Check up on your nanny when she takes your child out

[Anonymous]

OP, I hope you realize that you are the one who made this boy cry, by calling him aggressive and effectively telling him to go away. You were mean. Why not take the chance to teach your charge social grace, rather than looking down on a two year old.

I also don't appreciate the tone of your reference to other nannies as "foreign" and "bargain-basement." I don't think you should be working with people professionally if you have that much distaste for others.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:BACK TO THE TOPIC:

Yes, OP, I agree that all MB/DBs should check up on their nannies to see how they are caring for their children when they are out of the house.

+1 I stop in unexpectedly when our new APs start to see how it's going. I will wander to story hour, the park or gymnastics class when one child is taking the class and the other is with our AP. I always observe for a few minutes before going over so I can see how things are going. I'm very (very) happy to say I have never been disappointed in the 5 years we've had our APs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most of these poor women have to go back to their employers home and clean with this being their only time to get personal business done via text and have other adult contact with someone who speaks their language.

But I agree - parents should always see what their foolish economy gets them with a nanny when they cannot see them on nanny cams.

Ohhh, I see the light now. Everything makes so much more sense. I thought all this time that when nannies get paid for their time, it was to do work and not have personal time. I see that MBs get to pay money for the nannies to have personal time now. This must be a new thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of these poor women have to go back to their employers home and clean with this being their only time to get personal business done via text and have other adult contact with someone who speaks their language.

But I agree - parents should always see what their foolish economy gets them with a nanny when they cannot see them on nanny cams.

Ohhh, I see the light now. Everything makes so much more sense. I thought all this time that when nannies get paid for their time, it was to do work and not have personal time. I see that MBs get to pay money for the nannies to have personal time now. This must be a new thing.

One more new thing: Don't forget they want to paid for napping as well. So then when you have kid #2, they complain that they can't take a consistent daily nap and need even more pay.

[Anonymous]

I have surprises my nanny and son twice at the playground and she has been looking at her phone both times. I didn't like it but 2 year old was sitting in sandbox at the time, not needing an adult to engage him. I don't expect our nanny to never be on her phone - but is showing up and seeing her on it twice a terrible sign? She has been with us part time for 1.5 years and my son loves her. She handles and engages him well from what I see at home (I work from home).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have surprises my nanny and son twice at the playground and she has been looking at her phone both times. I didn't like it but 2 year old was sitting in sandbox at the time, not needing an adult to engage him. I don't expect our nanny to never be on her phone - but is showing up and seeing her on it twice a terrible sign? She has been with us part time for 1.5 years and my son loves her. She handles and engages him well from what I see at home (I work from home).

It isn't a good sign, PP. Keep checking on her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, I hope you realize that you are the one who made this boy cry, by calling him aggressive and effectively telling him to go away. You were mean. Why not take the chance to teach your charge social grace, rather than looking down on a two year old.

I also don't appreciate the tone of your reference to other nannies as "foreign" and "bargain-basement." I don't think you should be working with people professionally if you have that much distaste for others.

Get real. What was she supposed to do? The foreign nanny was the f up - not OP. I do not pay my nanny to continue to play with a child who threatens mine.


You get what you pay for, MBs. I have never seen a foreign nanny NOT on her phone at the park.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yesterday my charge, twenty-one-months, at I were at a play museum (lots of different stations and areas for free play). A 2.5 year old was there with a foreign nanny who was texting constantly. Her charge saw my charge and I having fun and laughing so of course the 2.5 year old wanted to join us. The problem was that this 2.5 year old refused to play with my charge and actually only wanted to play with me. He basically stalked us from one station to another. At one point, he raised his fist to my charge. Then I told his nanny to please keep him away from us and that he was too aggressive. Her poor charge was crying hysterically as she carted him off.

The sad truth is I see this all the time. Other nannies charges so ignored in the library and park that they always want to play and interact with me. I am happy to play with other children IF AND ONLY IF it benefits my own charge. It is truly heartbreaking to see these little ones trying to get my attention and approval while their nannies (in every case I have witnessed it was a foreign nanny) text or talk to each other while ignoring their charge completely.

Parents should know what their bargain-basement-nanny is doing while they are out and about. Pop in and watch them for a distance and see for yourselves.

