I feel like the worst nanny ever

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

How a boss responds to your honest illness is an indication of their integrity, not yours.

It's a golden opportunity to access your boss's character. Take careful note and remember for the future.

Terrible advice. In the second week of a new job, there is no way to know if you are reporting an "honest illness" so the spotlight is on the nanny to show her integrity. She is the one who is raising red flags with early absences.

(I'm not suggesting, OP, that you are not being honest. I'm replying to PP only.)

The golden opportunity here is for the boss to judge your character. So far, it sounds like it is going well for OP. But others are right. She will need to establish herself for perhaps longer because of this red flag. I'm sure she can do it, but make no mistake, it is on her to prove herself, not on her boss.

You are totally wrong and here's why:
The employer is well aware of this nanny's exceptional character, based on the nanny's established reputation (references.) Unless the employer offered a host of references for herself and spouse, what does the nanny have to go on? Nothing, except her day to day behavior.

For a lawyer, you should be smarter than you appear to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

How a boss responds to your honest illness is an indication of their integrity, not yours.

It's a golden opportunity to access your boss's character. Take careful note and remember for the future.

Terrible advice. In the second week of a new job, there is no way to know if you are reporting an "honest illness" so the spotlight is on the nanny to show her integrity. She is the one who is raising red flags with early absences.

(I'm not suggesting, OP, that you are not being honest. I'm replying to PP only.)

The golden opportunity here is for the boss to judge your character. So far, it sounds like it is going well for OP. But others are right. She will need to establish herself for perhaps longer because of this red flag. I'm sure she can do it, but make no mistake, it is on her to prove herself, not on her boss.

You are totally wrong and here's why:
The employer is well aware of this nanny's exceptional character, based on the nanny's established reputation (references.) Unless the employer offered a host of references for herself and spouse, what does the nanny have to go on? Nothing, except her day to day behavior.

For a lawyer, you should be smarter than you appear to be.

Not the lawyer PP but I have no clue what point you are trying to make. The nanny has FIVE DAYS on this job. What should the employer be going on?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a company owner with over 50 employees. When anyone calls in sick on a Friday, my first thought is that they are going away for the weekend. When anyone calls in sick on a Monday, my first thought is that they are hung-over.

And yes, if anyone called in sick on their second Monday at work? Damn right I would be suspicious. Be a great worker for the next few months and don't call in sick again -- then and only then would I believe you.

+1 My first thought as well when I read your post, OP. "Food poisoning" after a big celebration screamed hang-over to me as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

How a boss responds to your honest illness is an indication of their integrity, not yours.

It's a golden opportunity to access your boss's character. Take careful note and remember for the future.

Terrible advice. In the second week of a new job, there is no way to know if you are reporting an "honest illness" so the spotlight is on the nanny to show her integrity. She is the one who is raising red flags with early absences.

(I'm not suggesting, OP, that you are not being honest. I'm replying to PP only.)

The golden opportunity here is for the boss to judge your character. So far, it sounds like it is going well for OP. But others are right. She will need to establish herself for perhaps longer because of this red flag. I'm sure she can do it, but make no mistake, it is on her to prove herself, not on her boss.

You are totally wrong and here's why:
The employer is well aware of this nanny's exceptional character, based on the nanny's established reputation (references.) Unless the employer offered a host of references for herself and spouse, what does the nanny have to go on? Nothing, except her day to day behavior.

For a lawyer, you should be smarter than you appear to be.

Not the lawyer PP but I have no clue what point you are trying to make. The nanny has FIVE DAYS on this job. What should the employer be going on?

I hope the lawyer at least has better comprehensive skills than you do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

How a boss responds to your honest illness is an indication of their integrity, not yours.

It's a golden opportunity to access your boss's character. Take careful note and remember for the future.

Terrible advice. In the second week of a new job, there is no way to know if you are reporting an "honest illness" so the spotlight is on the nanny to show her integrity. She is the one who is raising red flags with early absences.

(I'm not suggesting, OP, that you are not being honest. I'm replying to PP only.)

The golden opportunity here is for the boss to judge your character. So far, it sounds like it is going well for OP. But others are right. She will need to establish herself for perhaps longer because of this red flag. I'm sure she can do it, but make no mistake, it is on her to prove herself, not on her boss.

You are totally wrong and here's why:
The employer is well aware of this nanny's exceptional character, based on the nanny's established reputation (references.) Unless the employer offered a host of references for herself and spouse, what does the nanny have to go on? Nothing, except her day to day behavior.

For a lawyer, you should be smarter than you appear to be.

Not the lawyer PP but I have no clue what point you are trying to make. The nanny has FIVE DAYS on this job. What should the employer be going on?

I hope the lawyer at least has better comprehensive skills than you do.

NP here and you are not making sense, PP. CALM DOWN and stop attacking! Just explain what you are trying to say!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

How a boss responds to your honest illness is an indication of their integrity, not yours.

