Nanny with tattoos or piercings...

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Anonymous wrote:That's not that bad moral, not accepting someone with different morals is!!! By keeping someone with tattoos, someone who looks different away from your children and therefor showing them not to accept EVERYONE is teaching discrimination. You could be missing out on knowing some amazing people. Your loss.

I never said I didn't accept them! I said I wouldn't hire an employee to come to my home who has multiple visible tattoos, because I'm teaching my children that destruction of your body in that way is not acceptable in my home. Me employing a nanny who spends 40 hours or more in my home would contradict the morals I teach to my kids on that subject. I have older kids and they know we don't hate others or think any less of others who do things in a different way than we do, however they know what I will and will not allow in my house.

We will just need to agree to disagree. To each their own. I will forever completely disagree. Tattoos are now the norm with over half of American adults having them. It's crazy to me to hold that against someone. Again, your loss for being closed minded.

Fwiw I don't think of you as any less just because I wouldn't hire you. You may be a great person and a great nanny, but you just wouldn't match with my family and that's ok!

Ah, but I think less of you for being such a bigot.

The only bigot I see here is you. I said I didn't think less of you. You however, have made a judgment on me because of my preference in the attributes of caregivers for my children. You can sit back and pretend you make no judgments on anyone for anything ever, but you've surely proven yourself here sweetie...

[Anonymous]

I'm a nanny with a lip ring and two small tattoos (though I'm really itching for a 3/4 sleeve). I've been a nanny for about a decade and the only problem I've run into is with the agency I went though to get my current job. The owner nagged me about my lip ring every time I talked to her until I finally told her "look, even I don't care as much about this lip ring as much as you. But I use it as a test - if a family has a problem with it before getting to know me, they are certainly not the kind of people I want to work for." I went on one interview (through the agency) and when they opened the door, I saw the mom spot the ring and immediately make a disgusted face. It was a nightmare of an interview for a million reasons (on their part) and I told the agency right away I would not be pursuing the position.
But besides that, my employers have all been very accepting of my little body art. Besides my current one, all my MBs have had one or two tattoos of their own. And for what it's worth, I also used to be an overweight nanny (I've lost about 40 lbs in the last year) and never had any problem finding positions. I used to think it was an asset. I figured MBs didn't want hot skinny nannies hanging around their house all day...

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Anonymous wrote:That's not that bad moral, not accepting someone with different morals is!!! By keeping someone with tattoos, someone who looks different away from your children and therefor showing them not to accept EVERYONE is teaching discrimination. You could be missing out on knowing some amazing people. Your loss.

I never said I didn't accept them! I said I wouldn't hire an employee to come to my home who has multiple visible tattoos, because I'm teaching my children that destruction of your body in that way is not acceptable in my home. Me employing a nanny who spends 40 hours or more in my home would contradict the morals I teach to my kids on that subject. I have older kids and they know we don't hate others or think any less of others who do things in a different way than we do, however they know what I will and will not allow in my house.

We will just need to agree to disagree. To each their own. I will forever completely disagree. Tattoos are now the norm with over half of American adults having them. It's crazy to me to hold that against someone. Again, your loss for being closed minded.

Fwiw I don't think of you as any less just because I wouldn't hire you. You may be a great person and a great nanny, but you just wouldn't match with my family and that's ok!

Ah, but I think less of you for being such a bigot.

The only bigot I see here is you. I said I didn't think less of you. You however, have made a judgment on me because of my preference in the attributes of caregivers for my children. You can sit back and pretend you make no judgments on anyone for anything ever, but you've surely proven yourself here sweetie...

New poster here: Being tolerant of intolerance is an incredibly hard thing to do

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I have a tribal Phoenix tattoo on my upper back (easily covered). It's something I picked out when I was 18, thought about it for 2 years, and went ahead with it once I was sure. I picked it in the months following moving out and severing contact from my abusive parents. It means so much to me and is a daily reminder of the best decision I ever made, and yes it will still mean as much when I'm 80. It's not something you would see during an interview, for you judgemental moms out there, so you might accidentally hire me!

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Anonymous wrote:That's not that bad moral, not accepting someone with different morals is!!! By keeping someone with tattoos, someone who looks different away from your children and therefor showing them not to accept EVERYONE is teaching discrimination. You could be missing out on knowing some amazing people. Your loss.

