Boss blindsided by my leave

[Anonymous]

Maybe I am reading this wrong but from what the OP wrote it sounds like she's already started her new job and still getting paid for her old job. If she quit her old job today she doesn't need 2 weeks pay from her old job. She's just trying to screw her employers. In some cases I think it's deserved - in the case of the MB who wouldn't let the nanny go early for a job interview- but in this case the only complaint she has is that she has to remind them to pay her gas. She doesn't like the job because they don't want her to drive more than 3 miles and that's fine and totally legitimate that she wants to find a new job but doesn't make them bad employers, worthy of being screwed. They are just not a good fit for her.

OP this is very unprofessional and it gives all the good professional nannies out there a bad name.

[Anonymous]

OP, be an adult and give two weeks notice. It will be the right thing to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, be an adult and give two weeks notice. It will be the right thing to do.

When was the last time you were taken advantage of?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a family call me during my work day, with their kids, to let me know they would not need me anymore as they were going to start using family for childcare. I had JUST seen them that morning and they said nothing. They gave me 2 weeks notice, but I found a job sooner and told them on friday that it would be my last day. I wish I would have (been financially able to) tell them to have their family come and take the kids that day and left. How rude to call me to tell me this! I have been MUCH happier with my current position!

They gave you two weeks notice. Unless your contract called for longer notice, they did just fine by you. Telling you in person would have been nicer, but they may have been in a rush to get to work, may not have known in the morning that the family was on board to provide care, or may have been reluctant to keep you late to tell you after work. Their behavior doesn't sound like a big deal at all, and if you'd exercised your fantasy of walking off the job the minute they called, you would have been acting like a child.

Some of you should stop taking everything as a personal affront. People who walk around expecting to get shit on tend to create an environment of distrust, which only encourages others to shit on them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, be an adult and give two weeks notice. It will be the right thing to do.

When was the last time you were taken advantage of?

How is OP being taken advantage of?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you are incredibly unprofessional, not to mention selfish and immature.

It's surprising how many nannies on this thread are comfortable with blindsiding the families they work for or not honoring the notice period. Yet, they expect families to pay severance. Truly entitled.

I don't think that's exactly what's happening.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sure, this sounds like the best decision for you in the short term.

It also sounds short sighted, unprofessional, and nasty.

If you did this with me you'd need to be pretty certain you never wanted a reference. I can respect you finding another job and giving appropriate notice. I don't respect you handling in the way you frame.

Of course you have to look out for yourself, but you have to live with yourself also. I've been blindsided w/ a termination and it's rotten. I would only blindside my nanny if she stole, harmed my child (or put them in danger), or betrayed our trust is some deep/significant way.

Even though it seems clear that nannying won't be a long-term profession for you, it is your profession now and the ethics you are demonstrating will be as questionable in your future employment, regardless of what the profession is, as they are in how you are handling these jobs now.

But maybe you're just one of our trolls looking for entertainment and I've responded like Pavlov's dog. I'd actually prefer that to wondering what poor families are employing you in good faith.

Honestly, it seems from what OP wrote, that the family could not hold up their end off the bargain. I think surprising them with quitting is a good lesson for them to learn from, that if you screw up the wrong person, they will screw you. Idoubt they're unfortunate-inconsiderate yes, unfortunate no.

How did the family screw the OP? Sounds like they tried to financially make up the difference and just aren't comfortable with her taking the kids too far from home. I worked for a family that didn't want me driving, and I won't do that again, but that is in no way them screwing me! This is a really shitty way to handle yourself and I cannot believe anyone would condone this behavior. Shitty move OP!

How did they screw OP? Really, did you miss the part about them not allowing her to leave 15 minutes early (which yes, is not necessarily screwing her over, but not the nicest thing either) AND also finding fault with her actually JOB SEARCHING after they had giver HER notice? She's not allowed to even look for a job until she has had her last day with them? You don't call THAT shitty behavior?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sure, this sounds like the best decision for you in the short term.

It also sounds short sighted, unprofessional, and nasty.

If you did this with me you'd need to be pretty certain you never wanted a reference. I can respect you finding another job and giving appropriate notice. I don't respect you handling in the way you frame.

Of course you have to look out for yourself, but you have to live with yourself also. I've been blindsided w/ a termination and it's rotten. I would only blindside my nanny if she stole, harmed my child (or put them in danger), or betrayed our trust is some deep/significant way.

Even though it seems clear that nannying won't be a long-term profession for you, it is your profession now and the ethics you are demonstrating will be as questionable in your future employment, regardless of what the profession is, as they are in how you are handling these jobs now.

But maybe you're just one of our trolls looking for entertainment and I've responded like Pavlov's dog. I'd actually prefer that to wondering what poor families are employing you in good faith.

Honestly, it seems from what OP wrote, that the family could not hold up their end off the bargain. I think surprising them with quitting is a good lesson for them to learn from, that if you screw up the wrong person, they will screw you. Idoubt they're unfortunate-inconsiderate yes, unfortunate no.

How did the family screw the OP? Sounds like they tried to financially make up the difference and just aren't comfortable with her taking the kids too far from home. I worked for a family that didn't want me driving, and I won't do that again, but that is in no way them screwing me! This is a really shitty way to handle yourself and I cannot believe anyone would condone this behavior. Shitty move OP!