It's a golden opportunity to access your boss's character. Take careful note and remember for the future.

Terrible advice. In the second week of a new job, there is no way to know if you are reporting an "honest illness" so the spotlight is on the nanny to show her integrity. She is the one who is raising red flags with early absences.

(I'm not suggesting, OP, that you are not being honest. I'm replying to PP only.)

The golden opportunity here is for the boss to judge your character. So far, it sounds like it is going well for OP. But others are right. She will need to establish herself for perhaps longer because of this red flag. I'm sure she can do it, but make no mistake, it is on her to prove herself, not on her boss.

You are totally wrong and here's why:
The employer is well aware of this nanny's exceptional character, based on the nanny's established reputation (references.) Unless the employer offered a host of references for herself and spouse, what does the nanny have to go on? Nothing, except her day to day behavior.

It may help some of you to reread the above.

For a lawyer, you should be smarter than you appear to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a company owner with over 50 employees. When anyone calls in sick on a Friday, my first thought is that they are going away for the weekend. When anyone calls in sick on a Monday, my first thought is that they are hung-over.

And yes, if anyone called in sick on their second Monday at work? Damn right I would be suspicious. Be a great worker for the next few months and don't call in sick again -- then and only then would I believe you.

+1 My first thought as well when I read your post, OP. "Food poisoning" after a big celebration screamed hang-over to me as well.

It is in fact food poisoning and my whole family is sick. I actually don't drink at all and my employers know that. They offered wine while waiting for a taxi after MB was 2 hours late because of traffic. I explained to them that I don't drink at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a company owner with over 50 employees. When anyone calls in sick on a Friday, my first thought is that they are going away for the weekend. When anyone calls in sick on a Monday, my first thought is that they are hung-over.

And yes, if anyone called in sick on their second Monday at work? Damn right I would be suspicious. Be a great worker for the next few months and don't call in sick again -- then and only then would I believe you.

+1 My first thought as well when I read your post, OP. "Food poisoning" after a big celebration screamed hang-over to me as well.

It is in fact food poisoning and my whole family is sick. I actually don't drink at all and my employers know that. They offered wine while waiting for a taxi after MB was 2 hours late because of traffic. I explained to them that I don't drink at all.

We believe your integrity. It's the cut-throat "professionals" here who can't believe you. That's just how they operate, as they know nothing else. It's pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Everyone believes her, including her MB ... mostly.

That doesn't change the fact that calling in sick on day 6, a Monday, would make anyone skeptical about reliability.

I had a lovely nanny who was just sick all the time. As in, never worked an entire two-week pay period without needing a day off (or more) for an illness or a doctor's appointment, nearly all of them with no or only a day's notice. None of it was her fault, but it didn't work out, either.

The OP seems to get this, and I'm sure after a couple of months of stellar performance, MB will realize it was just bad timing and breathe a sigh of relief.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone believes her, including her MB ... mostly.

That doesn't change the fact that calling in sick on day 6, a Monday, would make anyone skeptical about reliability.
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+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone believes her, including her MB ... mostly.

That doesn't change the fact that calling in sick on day 6, a Monday, would make anyone skeptical about reliability.

I had a lovely nanny who was just sick all the time. As in, never worked an entire two-week pay period without needing a day off (or more) for an illness or a doctor's appointment, nearly all of them with no or only a day's notice. None of it was her fault, but it didn't work out, either.

The OP seems to get this, and I'm sure after a couple of months of stellar performance, MB will realize it was just bad timing and breathe a sigh of relief.

She already has a proven history of stellar performance. Remember?

[Anonymous]

As any human being knows first hand, none of us are immune to illness and sometimes in life Murphy's Law works against us.

I have been in your situation a few times and have felt an enormous amount of guilt, but it is truly out of your hands now.

When you are sick, you are just sick. There really is not a darn thing you can do about it.

And I am quite sure your MB knows this.

Just be on your game the next few weeks and with time, she will come to see this was just one of those unfortunate fluke things once you get the chance to prove your reliability with her.

Hope you feel better soon.

Drink lots of liquids.

[Anonymous]

To 17:51, again, this nanny has already been on her game for years and years. There's absolutely nothing she should change. Get it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To 17:51, again, this nanny has already been on her game for years and years. There's absolutely nothing she should change. Get it?

She has a new employer. Regardless of her references, there is always a period of establishing and proving oneself in the new position. References help get the job, performance helps keep it. In our first year on the job, we are all still establishing our footing, regardless of how much experience we had prior to that. That's the point of probation. They don't cancel probation just because you have years of experience somewhere else. The employer needs to see it with their own eyes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't mean to sound conceeded but I am very confident in my nanny abilities. I am highly sought after and recommended. I know I do a damn good job and I will rock he next few months. I've gone above and beyond with my nanny expectations ( from the parents mouths) and with little things that weren't expected.

* it's 'conceited'. Just FYI