I never said I didn't accept them! I said I wouldn't hire an employee to come to my home who has multiple visible tattoos, because I'm teaching my children that destruction of your body in that way is not acceptable in my home. Me employing a nanny who spends 40 hours or more in my home would contradict the morals I teach to my kids on that subject. I have older kids and they know we don't hate others or think any less of others who do things in a different way than we do, however they know what I will and will not allow in my house.

We will just need to agree to disagree. To each their own. I will forever completely disagree. Tattoos are now the norm with over half of American adults having them. It's crazy to me to hold that against someone. Again, your loss for being closed minded.

Fwiw I don't think of you as any less just because I wouldn't hire you. You may be a great person and a great nanny, but you just wouldn't match with my family and that's ok!

Ah, but I think less of you for being such a bigot.

The only bigot I see here is you. I said I didn't think less of you. You however, have made a judgment on me because of my preference in the attributes of caregivers for my children. You can sit back and pretend you make no judgments on anyone for anything ever, but you've surely proven yourself here sweetie...

New poster here: Being tolerant of intolerance is an incredibly hard thing to do

Not the PP you're arguing with, but I do think your stance is intolerant. If you can't teach your children your morals in the presence of people who aren't exactly like you, I question how good a job you're doing. Will you shield your children from people with different beliefs than yourself/your partner until they turn 18? If the beliefs you're teaching them don't stand up to any questioning or challenging, how founded are said beliefs? Perhaps they are actually weak and unfounded?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:That's not that bad moral, not accepting someone with different morals is!!! By keeping someone with tattoos, someone who looks different away from your children and therefor showing them not to accept EVERYONE is teaching discrimination. You could be missing out on knowing some amazing people. Your loss.

I never said I didn't accept them! I said I wouldn't hire an employee to come to my home who has multiple visible tattoos, because I'm teaching my children that destruction of your body in that way is not acceptable in my home. Me employing a nanny who spends 40 hours or more in my home would contradict the morals I teach to my kids on that subject. I have older kids and they know we don't hate others or think any less of others who do things in a different way than we do, however they know what I will and will not allow in my house.

We will just need to agree to disagree. To each their own. I will forever completely disagree. Tattoos are now the norm with over half of American adults having them. It's crazy to me to hold that against someone. Again, your loss for being closed minded.

Fwiw I don't think of you as any less just because I wouldn't hire you. You may be a great person and a great nanny, but you just wouldn't match with my family and that's ok!

Ah, but I think less of you for being such a bigot.

The only bigot I see here is you. I said I didn't think less of you. You however, have made a judgment on me because of my preference in the attributes of caregivers for my children. You can sit back and pretend you make no judgments on anyone for anything ever, but you've surely proven yourself here sweetie...

New poster here: Being tolerant of intolerance is an incredibly hard thing to do

It's not intolerance....it's choosing who you allow to have an influence on your children. Tattoos pose unhealthy risks to your body and if I don't want my kids to be around someone who has tons of them in their first few years of life than that's MY CHOICE.

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Anonymous wrote:That's not that bad moral, not accepting someone with different morals is!!! By keeping someone with tattoos, someone who looks different away from your children and therefor showing them not to accept EVERYONE is teaching discrimination. You could be missing out on knowing some amazing people. Your loss.

I never said I didn't accept them! I said I wouldn't hire an employee to come to my home who has multiple visible tattoos, because I'm teaching my children that destruction of your body in that way is not acceptable in my home. Me employing a nanny who spends 40 hours or more in my home would contradict the morals I teach to my kids on that subject. I have older kids and they know we don't hate others or think any less of others who do things in a different way than we do, however they know what I will and will not allow in my house.

We will just need to agree to disagree. To each their own. I will forever completely disagree. Tattoos are now the norm with over half of American adults having them. It's crazy to me to hold that against someone. Again, your loss for being closed minded.

Fwiw I don't think of you as any less just because I wouldn't hire you. You may be a great person and a great nanny, but you just wouldn't match with my family and that's ok!

Ah, but I think less of you for being such a bigot.

The only bigot I see here is you. I said I didn't think less of you. You however, have made a judgment on me because of my preference in the attributes of caregivers for my children. You can sit back and pretend you make no judgments on anyone for anything ever, but you've surely proven yourself here sweetie...

This was a new person you were talking to, not me, the person you were having the debate with the whole time. However, I have to kind of agree with them. You are being bigoted.

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Anonymous wrote:That's not that bad moral, not accepting someone with different morals is!!! By keeping someone with tattoos, someone who looks different away from your children and therefor showing them not to accept EVERYONE is teaching discrimination. You could be missing out on knowing some amazing people. Your loss.

