Upset...long vent

[Anonymous]

Well you charged $150 for all 4 kids previous times but doubled it this time when you only had 1 kid. I don't blame the mom and I don't think she meant any harm.

Also, complaining to your employer about other parents is very unprofessional. I don't even think you had two other gig offers I think you're just mad because you thought you were gonna make fast cash, have free meals, etc and it didn't work in your favor. You also handled it poorly by being snotty/passive-aggressive.

I'm sure you lost alot of brownie points with this family.. Your attitude was obviously noticed hence the reason she felt compelled to hand you $100 and a 'sorry note'.

You should also take into account the free meals, the baby naps throughout the day, etc. I no in a regular setting the snacks/etc are usually a free perk. I also no there is up and down time but making $300 for one full day isn't usually common and I'm sure most wouldn't pay that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well you charged $150 for all 4 kids previous times but doubled it this time when you only had 1 kid. I don't blame the mom and I don't think she meant any harm.

Also, complaining to your employer about other parents is very unprofessional. I don't even think you had two other gig offers I think you're just mad because you thought you were gonna make fast cash, have free meals, etc and it didn't work in your favor. You also handled it poorly by being snotty/passive-aggressive.

I'm sure you lost alot of brownie points with this family.. Your attitude was obviously noticed hence the reason she felt compelled to hand you $100 and a 'sorry note'.

You should also take into account the free meals, the baby naps throughout the day, etc. I no in a regular setting the snacks/etc are usually a free perk. I also no there is up and down time but making $300 for one full day isn't usually common and I'm sure most wouldn't pay that.

OP here. Wow.

-Previous times that I did overnighter were typically around 7p.m. to 10a.m. This time it was 6am to around 2:30 p.m. the next day. That's more than a full day.
-I agree that venting about other parents was not appropriate, and since starting this thread, I kept it to myself.
-I did have 2 other opportunities. Why would I lie about that??
-Free meals? Every time I did an overnighter for this family, I never received 'free meals' other than pizza or some other take out the parents ordered for the kids and there was extra. I am not needy. I could eat at home and be perfectly fine. I don't sit for any families that even offer me meal money for the times I am working, and it has never bothered me because half the time I just brought my own food. Really, that's laughable that I would sit for free meals and snacks...
-he is 15 months. Mom calls him baby, so I do as well. Yes, he has a 3 hour nap during the day, which of course gives me free time but that doesn't mean that he is so easy as to me being able to do everything I want.
- $275 - or 310 until 6p.m.- for one day does not mean I would have charged that amount for 5 days, so then $1500. To me, that was an amount that worked because it was one day.

I don't give a shit if I lost 'brownie points.' I work with plenty of families that I decline on a regular basis so I won't be out of work if she decided not to us me anymore.

[Anonymous]

I dont charge for being there overnight. I only charge my waking hours. I actually cut my families I nanny for a break and charge more than regular rate but less than overtime.

I also only charge other families for hours I am awake.

[Anonymous]

Charging your regular rate for hours the kids are awake and then a flat fee for the rest of the night (if they sleep through the night) is very common. The flat rate is generally anywhere from $50-100, most do $50-75. For me, that rate would be about (maybe slightly less than) 1/3 of my usual hourly rate for sleeping hours. Since I cannot leave the house for anything during this time, it is completely reasonable to have that rate in place.

Overnights are not cheap. There is a reason for that, because someone is giving up all of their free/personal time, leaving the comfort of their own home and doing a double/triple shift with your children. Most nannies don't charge OT when legally they would be within their right to do so.

If you want to take off over night without children for whatever reason, it's going to cost you. You were the ones that made the choice to have children, so you can't expect to just hand them over to someone else for the whole night for $20. It's not a dog, you are not having someone just come over while you are gone to feed it and take it for a walk or 2.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Charging your regular rate for hours the kids are awake and then a flat fee for the rest of the night (if they sleep through the night) is very common. The flat rate is generally anywhere from $50-100, most do $50-75. For me, that rate would be about (maybe slightly less than) 1/3 of my usual hourly rate for sleeping hours. Since I cannot leave the house for anything during this time, it is completely reasonable to have that rate in place.

Overnights are not cheap. There is a reason for that, because someone is giving up all of their free/personal time, leaving the comfort of their own home and doing a double/triple shift with your children. Most nannies don't charge OT when legally they would be within their right to do so.

