DB asked me not to bring personal items to work

[Anonymous]

This would never bother me as a MB. If someone is at my house 50 hours a week, I would expect them to leave a few things there! I absolutely keep some personal items at my office at work.

[Anonymous]

I find it presumptive that you didn't ask before leaving personal items in their home. I have a large tote bag that I use for work which contains a full change of clothing and a cosmetic bag with a tooth brush, toothpaste, face wipes, moisturizer, and deodorant. I toss my wallet in it and my lunch everyday. Really- its not difficult to do.

[Anonymous]

I think he's being ridiculous, but I would have asked first, or at least mentioned that you left it there. I have a change of clothes at my job, as well as hand lotion since I wash my hands constantly at work and don't want to use up their lotion. I would be really annoyed if my boss said anything like that to me. I wipe your kid's ass. I see you, and your floppy dick, in your boxers every morning. You won't die because my deodorant and tampons are in the back of your bathroom cabinet.

[Anonymous]

OP here. DB has told me before that I should bring some clothes over in case my charge spits up on me. I didn't really feel the need to ask if I could bring toiletries as well.
I assumed the clothing invitation would suffice.
It's not like I'm taking over their home. It's in the back of a cabinet in an unused cabinet behind a package of toilet paper.
MB actually called me and apologized profusely for what DB did. She said it was absolutely fine for me to leave things in their home and she can't believe he brought it up. In the future, I'll ask.

[Anonymous]

*unused bathroom

[Anonymous]

so who told her what he said? him or you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:so who told her what he said? him or you?

He did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. DB has told me before that I should bring some clothes over in case my charge spits up on me. I didn't really feel the need to ask if I could bring toiletries as well.
I assumed the clothing invitation would suffice.
It's not like I'm taking over their home. It's in the back of a cabinet in an unused cabinet behind a package of toilet paper.
MB actually called me and apologized profusely for what DB did. She said it was absolutely fine for me to leave things in their home and she can't believe he brought it up. In the future, I'll ask.

Maybe this is why he said something. You didn't ask upfront and then you basically hid your basket in the cabinet. Just do what almost EVERY other employee (regardless of where they work) does and carry your personal belongings with you. I have a hard time believing that a few toiletries are too cumbersome to keep in a purse or tote...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. DB has told me before that I should bring some clothes over in case my charge spits up on me. I didn't really feel the need to ask if I could bring toiletries as well.
I assumed the clothing invitation would suffice.
It's not like I'm taking over their home. It's in the back of a cabinet in an unused cabinet behind a package of toilet paper.
MB actually called me and apologized profusely for what DB did. She said it was absolutely fine for me to leave things in their home and she can't believe he brought it up. In the future, I'll ask.

This doesn't make sense. If it was as unobtrusive as you say in a bathroom no one uses, how did he find it in order to say something? And when he found it, why would he assume it was yours and not something MB had put out? Either it was out and much more obtrusive than you claim or you're a troll making this all up (I think the latter).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. DB has told me before that I should bring some clothes over in case my charge spits up on me. I didn't really feel the need to ask if I could bring toiletries as well.
I assumed the clothing invitation would suffice.
It's not like I'm taking over their home. It's in the back of a cabinet in an unused cabinet behind a package of toilet paper.
MB actually called me and apologized profusely for what DB did. She said it was absolutely fine for me to leave things in their home and she can't believe he brought it up. In the future, I'll ask.

This doesn't make sense. If it was as unobtrusive as you say in a bathroom no one uses, how did he find it in order to say something? And when he found it, why would he assume it was yours and not something MB had put out? Either it was out and much more obtrusive than you claim or you're a troll making this all up (I think the latter).

[Anonymous]

MB here. this is utterly ridiculous. why should it be an issue for a nanny to leave a few toiletries etc. at their house. i wouldn't mind and can't believe it even came up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The bathroom isn't used by the family OR guests? Ever? Agree with PP - someone saw your basket and commented on it. And it's a little wierd. Those are all things you can throw in a tote bag, bring into the house, put down and not carry around all day, and then take home. The bag can live in your car if it's really that inconvenient to carry them around. But I carry most of that stuff in my purse all the time anyway - not sure how it's THAT inconvenient either ....

Who would comment on a basket of personal hygiene items in a bathroom?? I can just imagine someone strolling out saying oh Fred I like your basket of dental floss tooth paste and hair bands....

[Anonymous]

While I see while it makes sense to leave your things at the house, considering how many hours you work there, I think you should have at least let your family know ahead of time that you would be doing so. Just a common courtesy.

I think most likely that is the point your DB was trying to convey.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. DB has told me before that I should bring some clothes over in case my charge spits up on me. I didn't really feel the need to ask if I could bring toiletries as well.
I assumed the clothing invitation would suffice.
It's not like I'm taking over their home. It's in the back of a cabinet in an unused cabinet behind a package of toilet paper.
MB actually called me and apologized profusely for what DB did. She said it was absolutely fine for me to leave things in their home and she can't believe he brought it up. In the future, I'll ask.

Maybe this is why he said something. You didn't ask upfront and then you basically hid your basket in the cabinet. Just do what almost EVERY other employee (regardless of where they work) does and carry your personal belongings with you. I have a hard time believing that a few toiletries are too cumbersome to keep in a purse or tote...

Never had a locker at work? Or an office? Its not hard to bring things in your purse, but its also nice to have a place to store them at work. I have no desire to bring a change of clothes, deodorant, etc. along with my lunch each day. You all are really being quite obtuse.

[Anonymous]

Another MB here. Our nanny has things like this at our house, she has a space in the linen closet adjacent to the bathroom to use for extra clothes, toiletries, etc... She also has a shelf in a kitchen cupboard to keep food, vitamins, etc...

She is in our house ten hours a day, and has been for almost 3 years. I want her to be comfortable and have whatever she needs.

I can imagine my husband saying something completely stupid like this DB did, and then realizing how obnoxious he sounded and hoping I never got wind of it!