I said "I Love You" and I REALLY Meant It.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My children adore our nanny, and she loves them right back. I don't have a problem with this or with either of them saying it to the other. But I do think that the nature of nannying means boundaries are difficult sometimes. For instance, our nanny is leaving soon to go back to Australia where she's from and I'm sure her departure is going to be devastating all around. Nonetheless, I've noticed a theme developing where she tries to imply that they prefer her to me, and even challenging them directly if they say they missed me or were looking for me when they got home. It's bizarre and inappropriate and indicates an insecurity on her part that requires her to feel indispensable.

I bet if you bounced your perceptions off another trusted adult, I'd find you may be misinterpreting the situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would willingly tell a child in my care that I loved him or her; it would be sincere. I realize that the love I feel for that child is not the same type of love that his mother feels for him, but the same would be true of family friends or aunts or whomever. Don't you want your caretaker to love your children?

MBs?

[Anonymous]

As a nanny, I do care so deeply for all the charges I've had over the years, but when they have said "I love you" I have always said "aww! Thank you! You are so sweet!" I would never say I love you to them, because I am not a constant in their lives and won't be around forever. I would rather thank them for their sweetness than scar them later with abandonment issues. A professional nanny would know not to form unhealthy attachments for the sake of the child that you are getting paid to take care of.

[Anonymous]

As a nanny, I say, "I love you" to my charges all the time. This MB is nuts and a very jealous/possessive woman. My little charge says "I love you" to me, his stuffed animals, his dog, his parents and siblings, his grandparents, aunts and uncles (some he has only met once) and his nursery school teachers!

"I love you" doesn't mean "I'm going to be in your life for the rest of your life" since even a parent cannot promise that! Children are full of love and should hear that they are loved and cared for by as many people as possible.

[Anonymous]

I think of nannies as teachers and not substitute mommies. Would anyone not say that the acts of those teachers at Sandy Hook Elementary who shielded the children with their own bodies was not an act of love? One parent of a slain child said that it gave her great comfort that her little boy was found in the arms of a teacher he loved.

When has a child ever been harmed by having people love him?

Get over yourselves jealous mommies. You can never be replaced no matter how great or loved your nanny is.

[Anonymous]

MB here. Our nanny tells our DD she loves her all the time and I can't imagine having a problem with it. The more loving adults my daughter has in her life, the better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB here. Our nanny tells our DD she loves her all the time and I can't imagine having a problem with it. The more loving adults my daughter has in her life, the better.

Thank you.

[Anonymous]

The three girls I nanny for tell me they love me, hug me goodbye, are affectionate etc, and i think it's great! Means I'm doing my job right. They are so full of love, how could I squash that and still claim to enrich their lives?

MB thinks it's cute. The other say she told me the youngest said, "how long do I have with Nanny today? I can't wait for her to come play!" MB is happy they love me and knows i love them right back. I think it makes her feel good to know that.