Kids do this. I've noticed that some kids do it more frequently, usually the ones who are verbally advanced and not shy about talking to adults. I have one charge who does this a lot, but his brothers do not. I've been caring for kids for more than 15 years. I've never had another charge who was so forward with unknown adults. I have pulled him aside at parks to tell him that those parents are there to spend time with their children. I told him he can talk or play with them briefly, but then needs to back off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I hope you realize that you are the one who made this boy cry, by calling him aggressive and effectively telling him to go away. You were mean. Why not take the chance to teach your charge social grace, rather than looking down on a two year old.

I also don't appreciate the tone of your reference to other nannies as "foreign" and "bargain-basement." I don't think you should be working with people professionally if you have that much distaste for others.

Get real. What was she supposed to do? The foreign nanny was the f up - not OP. I do not pay my nanny to continue to play with a child who threatens mine.


You get what you pay for, MBs. I have never seen a foreign nanny NOT on her phone at the park.

You should get out more if that's your perception.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I hope you realize that you are the one who made this boy cry, by calling him aggressive and effectively telling him to go away. You were mean. Why not take the chance to teach your charge social grace, rather than looking down on a two year old.

I also don't appreciate the tone of your reference to other nannies as "foreign" and "bargain-basement." I don't think you should be working with people professionally if you have that much distaste for others.

Get real. What was she supposed to do? The foreign nanny was the f up - not OP. I do not pay my nanny to continue to play with a child who threatens mine.


You get what you pay for, MBs. I have never seen a foreign nanny NOT on her phone at the park.

You should get out more if that's your perception.

NP here and a nanny and I share this PP's perception. I am sorry if that offends you but it is my experience, too. If the Spanish nannies are not talking to each other they are texting furiously on their phones and not playing or engaging their charges.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of these poor women have to go back to their employers home and clean with this being their only time to get personal business done via text and have other adult contact with someone who speaks their language.

But I agree - parents should always see what their foolish economy gets them with a nanny when they cannot see them on nanny cams.

Ohhh, I see the light now. Everything makes so much more sense. I thought all this time that when nannies get paid for their time, it was to do work and not have personal time. I see that MBs get to pay money for the nannies to have personal time now. This must be a new thing.

One more new thing: Don't forget they want to paid for napping as well. So then when you have kid #2, they complain that they can't take a consistent daily nap and need even more pay.

According to Wage and Labor, and the IRS, if the employee can't leave, the employee is working and must be paid. So yes, if the kids are napping, the parents are paying me, with the exception of a WAHP who allowed me to run *my* errands during naptime.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of these poor women have to go back to their employers home and clean with this being their only time to get personal business done via text and have other adult contact with someone who speaks their language.

But I agree - parents should always see what their foolish economy gets them with a nanny when they cannot see them on nanny cams.

Ohhh, I see the light now. Everything makes so much more sense. I thought all this time that when nannies get paid for their time, it was to do work and not have personal time. I see that MBs get to pay money for the nannies to have personal time now. This must be a new thing.

I work 24/7. When would you like me to take care of my personal business? My DB has no issues with me making phone calls, as long as the kids are watched while I do so, nor does he mind if I add one or two stops on the way to or from the house, as long as it's not every day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have surprises my nanny and son twice at the playground and she has been looking at her phone both times. I didn't like it but 2 year old was sitting in sandbox at the time, not needing an adult to engage him. I don't expect our nanny to never be on her phone - but is showing up and seeing her on it twice a terrible sign? She has been with us part time for 1.5 years and my son loves her. She handles and engages him well from what I see at home (I work from home).

If he's safe and happy, don't complain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most of these poor women have to go back to their employers home and clean with this being their only time to get personal business done via text and have other adult contact with someone who speaks their language.

But I agree - parents should always see what their foolish economy gets them with a nanny when they cannot see them on nanny cams.

Ohhh, I see the light now. Everything makes so much more sense. I thought all this time that when nannies get paid for their time, it was to do work and not have personal time. I see that MBs get to pay money for the nannies to have personal time now. This must be a new thing.

I work 24/7. When would you like me to take care of my personal business? My DB has no issues with me making phone calls, as long as the kids are watched while I do so, nor does he mind if I add one or two stops on the way to or from the house, as long as it's not every day.

Take care of your personal business when the children are napping. Not hard. I have always done this and never missed anything.

[Anonymous]

Children shouldn't have an adult breathing down their necks 24/7.