She's kidding, right?

[Anonymous]

When I usually come into work, DB is there but he is away in a business trip this week so I've been coming in 45 mins earlier so that MB can get to work on time. She doesn't have to go into work tomorrow at normal time bc my charge has a dentist appointment at nine, MB will go to work after the appointment. MB asked me to still come in 45 mins esrly so that she could have time to wake up and get ready. So, I'm waking up earlier and getting ready earlier so she can get ready at her normal time even though she wouldn't have to be at work on time...what sense does this make? I know the only reason she is asking me to do this is because the kids are up super earlier and she doesn't want to have to get up and "fool" with them. Can't mess with her precious sleep, but the Nannys...fair game.

[Anonymous]

If you don't want to come in early, tell her no. She asked you to work overtime; you agreed. End of story. You don't get to agree but then bitch that not doing i herself makes her lazy. If her DH is out of town, that may be her only break for the day, but even if she literally spends the entire day eating bon bons, it is truly none of your concern. Work the hours you agreed to and shut up about it.

[Anonymous]

Pp, no just no. No professional and respectful MB would ever consider even asking her nanny to do such a thing. OP, get out and find a MB that respects you and your personal time.

[Anonymous]

If you don't want to go in, just say so. But when you agree to work, it is not ok for you to judge how MB spends that time. You are getting paid to be there, not be judgy McJudge.

[Anonymous]

Some mb's get awfully pissy when you show them a new boundary. So unfortunate to be that selfish.

[Anonymous]

OP. Your MB is essentially a single parent this week. The 45 "extra" minutes you are working tomorrow is probably the only free time she will have the entire week and I'm sure she appreciates it. A little more kindness and understanding may be called for on your part.

[Anonymous]

"Your MB is essentially a single parent this week. The 45 "extra" minutes you are working tomorrow is probably the only free time she will have the entire week and I'm sure she appreciates it."

+1
Having you come every day early so she can sleep in - very bad. Taking advantage of the one day you already agreed to be there early but she can avoid tearing her hair out getting the kids & herself ready at the same time - sorry, hard-pressed to see that as really bad.

[Anonymous]

OP, have you ever tried to get ready in the morning while simultaneously watching children? It's impossible. Even if she doesn't have to be at work until after she takes your charge to the dentist she presumably has to get ready before they go to the dentist right? Or should she go to the dentist in her pjs? If she's paying you for your time stop complaining. Or don't agree to it if you don't want to get up early but don't agree and then complain.

[Anonymous]

Op here, I only agreed if it was a dire emergency..like her being late for work. She doesn't get the kids ready...I do. She doesn't want to wake up when they wake up, plain and simple. I am not the mom, she is.

[Anonymous]

Oh right, so the nanny has to wake up earlier than normal for the mom to be prepared for an appointment that's later than her usual work start time. You guys are unreasonable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh right, so the nanny has to wake up earlier than normal for the mom to be prepared for an appointment that's later than her usual work start time. You guys are unreasonable.

No, that's not what anyone said and besides that OP didn't say the dentist appointment was later than MBs usual work start time, she said she was going to work later than usual after the dentist appointment. If she doesn't want to get up early then don't agree to it. But don't agree and THEN complain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here, I only agreed if it was a dire emergency..like her being late for work. She doesn't get the kids ready...I do. She doesn't want to wake up when they wake up, plain and simple. I am not the mom, she is.

I get your annoyance, but if she does not want to do it, that is why she pays you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here, I only agreed if it was a dire emergency..like her being late for work. She doesn't get the kids ready...I do. She doesn't want to wake up when they wake up, plain and simple. I am not the mom, she is.

I understand that it's annoying but then why did you agree this time? Did she not tell you ahead of time that she was going to work later? If that's the case then I agree you have a right to be annoyed but that's not how you presented it before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here, I only agreed if it was a dire emergency..like her being late for work. She doesn't get the kids ready...I do. She doesn't want to wake up when they wake up, plain and simple. I am not the mom, she is.

I understand that it's annoying but then why did you agree this time? Did she not tell you ahead of time that she was going to work later? If that's the case then I agree you have a right to be annoyed but that's not how you presented it before.

No, she still doesn't have a right to be annoyed. You were asked to worked these hours. You agreed. How she chooses to spend this kid-free time is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. Be a professional and work the time you agreed to without keeping track of how other people use their time.

[Anonymous]

I understand you may be annoyed, I would be too.

But to be fair, perhaps she is doing it to give you more working hours so that you can make more money. Like..It's not your fault her son has a dentist appt. so she won't make you lose pay over coming over later. She will just have you come at the same time so you can make the same amount of money.