I never said I didn't accept them! I said I wouldn't hire an employee to come to my home who has multiple visible tattoos, because I'm teaching my children that destruction of your body in that way is not acceptable in my home. Me employing a nanny who spends 40 hours or more in my home would contradict the morals I teach to my kids on that subject. I have older kids and they know we don't hate others or think any less of others who do things in a different way than we do, however they know what I will and will not allow in my house.

We will just need to agree to disagree. To each their own. I will forever completely disagree. Tattoos are now the norm with over half of American adults having them. It's crazy to me to hold that against someone. Again, your loss for being closed minded.

Fwiw I don't think of you as any less just because I wouldn't hire you. You may be a great person and a great nanny, but you just wouldn't match with my family and that's ok!

Ah, but I think less of you for being such a bigot.

The only bigot I see here is you. I said I didn't think less of you. You however, have made a judgment on me because of my preference in the attributes of caregivers for my children. You can sit back and pretend you make no judgments on anyone for anything ever, but you've surely proven yourself here sweetie...

New poster here: Being tolerant of intolerance is an incredibly hard thing to do

Not the PP you're arguing with, but I do think your stance is intolerant. If you can't teach your children your morals in the presence of people who aren't exactly like you, I question how good a job you're doing. Will you shield your children from people with different beliefs than yourself/your partner until they turn 18? If the beliefs you're teaching them don't stand up to any questioning or challenging, how founded are said beliefs? Perhaps they are actually weak and unfounded?

Of course my kids will grow up seeing people with tattoos/piercings along with unhealthy smokers/drinkers and everything else I don't wish for them! But in their early years I would rather them see people who don't choose behaviors or choices I disapprove of. I would never bash people who choose them, but out of sight out of mind and for the first few years I have them at home I can do that.

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Anonymous wrote:That's not that bad moral, not accepting someone with different morals is!!! By keeping someone with tattoos, someone who looks different away from your children and therefor showing them not to accept EVERYONE is teaching discrimination. You could be missing out on knowing some amazing people. Your loss.

I never said I didn't accept them! I said I wouldn't hire an employee to come to my home who has multiple visible tattoos, because I'm teaching my children that destruction of your body in that way is not acceptable in my home. Me employing a nanny who spends 40 hours or more in my home would contradict the morals I teach to my kids on that subject. I have older kids and they know we don't hate others or think any less of others who do things in a different way than we do, however they know what I will and will not allow in my house.

We will just need to agree to disagree. To each their own. I will forever completely disagree. Tattoos are now the norm with over half of American adults having them. It's crazy to me to hold that against someone. Again, your loss for being closed minded.

Fwiw I don't think of you as any less just because I wouldn't hire you. You may be a great person and a great nanny, but you just wouldn't match with my family and that's ok!

Ah, but I think less of you for being such a bigot.

The only bigot I see here is you. I said I didn't think less of you. You however, have made a judgment on me because of my preference in the attributes of caregivers for my children. You can sit back and pretend you make no judgments on anyone for anything ever, but you've surely proven yourself here sweetie...

New poster here: Being tolerant of intolerance is an incredibly hard thing to do

It's not intolerance....it's choosing who you allow to have an influence on your children. Tattoos pose unhealthy risks to your body and if I don't want my kids to be around someone who has tons of them in their first few years of life than that's MY CHOICE.

It may be your choice, but its an intolerant choice. I think the majority agree here, you are the minority. You are being judgmental, intolerant, and people like you are what is wrong with the world. People like you are the reason there is discrimination and hate in the world.

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Anonymous wrote:That's not that bad moral, not accepting someone with different morals is!!! By keeping someone with tattoos, someone who looks different away from your children and therefor showing them not to accept EVERYONE is teaching discrimination. You could be missing out on knowing some amazing people. Your loss.

I never said I didn't accept them! I said I wouldn't hire an employee to come to my home who has multiple visible tattoos, because I'm teaching my children that destruction of your body in that way is not acceptable in my home. Me employing a nanny who spends 40 hours or more in my home would contradict the morals I teach to my kids on that subject. I have older kids and they know we don't hate others or think any less of others who do things in a different way than we do, however they know what I will and will not allow in my house.

We will just need to agree to disagree. To each their own. I will forever completely disagree. Tattoos are now the norm with over half of American adults having them. It's crazy to me to hold that against someone. Again, your loss for being closed minded.

Fwiw I don't think of you as any less just because I wouldn't hire you. You may be a great person and a great nanny, but you just wouldn't match with my family and that's ok!