How did they screw OP? Really, did you miss the part about them not allowing her to leave 15 minutes early (which yes, is not necessarily screwing her over, but not the nicest thing either) AND also finding fault with her actually JOB SEARCHING after they had giver HER notice? She's not allowed to even look for a job until she has had her last day with them? You don't call THAT shitty behavior?

Oops, my mistake. That was another poster. Yes, the OP was NOT screwed over in any kind of way. You are totally right.

[Anonymous]

OP here. The commute and not being reimbursed was just the icing on the cake. I won't bore you with details. I don't regret my decisions. Sometimes, people need to step on toes to get ahead in life! These people should not have nannies, they don't respect anyone's time but their own. If you felt disrespected months and months you would probably not leave professionally either. I think it's stupid to leave with appropriate notice, if they screw you over-screw them over!

[Anonymous]

Okay now you just sound like a child. I was one of the nannies that sided with you, but not for the sake of screwing your employers.

[Anonymous]

Truth is in this field there can be a million unexpected deal breakers for both nannies and parents. It would be nice if two weeks was acceptable, but most parents freak when you tell them your leaving. Their reaction to you leaving can be crazy and irrational and that can be enough of a reason for the nanny to say enough! It's nearly impossible to work in someone's home caring for their children if they are angry at you and treating you miserably. Too all MB's who have responded with anger to a nanny giving notice, think about your response was it really appropriate for someone who worked really hard for you for x aMount of years?

[Anonymous]

OP here. The commute and not being reimbursed was just the icing on the cake. I won't bore you with details. I don't regret my decisions. Sometimes, people need to step on toes to get ahead in life! These people should not have nannies, they don't respect anyone's time but their own. If you felt disrespected months and months you would probably not leave professionally either. I think it's stupid to leave with appropriate notice, if they screw you over-screw them over!

You aren't just screwing them over by not giving notice, you are also double dipping, which makes you a cheat and a liar as well. You said you already signed the contract and started working for your new family. So you are being paid by two families for three weeks.

You are truly awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

OP here. The commute and not being reimbursed was just the icing on the cake. I won't bore you with details. I don't regret my decisions. Sometimes, people need to step on toes to get ahead in life! These people should not have nannies, they don't respect anyone's time but their own. If you felt disrespected months and months you would probably not leave professionally either. I think it's stupid to leave with appropriate notice, if they screw you over-screw them over!

You aren't just screwing them over by not giving notice, you are also double dipping, which makes you a cheat and a liar as well. You said you already signed the contract and started working for your new family. So you are being paid by two families for three weeks.

You are truly awful.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well...our situation was much different.

We are the MB/DB and felt that we were very generous and kind to our nanny. When she let us know that she wanted to take a vacation to visit her husband's family (in a far and distant land) coincided with a business trip that our entire family was going on...we eagerly agreed. We asked her to take all the time she wanted...begged her actually, to take more time...because we knew the trip was long, and expensive, and knew that once they got there they may want to stay longer...but she said no, that she couldn't be away for that long, and she needed the income.

We arranged for temporary child care for the time she was going to be gone, went through all the hassle of taxes etc. for a new nanny...had the nanny live with us, because it was more convenient, blah...blah...blah...it was a HUGE effort.

She called the night she was supposed to have returned...she was staying an extra week, and could we be flexible and allow her to stay?

She was fired on the spot.

We were in turmoil...I had to head off the next morning for another business trip...my husband had to stay home with the kids and find another nanny. But honestly, it was worth the chaos.

She has not worked since...and she has never asked for a reference. Maybe good for her...maybe she got her Associates degree because she had the extra free time...I don't know.

BUT, in our area, it would have definitely been helpful if she had made sure she retained our letter of recommendation. Bad reps and news travels fast in our town.

Her request/timing was immature and unprofessional. But you fired her on the spot?? After you basically told her before going to take as much time as she likes? You're exactly the kind of MB every nanny is wary of and exactly why we quit with as little notice as possible if there is even an inkling that our MB is like you. Thanks for posting! Now we can all stop pretending these MBs are simply a figment of nannies' imaginations.

I would have fired her on the spot as well. You don't call less than 24 hours prior to returning and ask for an extra week. PP had zero time to plan for backup care. Don't worry though, I'm sure she wouldn't hire you to begin with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

OP here. The commute and not being reimbursed was just the icing on the cake. I won't bore you with details. I don't regret my decisions. Sometimes, people need to step on toes to get ahead in life! These people should not have nannies, they don't respect anyone's time but their own. If you felt disrespected months and months you would probably not leave professionally either. I think it's stupid to leave with appropriate notice, if they screw you over-screw them over!

You aren't just screwing them over by not giving notice, you are also double dipping, which makes you a cheat and a liar as well. You said you already signed the contract and started working for your new family. So you are being paid by two families for three weeks.

You are truly awful.

No you people are awful.

OP, you no this family. If they are the type to screw you on pay or give you a bad reference then I'd do whats best for me too, even if that meant giving no notice. Don't listen to these rotten hypocrites on an anonymous board. Just do whats best for you and don't take anyones crap.