If you want to take off over night without children for whatever reason, it's going to cost you. You were the ones that made the choice to have children, so you can't expect to just hand them over to someone else for the whole night for $20. It's not a dog, you are not having someone just come over while you are gone to feed it and take it for a walk or 2.

This is part of why I like being salaried. If my boss needs me overnight (which has happened only a couple of times) I work overnight. She doesn't pay extra. When I go on vacation, however, or need to leave early, come in late, or miss a day (including holidays and when she's away with them), I don't lose out on any money either. It works out, usually in my favor, and there's no need to worry about this stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Charging your regular rate for hours the kids are awake and then a flat fee for the rest of the night (if they sleep through the night) is very common. The flat rate is generally anywhere from $50-100, most do $50-75. For me, that rate would be about (maybe slightly less than) 1/3 of my usual hourly rate for sleeping hours. Since I cannot leave the house for anything during this time, it is completely reasonable to have that rate in place.

Overnights are not cheap. There is a reason for that, because someone is giving up all of their free/personal time, leaving the comfort of their own home and doing a double/triple shift with your children. Most nannies don't charge OT when legally they would be within their right to do so.

If you want to take off over night without children for whatever reason, it's going to cost you. You were the ones that made the choice to have children, so you can't expect to just hand them over to someone else for the whole night for $20. It's not a dog, you are not having someone just come over while you are gone to feed it and take it for a walk or 2.

This is part of why I like being salaried. If my boss needs me overnight (which has happened only a couple of times) I work overnight. She doesn't pay extra. When I go on vacation, however, or need to leave early, come in late, or miss a day (including holidays and when she's away with them), I don't lose out on any money either. It works out, usually in my favor, and there's no need to worry about this stuff.

Well, I get the same benefits as you with being able to take a day off sick, leave a bit early etc without having it affect my pay. But I do charge for overnights, because I am losing out on the rest of my day and my whole night and usually my next morning which I normally don't work. She understands this and pays me accordingly. Even if I didn't get those "benefits", I don't normally take or need that extra time off for stuff and so it definitely wouldn't be "working out in my favor" in the end. It's great for you if you do need that flexibility and it works out for you. It's unreasonable to expect that most nannies would be willing to make that same choice though, to not charge for overnights at all.

[Anonymous]

This is part of why I like being salaried. If my boss needs me overnight (which has happened only a couple of times) I work overnight. She doesn't pay extra. When I go on vacation, however, or need to leave early, come in late, or miss a day (including holidays and when she's away with them), I don't lose out on any money either. It works out, usually in my favor, and there's no need to worry about this stuff.

By law nannies have to be hourly. The IRS is crystal clear on this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Charging your regular rate for hours the kids are awake and then a flat fee for the rest of the night (if they sleep through the night) is very common. The flat rate is generally anywhere from $50-100, most do $50-75. For me, that rate would be about (maybe slightly less than) 1/3 of my usual hourly rate for sleeping hours. Since I cannot leave the house for anything during this time, it is completely reasonable to have that rate in place.

Overnights are not cheap. There is a reason for that, because someone is giving up all of their free/personal time, leaving the comfort of their own home and doing a double/triple shift with your children. Most nannies don't charge OT when legally they would be within their right to do so.

If you want to take off over night without children for whatever reason, it's going to cost you. You were the ones that made the choice to have children, so you can't expect to just hand them over to someone else for the whole night for $20. It's not a dog, you are not having someone just come over while you are gone to feed it and take it for a walk or 2.

This is part of why I like being salaried. If my boss needs me overnight (which has happened only a couple of times) I work overnight. She doesn't pay extra. When I go on vacation, however, or need to leave early, come in late, or miss a day (including holidays and when she's away with them), I don't lose out on any money either. It works out, usually in my favor, and there's no need to worry about this stuff.

Well, I get the same benefits as you with being able to take a day off sick, leave a bit early etc without having it affect my pay. But I do charge for overnights, because I am losing out on the rest of my day and my whole night and usually my next morning which I normally don't work. She understands this and pays me accordingly. Even if I didn't get those "benefits", I don't normally take or need that extra time off for stuff and so it definitely wouldn't be "working out in my favor" in the end. It's great for you if you do need that flexibility and it works out for you. It's unreasonable to expect that most nannies would be willing to make that same choice though, to not charge for overnights at all.

Same here. Get paid on a salary, but if I need to take off for appointments, etc I am still paid if I do overnighters or extra hours of care beyond my normal schedule.