Ah, but I think less of you for being such a bigot.

The only bigot I see here is you. I said I didn't think less of you. You however, have made a judgment on me because of my preference in the attributes of caregivers for my children. You can sit back and pretend you make no judgments on anyone for anything ever, but you've surely proven yourself here sweetie...

New poster here: Being tolerant of intolerance is an incredibly hard thing to do

It's not intolerance....it's choosing who you allow to have an influence on your children. Tattoos pose unhealthy risks to your body and if I don't want my kids to be around someone who has tons of them in their first few years of life than that's MY CHOICE.

It may be your choice, but its an intolerant choice. I think the majority agree here, you are the minority. You are being judgmental, intolerant, and people like you are what is wrong with the world. People like you are the reason there is discrimination and hate in the world.

Haha, okay. You have a nice evening. And maybe take all of that tolerance you have and use it on people like me. Those that are ALL THAT'S WRONG WITH THE WORLD!

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Anonymous wrote:That's not that bad moral, not accepting someone with different morals is!!! By keeping someone with tattoos, someone who looks different away from your children and therefor showing them not to accept EVERYONE is teaching discrimination. You could be missing out on knowing some amazing people. Your loss.

I never said I didn't accept them! I said I wouldn't hire an employee to come to my home who has multiple visible tattoos, because I'm teaching my children that destruction of your body in that way is not acceptable in my home. Me employing a nanny who spends 40 hours or more in my home would contradict the morals I teach to my kids on that subject. I have older kids and they know we don't hate others or think any less of others who do things in a different way than we do, however they know what I will and will not allow in my house.

We will just need to agree to disagree. To each their own. I will forever completely disagree. Tattoos are now the norm with over half of American adults having them. It's crazy to me to hold that against someone. Again, your loss for being closed minded.

Fwiw I don't think of you as any less just because I wouldn't hire you. You may be a great person and a great nanny, but you just wouldn't match with my family and that's ok!

Ah, but I think less of you for being such a bigot.

The only bigot I see here is you. I said I didn't think less of you. You however, have made a judgment on me because of my preference in the attributes of caregivers for my children. You can sit back and pretend you make no judgments on anyone for anything ever, but you've surely proven yourself here sweetie...

New poster here: Being tolerant of intolerance is an incredibly hard thing to do

It's not intolerance....it's choosing who you allow to have an influence on your children. Tattoos pose unhealthy risks to your body and if I don't want my kids to be around someone who has tons of them in their first few years of life than that's MY CHOICE.

It may be your choice, but its an intolerant choice. I think the majority agree here, you are the minority. You are being judgmental, intolerant, and people like you are what is wrong with the world. People like you are the reason there is discrimination and hate in the world.

I have literally zero hate in my heart. But it seems like you may have some for me, and those like me, no?

[Anonymous]

Like a poster said a while ago, it is very hard to be tolerant of intolerance. I can't be tolerant of sheltering children from others who are different in appearance and teaching young children intolerance.

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Anonymous wrote:Like a poster said a while ago, it is very hard to be tolerant of intolerance. I can't be tolerant of sheltering children from others who are different in appearance and teaching young children intolerance.

Having a tattoo is not a difference in appearance. It's a choice.

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Anonymous wrote:Like a poster said a while ago, it is very hard to be tolerant of intolerance. I can't be tolerant of sheltering children from others who are different in appearance and teaching young children intolerance.

Having a tattoo is not a difference in appearance. It's a choice.

It's not like a weight/height difference, hair or eye color difference, or even a race difference. It's a bold choice that YOU make and YOU risk being discriminated against. Don't act like a victim please. While I have no problem with tattoos and even have a small one myself, please don't try to compare this to say racial discrimination.

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Anonymous wrote:Like a poster said a while ago, it is very hard to be tolerant of intolerance. I can't be tolerant of sheltering children from others who are different in appearance and teaching young children intolerance.

Having a tattoo is not a difference in appearance. It's a choice.

So? Its being tolerant of the persons choice of appearance. If you do not have enough faith in how well you have raised your children to follow your guidance, regardless of who they are around, then you are not doing a good job as a parent. Like a previous poster said, Will you shield your children from people with different beliefs than yourself/your partner until they turn 18? If the beliefs you're teaching them don't stand up to any questioning or challenging, how founded are said beliefs? Perhaps they are actually weak and unfounded?" A nanny who just happens to have tattoos may be the best influence you children would ever have.