She's kidding, right?

[Anonymous]

I am so so glad that we have a completely different dynamic with our kids' nanny than I see here.

Our nanny has helped us out in a pinch without demanding proof that we were needy enough to be worthy of her effort. We have helped her out when she's needed it without demanding proof that she was in sufficient trouble/discomfort/whatever... to need the time or flexibility.

The nanny and the parents are on the same side in our house. We support and respect each other and have helped each other out significantly in the three years she has been with our family.

We care about and for each other. If anyone treated anyone else w/ the attitude of the OP in this thread I hope the employment relationship would have ended years ago.

[Anonymous]

Where is this attitude of OPs that people keep referencing? She has an unpopular opinion. Is that it? I haven't seen any rude, nasty, or even disparaging posts from OP. she's venting about feeling taken for granted. Haven't we all felt that way? Get off of your high horses and cut OP a break.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am so so glad that we have a completely different dynamic with our kids' nanny than I see here.

Our nanny has helped us out in a pinch without demanding proof that we were needy enough to be worthy of her effort. We have helped her out when she's needed it without demanding proof that she was in sufficient trouble/discomfort/whatever... to need the time or flexibility.

The nanny and the parents are on the same side in our house. We support and respect each other and have helped each other out significantly in the three years she has been with our family.

We care about and for each other. If anyone treated anyone else w/ the attitude of the OP in this thread I hope the employment relationship would have ended years ago.

+1 from a nanny. My goodness.

OP, there is a perfectly reasonable way to say, "Jean, I am happy to come in early while Tom is away so you won't be late for work, but it is a bit of a hardship on my own household's routine so please let me know if you don't absolutely NEED me to be here by 7 any particular day because I'd prefer to work my regular hours whenever possible." Yes, if she asked you to come in early all week and then you found out she wasn't leaving for work one morning I can see how you'd be mildly peeved, but this is all about communication, OP. And perhaps being a "single parent" all week did have her feeling like she NEEDED you that extra morning. Why so much animosity towards your MB? There must be other issues simmering below the surface...

[Anonymous]

Op here, thanks for the thoughts guys. 15:57, you are totally right...there are far more issues that cause this little hiccup to be so huge to me. MB is always late and claims that she had late appointments. She always forgetting to tell me that she had schedule these appointments until ten mins before my end time and I find out via text. She forgets to pay me for my OT and I have to ask for it. There's always dishes galore in the sink in the am, she "forgets" to bathe the kids all weekend...the list goes on. All in all, it's time to move on.

[Anonymous]

Good for you. It won't get better just worse

[Anonymous]

Nanny is out of line here. MB has been running the home, working, and taking care of the kids by herself this week. If you don't have a house (as opposed to apartment) and kids of your own to deal with after work, you may not realize how exhausting the combination is. Maybe she needs some time for personal business, maybe she needs to get showered and ready and log into the office computer before the appointment, maybe she just needs the extra sleep. It really is none of your concern. If you can't come in early, say so, but there is nothing inconsiderate or inappropriate about the MB's request. That is especially so given that she is apparently paying your regular hours while your charge is at the dentist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here, I do have guaranteed hours and more than one charge so I would not be missing any pay. I am so annoyed because I agreed to come in early because she needed help. She doesn't need help to sleep. She only needed help when she was going to be late for work but now that my charged had an appointment, there was no need to come in early. The appointment is 2.5 hours LATER than when she normally leaves for work. She could have easily got up at her normal time, got ready, and tended to the kids until I arrived at normal time.

It's not up to you to determine whether the MB needs childcare for a worthy reason. The job obvously requires some flexibility re hours and you were asked and agreed to come in early this week. Get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nanny is out of line here. MB has been running the home, working, and taking care of the kids by herself this week. If you don't have a house (as opposed to apartment) and kids of your own to deal with after work, you may not realize how exhausting the combination is. Maybe she needs some time for personal business, maybe she needs to get showered and ready and log into the office computer before the appointment, maybe she just needs the extra sleep. It really is none of your concern. If you can't come in early, say so, but there is nothing inconsiderate or inappropriate about the MB's request. That is especially so given that she is apparently paying your regular hours while your charge is at the dentist.

You're missing the point. OP was more than willing to help out when she was needed. She is annoyed that she was basically lied to about one morning and still had to come in. I would be annoyed too if I was told one thing and then the real reason changed. OP is not a mother, MB is so MB needs to suck it up and be the mom and deal with her children when the nanny is off the clock instead of tricking her into working extra hours by claiming that she needs to be at work on time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, have you ever tried to get ready in the morning while simultaneously watching children? It's impossible. Even if she doesn't have to be at work until after she takes your charge to the dentist she presumably has to get ready before they go to the dentist right? Or should she go to the dentist in her pjs? If she's paying you for your time stop complaining. Or don't agree to it if you don't want to get up early but don't agree and then complain.

Good grief. How do single mom's without Nanny's do it? Or parents who are the only ones home during the morning rush?

It isn't impossible. This "mom" just can't be bothered. I've been a true single mom... she gets no sympathy from me.

- Not a nanny

[Anonymous]

17:39 here.. Sorry OP. While I think this mom is just flat out lazy/entitled, you agreed to go in early while her precious hubby is away. The woman cannot function on her own, so in you go.