DB asked me not to bring personal items to work

[Anonymous]

Hey OP, while I probably would have mentioned it to my bosses, I don't think you were in the wrong.

I appreciate the MB who mentioned that she keeps personal stuff in her office...because that's what you are doing. Your office happens to be another person's home so things get a little complicated but you definitely weren't in the wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. DB has told me before that I should bring some clothes over in case my charge spits up on me. I didn't really feel the need to ask if I could bring toiletries as well.
I assumed the clothing invitation would suffice.
It's not like I'm taking over their home. It's in the back of a cabinet in an unused cabinet behind a package of toilet paper.
MB actually called me and apologized profusely for what DB did. She said it was absolutely fine for me to leave things in their home and she can't believe he brought it up. In the future, I'll ask.

Maybe this is why he said something. You didn't ask upfront and then you basically hid your basket in the cabinet. Just do what almost EVERY other employee (regardless of where they work) does and carry your personal belongings with you. I have a hard time believing that a few toiletries are too cumbersome to keep in a purse or tote...

Never had a locker at work? Or an office? Its not hard to bring things in your purse, but its also nice to have a place to store them at work. I have no desire to bring a change of clothes, deodorant, etc. along with my lunch each day. You all are really being quite obtuse.

I work in a hospital and NO, I do not have a locker. I work longer hours than I did as a nanny and get a lot grosser in that time. I bring in everything I need for the day and take it with me at night...along with every other nurse on the unit. I definitely do not PRESUME, especially without asking, that I can just leave my personal items wherever I deem fit just because I spend a great deal of time at work and might need something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:While I see while it makes sense to leave your things at the house, considering how many hours you work there, I think you should have at least let your family know ahead of time that you would be doing so. Just a common courtesy.

I think most likely that is the point your DB was trying to convey.

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[Anonymous]

I totally agree with most of the other responses. I have an emergency tote bag like this but I keep it my purse, which is big enough to accommodate it.

Honestly I would find it rude if I found random items like this in my bathroom- no matter how many hours you worked for me. Especially without asking permission.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:While I see while it makes sense to leave your things at the house, considering how many hours you work there, I think you should have at least let your family know ahead of time that you would be doing so. Just a common courtesy.

I think most likely that is the point your DB was trying to convey.

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My toiletries also fit in my purse but if they didn't I'd certainly ask before storing any at work. I don't even leave food here without asking, and that's expected since I bring my own meals!

[Anonymous]

what are you all doing that you need multiple deodorants and toothbrushes and hairbrushes etc? I'm a nanny and have never had hygiene problems at work aside from when I was spit up on (and then I simply changed into the extra shirt I carry in my tote bag). OP, you aren't the first person to work outside of your home and need tampons, I'm sure you can use a tote just like the rest of us. 5 tampons aren't really that cumbersome

[Anonymous]

this is somebody's home, OP. not an office. that is something you should ask about and quite frankly, if I were a parent I wouldn't want it there. You're a live out nanny for a reason, and I presume one of those reasons is that they want their home to be theirs

[Anonymous]

I would definitely think it bizarre if nanny left a basket of personal toiletries in a bathroom at my house, just as I would never leave a basket of toiletries in the bathroom at my office. That is what purses are for.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand what is so bizarre. MB here and I agree with the nanny. You deserve to be comfortable in tier home while you're there. You left toiletries. Nothing dangerous or even provocative (ex. Condoms).

Db should get over himself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:this is somebody's home, OP. not an office. that is something you should ask about and quite frankly, if I were a parent I wouldn't want it there. You're a live out nanny for a reason, and I presume one of those reasons is that they want their home to be theirs

This is a good point. Afterall, having someone's tampon in your home is exactly the same thing as having someone living in your home.

Unless the OP was paying part of the mortgage for the square footage occupied by her tampon, the DB's home ownership is unthreatened. I think it's a very weird thing to object to. Having said that, I'm kind of used to asking permission to do things, because in my experience people sometimes object to very weird things.

[Anonymous]

Why not just bring a tote bag or backpack with an extra outfit or two and what you need? While I wouldn't care if we had the space, it is a bit weird to me.

[Anonymous]

I leave pads. Hair brush and hair spray in the gues bathroom, in the cabinet and NF doesn't mind. BUT I do keep my tooth brush. Floss and contact case, deodorant in my vera Bradley and I do have pads in there as well. It's doable OP. you have to decide whether this is something you can compromise with or not...but is it really worth a fight?

[Anonymous]

Put ion a necessaries,in your car or caring with you ,use a big purse.

[Anonymous]

In two weeks is going to be my last day with my family,I want to know if their have to support me until a get new job?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In two weeks is going to be my last day with my family,I want to know if their have to support me until a get new job?

Did you quit? Were you fired? I'm a little confused. If you were fired, you can file for unemployment (assuming of course you were paid legally). If you were fired for cause, you may run into a little bit of trouble depending on what the "for cause" was. If you quit, it can be pretty difficult to file for unemployment. I was under the impression you couldn't file at all, but I think I remember saying some people do get unemployment after quitting.

But other than unemployment, the family has no obligation to support you or pay you until you get another job. Depending on the circumstances, they may give you some severance though.