MB looking to find fault with me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've had a similar experiences with my current MB - she is afraid of dirt and germs but not afraid of the toddler falling off the balcony or sticking her finger in an electrical outlet. Nothing in their house is child-proofed either but she wants me to wash a pacifier that falls on the floor of their apartment! I don't know if she is trying to find fault with me but she does have some very incongruent beliefs about keeping her child healthy and safe.

You are finding fault with her, no? Seems perfectly reasonable to wash a pacifier that falls on the floor. Maybe she doesn't seem concerned enough about other risks in your eyes but that's you finding fault with her - not her nitpicking at you for something she's not willing to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've had a similar experiences with my current MB - she is afraid of dirt and germs but not afraid of the toddler falling off the balcony or sticking her finger in an electrical outlet. Nothing in their house is child-proofed either but she wants me to wash a pacifier that falls on the floor of their apartment! I don't know if she is trying to find fault with me but she does have some very incongruent beliefs about keeping her child healthy and safe.

You are finding fault with her, no? Seems perfectly reasonable to wash a pacifier that falls on the floor. Maybe she doesn't seem concerned enough about other risks in your eyes but that's you finding fault with her - not her nitpicking at you for something she's not willing to do.

Of course I am "finding fault" with my MB - however the difference is that I do not tell her nor have the power to ask her to do things differently. I think not child-proofing a home is dangerous especially when you have a balcony that is seven stories above the ground! My MB should be less concerned about a pacifier falling on the floor of her living room and more concerned about general child safety.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I've had a similar experiences with my current MB - she is afraid of dirt and germs but not afraid of the toddler falling off the balcony or sticking her finger in an electrical outlet. Nothing in their house is child-proofed either but she wants me to wash a pacifier that falls on the floor of their apartment! I don't know if she is trying to find fault with me but she does have some very incongruent beliefs about keeping her child healthy and safe.


You are finding fault with her, no? Seems perfectly reasonable to wash a pacifier that falls on the floor. Maybe she doesn't seem concerned enough about other risks in your eyes but that's you finding fault with her - not her nitpicking at you for something she's not willing to do.




Of course I am "finding fault" with my MB - however the difference is that I do not tell her nor have the power to ask her to do things differently. I think not child-proofing a home is dangerous especially when you have a balcony that is seven stories above the ground! My MB should be less concerned about a pacifier falling on the floor of her living room and more concerned about general child safety.

I'm not sure how you would child proof a balcony but you could offer to help her child proof things like electrical outlets, especially if you're seeing your charge trying to stick her finger in one. I would expect a professional nanny to help identify and fix hazards they observe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I've had a similar experiences with my current MB - she is afraid of dirt and germs but not afraid of the toddler falling off the balcony or sticking her finger in an electrical outlet. Nothing in their house is child-proofed either but she wants me to wash a pacifier that falls on the floor of their apartment! I don't know if she is trying to find fault with me but she does have some very incongruent beliefs about keeping her child healthy and safe.


You are finding fault with her, no? Seems perfectly reasonable to wash a pacifier that falls on the floor. Maybe she doesn't seem concerned enough about other risks in your eyes but that's you finding fault with her - not her nitpicking at you for something she's not willing to do.




Of course I am "finding fault" with my MB - however the difference is that I do not tell her nor have the power to ask her to do things differently. I think not child-proofing a home is dangerous especially when you have a balcony that is seven stories above the ground! My MB should be less concerned about a pacifier falling on the floor of her living room and more concerned about general child safety.

I'm not sure how you would child proof a balcony but you could offer to help her child proof things like electrical outlets, especially if you're seeing your charge trying to stick her finger in one. I would expect a professional nanny to help identify and fix hazards they observe.

Not PP but there are railing guards in mesh, plexiglass and bamboo that cover railings on balconies and raised decks that raise the height of the railing and cover the openings on the slats. Most are also climb-proof. PP's MB is taking a horrible chance by not childproofing the balcony.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
I've had a similar experiences with my current MB - she is afraid of dirt and germs but not afraid of the toddler falling off the balcony or sticking her finger in an electrical outlet. Nothing in their house is child-proofed either but she wants me to wash a pacifier that falls on the floor of their apartment! I don't know if she is trying to find fault with me but she does have some very incongruent beliefs about keeping her child healthy and safe.


You are finding fault with her, no? Seems perfectly reasonable to wash a pacifier that falls on the floor. Maybe she doesn't seem concerned enough about other risks in your eyes but that's you finding fault with her - not her nitpicking at you for something she's not willing to do.




Of course I am "finding fault" with my MB - however the difference is that I do not tell her nor have the power to ask her to do things differently. I think not child-proofing a home is dangerous especially when you have a balcony that is seven stories above the ground! My MB should be less concerned about a pacifier falling on the floor of her living room and more concerned about general child safety.

I'm not sure how you would child proof a balcony but you could offer to help her child proof things like electrical outlets, especially if you're seeing your charge trying to stick her finger in one. I would expect a professional nanny to help identify and fix hazards they observe.

I have told her countless times about getting outlet covers and at least a sliding door lock for the balcony doors if she won't put up a railing guard. I have offered to pick them up for her but she says that she will do it. And she never does it. I cannot make purchases without her permission so what else can a professional nanny do? Please tell me (I am honestly asking) as I do worry about the dangers in my charges home. What else can I do?