingnuts on this forum. OP never once explained what the issue was, and when she's called out for failing to do so the nanny nazis come storming in to defend her without any basis of discerning if there is a real problem here or not. (look out!! this will bring them out in droves as well)

Agree. Dcum nanny at its best. Might really be singular, not plural given how frenzied most of the posts are there is no information.

[Anonymous]

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Why do parents so often sabotage the stability of their child's care? I know it's a relatively frequent occurrence, maybe unintentional?

Smart parents will prioritize good communication with the nanny, in spite of their busy schedules.

I couldn't agree more. OP sounds like a great nanny and is only considering leaving because of her MB. What is wrong with this picture?

What's wrong? There is no picture!

[Anonymous]

Sock puppet parent was certainly busy here last night.

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Anonymous wrote:Is this just a bunch of posts by OP posing as new posters?

There is zero clarity her and just a slew of fake pats on the back to OP.

That's what I think also.

Professionals have boundaries, almost every nanny position is of a couple of years in tenure until kids age out or nannies move on. OP needs to either have a thicker skin with her boss, sit down and address concerns with her boss, or move on. Any of those are fine and up to her. But a professional nanny also needs to be able to manage her attachment to kids for whom she cares. Love them sure, but you are only with them for a while and then you'll move on. You'll love other kids, kids will love other nannies, life goes on...

There's one word for you: ruthless.
Your child is in fact a child, not just another job for most of us dedicated nannies. To you he may be a headache. If so, I'm sorry for you both.

Little children need to be loved by their primary caregivers, even if you disagee. Your life will indeed go on, but your child will suffer the consequences of revolving door nannies down the road. Mark my words.

So now the pp who thinks nannies should have boundaries doesn't love her kid?

Huh? What are you trying to get at?

"Children need to be loved by their parents, even if you disagree." Implying that she doesn't love her kids?

I said, "Children need to be loved by their primary caregivers...."

Sometimes that person is a parent, sometimes it's the nanny.

To further clarify, parents who love their children will do what they can to maintain the stable, competent and loving care of a good nanny. Or opt for better arrangements, perhaps a family member with those qualities.

[Anonymous]

OP doesn't need to describe exactly what is going - her MB is driving her crazy - that is all you need to know. OP was asking for advice as to how to resign and what to do about working in the same neighborhood as her current (soon-to-be former) charge. And she feels horrible about leaving her charge. She was not asking for advice on what to do!!!!

You MB's have no reading comprehension! You want the gossip about OP's MB only so you can defend the MB. Pathetic. Truly pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: OP here and this is my first nanny position although I have been a preschool teacher for many years. I am very torn. Thank you for your responses - even the bitchy ones - as I agree I am way too attached to my charge.

I will request a formal recommendation letter and secure a new position (probably out of the neighborhood - I will not hurt my current charge) before I give my final notice.

I truly do hate my MB for putting me in this position but I am more angry at myself for putting up with it for so long and getting so attached to my charge. Everywhere we go - library, Music Together, Parent & Me - people comment on how great I am with him and how lucky my employers are to have me. My MB seems to be the only one who doesn't appreciate how good I am with her child.

Thank you.

Half your job is childcare (sounds like you are an A+) and the other half your job is making your Nanny Family's lives easier (doing kid meals, kid schedules, kid laundry, kid skill training, kid area cleanup, etc). The latter involves communicating and planning with with the parents of the charges. Most want the nanny in charge of things, but step in if things are getting lax, off or not getting done.

For example, a previous nanny we had for two years started slacking off: no longer fed the toddler dinner by 6pm, stopped vacuuming the play area weekly, stopped making batch foods (or any real foods) for child, stopped putting child I. Toddler bed and out her back in little sisters nursery. She did all this stuff which made HER job easier but made us have to do it. Pretty soon we took out the job contract and it was crystal clear she was not a professional nanny. She was a playmate to our child but had nothing else to offer. Even daycare would have made our lives smoother than that nanny. She was fired when we had our second kid and it was apparent she was kit organized enough to handle it, even with the toddler in preschool.

Good points, that is the difference between a professional nanny and a full time babysitter.

[Anonymous]

OP is not asking for advice on her MB - she asked how to resign and what to do about living in the same area as her young charge. She is heartbroken. She doesn't need to describe what is going on with her MB, she just needed advice on how to quit. Luckily she did get advice from some of us.

Again, good luck, OP.

[Anonymous]

Yep, wingnuts. They went to bed early last night, but are out in force this morning. Those of sound mind and rational thought beware!

[Anonymous]

Zero details on what exactly is wrong that is forcing OP to leave, what exactly is making her "hate" her boss for forcing her to do this, lots of drama about the incredibly heartbreak of moving on after two years, yadda yadda yadda...

Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Zero details on what exactly is wrong that is forcing OP to leave, what exactly is making her "hate" her boss for forcing her to do this, lots of drama about the incredibly heartbreak of moving on after two years, yadda yadda yadda...

Grow up.

Who cares what is causing her to quit?! That is not what OP is asking about. She is not asking for advice on if she should quit - just how to quit. She does not owe you details.

Get a life, PP, and stop demanding gossip.