Over Achiever or opportunist?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Hi All, thanks for your replies. Just an update on what's going on. Yesterday she finally sent me her social security and green card. During her interview we asked her explicitly if we could put her on payroll after a few weeks for deductions. She said that would not be a problem at all. Well, it turns out her green card expired in July. I was so furious and told her she could not come back until that was resolved. So, it turns out, she was trying to squeeze every dollar out of us before we put her on payroll/signed a year contract bc she knew she would get caught. With that being said, I'm looking for a new nanny. On the plus side, I'll be working from home starting in a couple weeks. I don't want to go through metro nannies again bc they sent us awful temps/prospects for perm positions. Any suggestions or referrals?

Oh sweetie. You'll never find a nanny who wants to work in a 1 bedroom apartment that you are also working in.

You are wrong, honey. We are in exact same situation as OP and our fantastic nanny has been with us for 3 years already.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Green card is a documant that proves permanent resident status. There is a difference between expiration date of the card and (potential) expiration of permanent resident status.

If originally green card was given for 2 years, it would be most likely be a conditional green card. She should have then filed for removal of conditions,and receipt of that filing usually exends the status for a year. If she did not file, well she has bigger problems then.

If originally green card was given for 10 years, the card might have expired but the STATUS doesn't. They should apply for a new card, it is pretty straightforward. Green card is just one of the list of documents that can be produced for employer to hire someone for purposes of filling I9. If she can produce driver's licence and unrestricted social security card, it should be enough proof that she legally can work in the US.

I'm not saying you should hire thhat nanny - she really sounds like not good fit for your family, I just wanted to make a point that having expired green card doesn't mean necessarily that one is illegal or not allowed to work.

You should not have had her start until you verified that or considered her illegal and deal with it accordingly. It makes no sense to have a nanny with a one bedroom apartment. That is very uncomfortable for everyone. Baby has no where to nap if you are camped out in the bedroom. If you are in the living room with baby napping in the bedroom, where does nanny go? If she is cleaning, you will complain about the noise and having to pay her more. Look for day care.

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She's probably cleaning because it keeps her out of your way. She is in the room you aren't. She probably feels as though she can't take a break with you there.
To be perfectly honest, you give off a very cold vibe.
She probably feels very uncomfortable around you.

[Anonymous]

PP here. I meant to add that there is a reason you've had multiple nannies in 10 months (10 months!!!!). You are the common denominator. I'd look at that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi All, thanks for your replies. Just an update on what's going on. Yesterday she finally sent me her social security and green card. During her interview we asked her explicitly if we could put her on payroll after a few weeks for deductions. She said that would not be a problem at all. Well, it turns out her green card expired in July. I was so furious and told her she could not come back until that was resolved. So, it turns out, she was trying to squeeze every dollar out of us before we put her on payroll/signed a year contract bc she knew she would get caught. With that being said, I'm looking for a new nanny. On the plus side, I'll be working from home starting in a couple weeks. I don't want to go through metro nannies again bc they sent us awful temps/prospects for perm positions. Any suggestions or referrals?

Oh sweetie. You'll never find a nanny who wants to work in a 1 bedroom apartment that you are also working in.

Wrong. I did. It was temporary, but still. A good nanny doesn't mind when the parents are around. A bad nanny does...what are they hiding?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi All, thanks for your replies. Just an update on what's going on. Yesterday she finally sent me her social security and green card. During her interview we asked her explicitly if we could put her on payroll after a few weeks for deductions. She said that would not be a problem at all. Well, it turns out her green card expired in July. I was so furious and told her she could not come back until that was resolved. So, it turns out, she was trying to squeeze every dollar out of us before we put her on payroll/signed a year contract bc she knew she would get caught. With that being said, I'm looking for a new nanny. On the plus side, I'll be working from home starting in a couple weeks. I don't want to go through metro nannies again bc they sent us awful temps/prospects for perm positions. Any suggestions or referrals?

Oh sweetie. You'll never find a nanny who wants to work in a 1 bedroom apartment that you are also working in.

Wrong. I did. It was temporary, but still. A good nanny doesn't mind when the parents are around. A bad nanny does...what are they hiding?

In a one-bedroom apartment it has nothing to do with being a good or bad nanny, it's just uncomfortable for everyone. Yeah, it was fine in a 2-bedroom condo while my MB was home on mat leave but I wouldn't have taken the job if she was going to be working there every day.

[Anonymous]

You're already overpaying her at 18/hr.
Redo the cleaning schedule so things are done weekly and not daily.

[Anonymous]

I have nannied for multiple families and I can tell you that working in someone else's mess is annoying. That was usually why I cleaned.

[Anonymous]

Working in a one bedroom apartment with my MB home would be terrible, and I have absolutely nothing to hide! My current MB works in the kitchen, and it can be terrible at times. It has nothing to do with what she or I do, but baby sees mommy, and then thinks, "screw the nanny, I want mom!" We end up spending three out of the six hours that I'm working going for walks because I don't think MB can get anything done with him here. On a rainy day like today we are definitely all under a lot of stress.

[Anonymous]

I work at home in a house, with multiple rooms, and have a nanny who doesn't mind, but I can't imagine making it work in a 1-bedroom. Naps, quiet space for work, room for kid to play ... how does that work in such a small space?