I feel like the worst nanny ever

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To 17:51, again, this nanny has already been on her game for years and years. There's absolutely nothing she should change. Get it?

She has a new employer. Regardless of her references, there is always a period of establishing and proving oneself in the new position. References help get the job, performance helps keep it. In our first year on the job, we are all still establishing our footing, regardless of how much experience we had prior to that. That's the point of probation. They don't cancel probation just because you have years of experience somewhere else. The employer needs to see it with their own eyes.

Hence, in another thread I said you can always quit. Anytime.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How a boss responds to your honest illness is an indication of their integrity, not yours.

It's a golden opportunity to access your boss's character. Take careful note and remember for the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone believes her, including her MB ... mostly.

That doesn't change the fact that calling in sick on day 6, a Monday, would make anyone skeptical about reliability.

I had a lovely nanny who was just sick all the time. As in, never worked an entire two-week pay period without needing a day off (or more) for an illness or a doctor's appointment, nearly all of them with no or only a day's notice. None of it was her fault, but it didn't work out, either.

The OP seems to get this, and I'm sure after a couple of months of stellar performance, MB will realize it was just bad timing and breathe a sigh of relief.

She already has a proven history of stellar performance. Remember?

With another family. References can be easily falsified or one family's version of stellar performance might not be the new family's.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone believes her, including her MB ... mostly.

That doesn't change the fact that calling in sick on day 6, a Monday, would make anyone skeptical about reliability.

I had a lovely nanny who was just sick all the time. As in, never worked an entire two-week pay period without needing a day off (or more) for an illness or a doctor's appointment, nearly all of them with no or only a day's notice. None of it was her fault, but it didn't work out, either.

The OP seems to get this, and I'm sure after a couple of months of stellar performance, MB will realize it was just bad timing and breathe a sigh of relief.

She already has a proven history of stellar performance. Remember?

With another family. References can be easily falsified or one family's version of stellar performance might not be the new family's.

Really now. She's got a lot more than one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone believes her, including her MB ... mostly.

That doesn't change the fact that calling in sick on day 6, a Monday, would make anyone skeptical about reliability.

I had a lovely nanny who was just sick all the time. As in, never worked an entire two-week pay period without needing a day off (or more) for an illness or a doctor's appointment, nearly all of them with no or only a day's notice. None of it was her fault, but it didn't work out, either.

The OP seems to get this, and I'm sure after a couple of months of stellar performance, MB will realize it was just bad timing and breathe a sigh of relief.

She already has a proven history of stellar performance. Remember?

With another family. References can be easily falsified or one family's version of stellar performance might not be the new family's.

Really now. She's got a lot more than one.

So what?

[Anonymous]

I am OP. I agree that I have wonderful references which did help me get this job ( and multiple offers) but it doesn't mean that I don't have to prove myself with my new employers. References and experience only get you so far. This family needs to see for themselves.

MB told me to take another day off. I am bummed because I would like to be at work. I am sure they don't think I am faking anything.

All I can do is be on my usual A game.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
How a boss responds to your honest illness is an indication of their integrity, not yours.

It's a golden opportunity to access your boss's character. Take careful note and remember for the future.


Terrible advice. In the second week of a new job, there is no way to know if you are reporting an "honest illness" so the spotlight is on the nanny to show her integrity. She is the one who is raising red flags with early absences.

(I'm not suggesting, OP, that you are not being honest. I'm replying to PP only.)

The golden opportunity here is for the boss to judge your character. So far, it sounds like it is going well for OP. But others are right. She will need to establish herself for perhaps longer because of this red flag. I'm sure she can do it, but make no mistake, it is on her to prove herself, not on her boss.

You are totally wrong and here's why:
The employer is well aware of this nanny's exceptional character, based on the nanny's established reputation (references.) Unless the employer offered a host of references for herself and spouse, what does the nanny have to go on? Nothing, except her day to day behavior.

For a lawyer, you should be smarter than you appear to be.

You don't have very good critical thinking skills, PP. The employer is not "well aware of this nanny's exceptional character". The employer only knows that a few families have been happy with her performance as a nanny. She may be exceptional, or she may be just fine. The employer only has the data point of someone else's opinion and will need to decide for herself if the nanny is exceptional, based on her performance in this new job.

I have no idea what your point is about a host of references for the employer or spouse. It is pretty irrelevant to OP's case, except that it reinforces my point that the only thing both sides have to go on is the present day to day behavior. References are not some guarantee of truth and don't count as an "established reputation".

Finally, I don't know where you got the idea I was a lawyer. I'm not and never said I was. Clearly, you have reading comprehension issues as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am OP. I agree that I have wonderful references which did help me get this job ( and multiple offers) but it doesn't mean that I don't have to prove myself with my new employers. References and experience only get you so far. This family needs to see for themselves.

MB told me to take another day off. I am bummed because I would like to be at work. I am sure they don't think I am faking anything.

All I can do is be on my usual A game.

All the best, OP. It is unfortunate that you got sick but I'm sure you can regain your employers trust and faith in you just by doing your best. Everyone hits a bad "health-patch" every now and again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone believes her, including her MB ... mostly.

That doesn't change the fact that calling in sick on day 6, a Monday, would make anyone skeptical about reliability.

I had a lovely nanny who was just sick all the time. As in, never worked an entire two-week pay period without needing a day off (or more) for an illness or a doctor's appointment, nearly all of them with no or only a day's notice. None of it was her fault, but it didn't work out, either.

The OP seems to get this, and I'm sure after a couple of months of stellar performance, MB will realize it was just bad timing and breathe a sigh of relief.

She already has a proven history of stellar performance. Remember?

With another family. References can be easily falsified or one family's version of stellar performance might not be the new family's.

I would never leave my child with someone I didn't trust. How could I?